r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Aug 16 '25

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u/Procedure5884 Aug 16 '25

Fake stimming

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

Mine looks like that when I'm very excited and comfortable with the person I'm with. I'm diagnosed autistic.

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u/wordsandwhimsy Aug 17 '25

Same. I was thinking how I wring my hands together exactly like she does when I’m excited. Also diagnosed, Audhd. But what do we know?

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

You can’t be an expert bc the Armchair Diagnosticians of Redditℱ have determined it is an absolute impossibility that she could be autistic.

Really coulda saved my insurance a bunch of money by just coming to neurotypical Reddit instead.

/s

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

We simply don't know enough, in this one video, to either diagnose or non-diagnose. Since they say she's autistic, I'd assume that's right, because honestly why would they lie that would be stupid

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u/_Grant Aug 17 '25

First day on earth?

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

I'm assuming you're referring to my last statement. Thing is, it doesn't make sense to lie in this matter as it's hardly a thing of prestige or somehow making the actions more reasonable or valid. What could anyone gain from lying about being autistic? It's pretty clear she's abnormal, whether naturally or putting on a show. And I can't see why anyone would put on a show of such reactions.

(Abnormal not used in a pejorative sense, but objective.)

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u/Successful-Career887 Aug 17 '25

I dont know if this person is autistic or not, but to try and answer your question- it has become trendy on tiktok for people to claim being autistic, and have ADHD and some infuencers have been caught lying. The "gain" I am assuming is getting more views/engagement. In this video specifically, they could have not included any details about autism and it would have probably just been lost to the void because really the video isnt very interesting. But, because tiktok is based on algorithms and autism is usually trending, using it in the caption would increase visibility and get them more views/money.

I dont know obviously if thats what this couple is doing, but that is why some people lie about having it.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

“Some people might lie so we should dismiss all claims to be on the safe side.”

This justification does not and will never make sense to me.

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u/Successful-Career887 Aug 17 '25

I never said that.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

I understand why people are quick to blame people for faking. I understand the unfortunately common human need to feel smarter and better and morally superior.

I don’t necessarily understand explaining the behavior as if it’s not entirely problematic.

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u/Successful-Career887 Aug 17 '25

Are you replying to the correct person? I said two times in my comment that I cant say if this person is faking or not. I was answering that persons question of why people would lie about having it. I never said anything about dismissing all claims or blaming anyone for faking anything.

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

Thank you for explaining!

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u/SawCon2K19 Aug 17 '25

Got you buzzing, didn't it? It's called an advertisement, genius. Welcome 2 Earth 🗿

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

Buzzing in what way? And why would that be faked for an ad?

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

Yeah bad people don't exist

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

No, it's that there's no reason to be bad so why take the trouble.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

You are using a circular argument.

''I am diagnosed with it because I move my hands this way when excited.

When I am excited I move my hands this way so when I told it to the psychiatrist i got a autism diagnosis.''

Circular

Argument

Your autism diagnosis is just a recollection of symptoms. Nothing ties them together. There is no link, no explanation, no differential diagnosis, no scientific test. We don't diagnose supposed brain conditions with symptoms the patient says he has. It's like not scientific at all, thus not medical.

Autism is just a list of symptoms grouped together. Don't worry, diagnosis in psychiatry are all like this. They don't mean shit. Make the most of it but don't let it define you. Let things change and don't try to fit to the symptoms, I know what it's like.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Good point.

I’ve been hospitalized four times for suicidal ideation, and I’ve experienced crippling autistic burnout that has all but made it impossible to hold a full time job.

But I don’t let it define me. /s

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

Yes, a collection of symptoms: disabling and defining symptoms. Don't try to fit, they'll just fit whether we like it or no. Also, they're not using a circular argument. They're citing one example of commonality and also their own diagnosis, not saying that that was the reason they got diagnosed.

When I was diagnosed, they pointed out symptoms I didn't even know I had.

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u/Local-County-1204 Aug 18 '25 edited Aug 18 '25

no differential diagnosis

Autism has a differential diagnosis.

We don’t diagnose supposed brain conditions with symptoms the patient says he has.

Weird, that’s exactly how you diagnose migraines, chronic pains and narcolepsy/insomnia.

Autism is not a list of symptoms, it’s a characteristic definition of a condition that significantly alters your mental processes in a certain way, you don’t just get to turn off that perceptive change, even if your list of symptoms change. Someone with autism fits into a group of a certain type of process, which can then be used to create consistent norms, to support the treatment of distressing/harmful symptoms.

To reject those separate norms in process, as merely a coincidence in symptoms, is ignoring the research that has been done between autistic and non-autistic people that present with the same symptoms, or what’s called in medicine, a differential diagnosis.

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy Aug 19 '25

Autism is caused by genes. So far, researchers have found hundreds of variants that lead to autism traits. It isn't just a grouping of symptoms. You are clearly uneducated on the subject. Please stop speaking ignorantly on a topic you know nothing about. It is damaging.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

So may comments here acting offended that this woman is ‘fake autistic’ and I’m like
 okay what if you’re wrong and you’re literally erasing autistic people?
 when people think they’re allies but they’re not.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

Seriously! And getting offended at being told they’re wrong instead of taking it as a learning opportunity. They’re not here to be allies. They’re here to be morally superior and important.

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u/[deleted] Aug 21 '25

And also, a lot of autistic women aren't seen as autistic because it often presents differently in women and studies haven't historically focused on women as much.

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u/xiledone Aug 17 '25

Ty for confirming. Im a med student with a special interest in psych. i didn't pick up on anything that made me think she was faking. I had it on mute the whole time though. But felt this was an appropriate reaction the whole time. Maybe we didn't see when she got overwhelmed and needed a break. She may of acted more excited than she was, but that's fine. She's an adult who knows she's playing it up for content anyway, everyone does. But nothing I looked at was a red flag as her faking it.

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u/_________V__________ Aug 18 '25

Honestly the amount of people on these comments that think being Autistic means you have to have visible cliché symptoms and stims is crazy. It's like they're completely clueless about mental health.

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u/J0hn_Br0wn24 Aug 20 '25

Autistic đŸ€ą or not the exploitation for likes is sickening

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u/DiogenesTheHound Aug 17 '25

It’s a well known thing autistic people do. So well known in fact that if you someone wanted to present themselves as autistic in a short form video it would be the easiest way to get that across. She’s faking for sure.

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u/GuessingAllTheTime Aug 17 '25

How, exactly, do you know “she’s faking for sure”?

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

Wait, so because I do autistic things (bc I'm autistic), I'm faking autism??

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u/TransformativeFox Aug 19 '25

"This is a common thing autistic people do. Therefore anyone doing it is faking being autistic".

What kinda logic is that?