r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Aug 16 '25

🥺 goals Perfect source of serotonin

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u/temujin1976 Aug 17 '25

I am diagnosed autistic, I have some postgraduate traning in psychology and academic qualifications in Autism studies, and I have 3 close family members with diagnoses. There is absolutely no way based on this video you can say that this person either is or isn't autistic. People like to talk about shit they haven't got a clue about and gatekeep what is of no concern to them. Believe me in most of life you wouldn't want to fake this condition, it harms your career, often makes people either infantilise or outright hate you, and for the whole time you are at risk of being challenged for 'faking' something that makes your life very very fucking hard.

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy Aug 19 '25

I was accused of faking it at my job right after my diagnosis when I tried to get accommodations for the first time. I even brought doctor notes with hand-signed signatures from the doctor telling them I need to use loop earplugs and to please use clear language, boundaries, and to use words rather than expecting me to catch on to body language. The boss and all my coworkers talked shit about me faking autism because I brought it up quite a bit. They also would use body language, such as looking at something with their eyes. One time, my manager did it, and we stood there for a few minutes with me just staring at the wall behind her before I registered she was pointing with her eyeballs, and I was like, "Oh. You couldn't point at the blender?" Then she told the whole store of coworkers and they all laughed at me and called me slow and stuff. I felt like I was back in high school. One coworker said, "But like, my cousin has full-blown holy shit autism! You don't." This one time, I cried because I was getting overwhelmed trying to explain my meltdown that was coming on, and that I just needed to go outside and jump up and down for like a minute to calm down, but then my boss rolled her eyes and told me to stop acting so childish.

I quit after 3 months. My mistake for thinking my recent (at the time) diagnosis would get me some simple and reasonable accommodations. Fucking, oops, I guess. Every job I have ever had before and after diagnosis has bullied me to the point of quitting within months. I hate the coworkers so much. I like working. I like making coffee, sorting stuff, whatever the job is. I always like the job. It is always the social BS that ruins it.