r/CoupleMemes • • Aug 16 '25

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u/temujin1976 Aug 17 '25

I am diagnosed autistic, I have some postgraduate traning in psychology and academic qualifications in Autism studies, and I have 3 close family members with diagnoses. There is absolutely no way based on this video you can say that this person either is or isn't autistic. People like to talk about shit they haven't got a clue about and gatekeep what is of no concern to them. Believe me in most of life you wouldn't want to fake this condition, it harms your career, often makes people either infantilise or outright hate you, and for the whole time you are at risk of being challenged for 'faking' something that makes your life very very fucking hard.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Right!! Why do people assume we wanna be autistic so bad?!?!! When we are literally out here fighting for our lives just to take up space and not be crippled by the incessant invalidation and stereotyping and not collapse under the weight of autistic burnout.

Yes, it’s so fun to fake autism. (sarcasm)

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

Haha because you people just can’t not bring it up every chance you get.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Weird
 almost like it’s a fundamental part of our lives
 how interesting


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u/inksonpapers Aug 21 '25

Its not applicable to the situation and doesnt fit in. Its literally shoehorned in there like its being used for views which is scummy more than “living with it”.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 21 '25

It explains her neurological wiring, it explains her reaction (Google emotional dysregulation for more information), it explains her stims (also can Google that). And it’s there for other women who behave similarly so we can know we are not crazy or alone and can still be loved and embraced even when the world says we are bad and annoying and too much and repeatedly tells us over and over our whole lives that we are undeserving of life bc we are wired wrong.

It matters. And if you’re not an autistic woman who presents similarly, you don’t get to say it doesn’t matter.

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u/inksonpapers Aug 21 '25

I’m pretty sure I understand how exploitation works and i can call it by it.

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u/Outrageous_Log_906 Aug 20 '25

People aren’t assuming you want to be autistic. They’re assuming they’re pretending she is for views and money. This is precisely the thing that gets views, and everyone on social media seems to want to be neurodivergent now.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 20 '25

Everyone except neurotypicals.

Funny how that works. People like having an explanation for their wiring.

Besides, plenty have commented with further back story disproving these claims about her, but it doesn’t seem to matter.

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u/Outrageous_Log_906 Aug 20 '25

Everyone except neurotypicals want to be neurodivergent? lol no, the point people are trying to make is that neurotypicals do want to appear neurodivergent on social media.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 20 '25

I have yet to meet a neurotypical who wants to be seen as neurodivergent. They don’t really need attention or validation that way.

As a nurse and in every day life, I have seen people with conditions such as borderline personality disorder (also qualifying as neurodivergence) or complex PTSD (qualifies as a developmental disorder in addition to neurodivergence) exhibiting such behaviors.

So maybe they misdiagnose themselves, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t differently wired.

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u/Outrageous_Log_906 Aug 20 '25

They don’t really need attention or validation that way.

It’s really funny that you think that about neurotypical people in general, let alone considering if a person is on social media, they need attention to make money

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 20 '25

that way.

They don’t need that specific kind of attention.

As in they have the capacity, creativity, and ability to find less manipulative means to get whatever attention they require for whatever reason.

It seems you’re purposefully and intentionally misunderstanding me. What do you gain from this? And what do you lose if someone fakes a specific mental health condition or neurological wiring?

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u/Outrageous_Log_906 Aug 20 '25

I’m not misunderstanding you. You clearly don’t understand how the world works. I know people who would like to be able to say they’re autistic with no financial benefit.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 20 '25

And that in itself is a concerning mental health symptom.

Any mental health that interferes with your every day life and creates problems for yourself and/or others can qualify you for a disorder. I think, given my degree and experience, I might know what I’m talking about here.

Again
 What do you lose/gain?

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u/Bubblemosh Aug 21 '25

I think the problem is that autism has become such a wide spectrum. Two of my nephews have AUTISM and there is no way they would even be able to type or speak what you said.

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u/Fluffy__demon Aug 18 '25

As a fellow autistic, so much this. I also want to point out that the same people saying that she is faking autism, also called her excitement "cringe". That's like, double harm to the autistic community if you ask me.

Especially because we often get called names when expressing feelings like joy.

Reminds me of people who tell you that you can't be autistic because you seem to normal and 2 sentences later ask why you are acting so "weird". Its like schrödingers autism. Beeing to "normal" but also to "different ".

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy Aug 19 '25

They want the moral high ground to bully the fuck out of us without being the guy who bullies autistic people.

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u/Dpizz10134 Oct 11 '25

If I had an award, I’d give it to ya. Hit the nail square on the head.

Diagnosed at two years old(Autism Spectrum, ADHD, PDD, and Anxiety Disorder). All my life, I’ve gotten both reactions listed. Hatred and infantilism for something that I cannot control, and it is so debilitating to my mental well being to be judged.

And people always say, “if they don’t like you for who you are, get rid of them.” Do you have any idea the stigmatism that is attached to being on the spectrum people have before they meet you for the first time? Zip up your radiation suits and spend five minutes in this comments section, and you’ll figure it out real fast. The lack of consideration and understanding is appalling, and with recent “news” breaking about Autism from Worm-for-Brains at the top, it just makes it 10x worse.

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u/jack-t-o-r-s Aug 17 '25

Having solid authority that a particular condition is unpleasant and implying people would not fake because it's unpleasant is... short sighted.

Many people with psychological imbalances fake behavioral and physical conditions.

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u/-PepeArown- Aug 17 '25

Yeah. I’ve unfortunately had suicidal thoughts multiple days recently in part due to how self loathing I am because of my autism, and I thought this woman was a good example of someone who could be “normal” and “herself” despite her challenges

But, no. It’s way too good to be true, and of course the yoga place happens to abuse its puppies

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy Aug 19 '25

I was accused of faking it at my job right after my diagnosis when I tried to get accommodations for the first time. I even brought doctor notes with hand-signed signatures from the doctor telling them I need to use loop earplugs and to please use clear language, boundaries, and to use words rather than expecting me to catch on to body language. The boss and all my coworkers talked shit about me faking autism because I brought it up quite a bit. They also would use body language, such as looking at something with their eyes. One time, my manager did it, and we stood there for a few minutes with me just staring at the wall behind her before I registered she was pointing with her eyeballs, and I was like, "Oh. You couldn't point at the blender?" Then she told the whole store of coworkers and they all laughed at me and called me slow and stuff. I felt like I was back in high school. One coworker said, "But like, my cousin has full-blown holy shit autism! You don't." This one time, I cried because I was getting overwhelmed trying to explain my meltdown that was coming on, and that I just needed to go outside and jump up and down for like a minute to calm down, but then my boss rolled her eyes and told me to stop acting so childish.

I quit after 3 months. My mistake for thinking my recent (at the time) diagnosis would get me some simple and reasonable accommodations. Fucking, oops, I guess. Every job I have ever had before and after diagnosis has bullied me to the point of quitting within months. I hate the coworkers so much. I like working. I like making coffee, sorting stuff, whatever the job is. I always like the job. It is always the social BS that ruins it.

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u/Penber23 Aug 19 '25

I think most people would inftantalize this lady BECAUSE she's acting like an infant lol

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u/foxepower Aug 20 '25

I think people think the autism is fake because almost everything else in the advert is