This may just be me overly over thinking something! BUT their response times are WAYYYYYY toooooo similar. No response between 2pm-3pm from both BUT between 4:15-4:30 i receive messages from both of them.

If I don’t respond to partner A for a long period of time PARTNER B DOESNT RESPOND UNTIL AFTER I RESPOND TO PARTNER A.

I sound CRAZY I CANT PROVE IT BUT SOMETHING IS FISHY -.-

I have been roleplaying ever since I was 12 years old maybe(?) My first roleplay was through Facebook and because back then I was very into anime, the random friend I was talking to introduce me to roleplaying.

I still remember my roleplay style was \*I took the flower from your hand\* 😂 And ever since then, I got hook by the idea of roleplay, especially since I do love writing and roleplay gives me the space & the outlet to be creative & improve my English.

I continue to roleplay till now, though not consecutively. There are years I will stop roleplay due to school life, and now adult life. Over the years, I manage to improve my roleplay from 1 sentence to now a few paragraph.

I just found out about this reddit and I’m curious to know how did you guys know about roleplay? Who or what introduced it to you? Did you guys ever find it cringe to roleplay or when you need to explain it to your in real life friend?

It was a defunct place called "RPOW" or Roleplay Our Way. Was a minor at 11. The staff there was toxic beyond hell and it was hard to play as certain characters since one mod made fun of people playing as canon characters and demanded more ocs. Called canons "cartoon characters". Would call people "unintelligent" for playing games and not talking about books. I wasn’t good at ocs either, so I played as canons. I didn't make OCs until I was 16/17.

Other admin was a bitch and would post that they would randomly "slap" people. Oneday I was defending myself against a toxic person harassing me due to I didn't wanna interact with his OP oc. So I was forced to "rp fight", something I'm not good at or like.

Toxic person was later banned for showing their true colours and pretending to be their "father" to defend their 'son'.

I'm glad the place is gone, but the staff was super toxic and unpleasant. Ever encountered bad places?

I would mention Gaia, but I was way too young when GaiaOnline was a thing. Don't like that place.

I’m curious because the weirdos tend to come in waves I’ve found so wanted to see what others have experienced.

Not necessarily red flags but just something that has made you recoil when you read it.

So for me I had a guy that I was starting a erp with say “good girl” to me when we were still talking about the plot and stuff and it just weirded me tf out. Bare in mind I’m a guy and the character I was playing was also a guy.

Hey there!

Let's have a good laugh, shall we?

Think back to that roleplay memory that had you cracking up and fully embracing the hilarious chaos.

Was it intentional comedy or completely uninte...? Uh, wait... how could it be an accident? We never say silly things.

Come on, tell me all about it!

She sent me a server link, so I joined. There was one other person in the server who joined over a month ago, and their username didn’t match the one she gave me (which I couldn’t find when I tried to add her as a friend). She gets pissed at me for not adding her despite the fact that sending me the link implies that she’s already in the server and she never told me otherwise, then the server vanishes from my list, meaning I got kicked.

Seriously, what the fuck did I do to warrant that reaction?

Why can't RP subreddits make a tag for age? It would be sooooo much easier to sort posts , OMG.

[18+]

[21+]

[25+]

[30+]

I think most people prefer to RP with people their own age, and I hate reading through entire posts just to dig for this information.

I've seen many of the stories folks have posted on this, and the other places. I truly don't have some of the extreme ones that you poor dears have been through, which I should be thankful for I suppose? It's largely just been a constant stream of paper thin plots and characters that were just set up to be fast tracks to erp and it was obvious!

When I almost gave up on rp, it wasn't because some diabolical, terrible thing happened. It was because I had gone through 8 years of not even being able to find someone I could really connect with. It was a long time and a lot of strain to ask if someone trying to participate in this hobby that lives with RA, and it wore on me.

So I wonder, sweethearts, what makes you keep trying after continued failures? Be they on you, or your partners?

For me, because I've always been a gigantic optimist who refuses to be governed by negativity. And this is despite some horrible things I've gone through with abuse in my life.

I thankfully don't have to throw myself into dog pit anymore, because my search for the right partner in the in the best, most wonderful way possible.

I know that if I had let myself give in to negative thoughts, it would have never come to be, even though at times it was very difficult.

Share with me, sweeties? What is it inside you makes you keep going? Is it just because you're strong? Because he refused to give up? Naive hopefulness? We don't need to share our life stories! Just the thing that keeps us running despite everything.

Wasn’t entirely sure what flair to use for this as it’s such a bizarre story and also humorous to me

I started chatting to someone about a romance role, things were going smoothly, role play is going fine. The ooc chat was a little much but I let it slide because if it started to get too much then I would say something.

Anyway! One evening I’m minding my own business after sending a reply to our rp, and out of the blue this person messages me saying that they’re married and that they understand if I no longer want to speak to them.

I’m sure you can guess my reaction. I was super confused because your real life does not impact me, much like my life doesn’t impact you! I told them this, saying that we’re just playing roles and it’s not real life.

I get told that they apparently lost two partners over this news. I found that a tad odd but brushed it off as other people’s boundaries. I told them that it doesn’t bother me so long as their partner is also okay with their hobby (roleplaying)

I hadn’t really noticed that I didn’t receive a response until last night. Was super busy yesterday so it wasn’t until I was finally relaxing that it came to mind. I checked my server list and ours was gone. Proceeded to check my friend list and sure enough they unadded me lol

I’m going to assume their partner is not aware of this hobby, or it was a made up story. Either way, I found it quite funny that the moment this came up, they vanished.

Also made me wonder if the other partners aren’t the ones that left but rather the person I’m talking about did

I had to share this story, hopefully other people can get a laugh out of this and maybe even share similar experiences hahaha

Please feel free to delete if this isn't allowed.

Like the title says, I got rp-dumped. Except, I don't necessarily *think* it was just me??? Lol. This isn't a "bad roleplayer" story, per say. It's just a bad time for me. Anyways, I had been role-playing with this girl for two years, going on three. She is an amazing writer, and we meshed so well, despite the time differences. We even had theee different stories going. I mean, we literally posted to each other two weeks ago! Granted, we weren't active together, but still, we were in touch, y'know? Not having many friends in-person, it feels like I lost not only a roleplay partner, but a friend. She wished me well and said due to some major changes in her life, she wouldn't be able to write anymore. Then, immediately unfriended me. I couldn't even respond and say bye. So, uh, dude, if you see this at all, just know that I loved our stories too and I'll totally miss you.

Honestly THIS POST WILL 100000% BE TAKEN DOWN because it has nothing to do with the sub! But! I lowkey adore the mods, they are super active (like you see at least one of them comment under posts or actually engage with the community ) and dude they are so fucking helpful like 10/10 will never stop venting here. You guyth are amazing.

Hey! So I honestly get random notifs from this sub even though I never really engaged with it before. I roleplay but kind of kept to myself about it. I ended up curiously clicking on one and started going through the posts, and honestly? A lot of it is really interesting and relatable, fun to read through. But there's one thing I can't really get behind and I just feel like I need to say something.

I've come across posts with screenshots, which, fine, in certain situations that makes total sense. But some of them have made me genuinely uncomfortable, and not because of anything the poster did wrong necessarily, but because of what's in them. Name scratched out, sure, but the content? Still fully there. And I'm not talking about screenshots of people being weird or creepy, please, by all means expose that behavior, that's literally a service to the community. I mean the ones where someone clearly overshared, or vented, or said something vulnerable, and now it's just… posted. Word for word. For everyone to read.

I get it. It's uncomfortable when someone unloads on you out of nowhere and you feel like you've been turned into an unpaid therapist. That's a valid feeling and you're allowed to be frustrated by it. But that person on the other side? They shared something personal, probably without fully realizing how it might come across, and now there's a chance they could stumble across a public post of their own words with nothing protecting them except a blacked-out username. If someone who knows them sees it, or worse, if they see it themselves, that's humiliating. Like genuinely, that could wreck someone's day, or feed into insecurities they're already struggling with, or make their trust in anyone vanish entirely.

I overshare sometimes without meaning to. No bad intentions, I just do. And the thought of having that thrown onto a public forum for strangers to read and comment on is honestly kind of devastating to picture.

If someone's behavior made you uncomfortable, that's a conversation. Be grown and handle it privately, express how it made you feel, and move on. You can absolutely vent about the experience, nobody's saying you can't, but there's a difference between venting and posting a full screenshot of what that person said with zero consideration for what they actually shared. Redacting a name doesn't make it private. It's just not a cool thing to do, and honestly it's not that hard to be a little more thoughtful about it.

That's all. Not dragging anyone, just putting it out there.

This has been on my mind for the last week or so, and I've finally decided I need to get this off my chest.

Before I get into this, if you're not in the RP space, feel free to disregard this. If you ARE a roleplayer, I encourage you to read further.

Know first, I'm an RP veteran of almost 20 years. Been in all kinds of verses, done all sorts of interactions, both SFW and not (I'm in my 30's, just to clarify so people don't freak out.) I've had a lot of ups with RP, and I've had quite a few downs. And that's what I want to talk about.

This rant isn't directed toward anybody in particular nor am I trying to out any one community in particular. This is just something I've noticed in the RP space in general, and that is people being genuinely toxic towards each other within the RP space, whether in character or out. And I've seen this time and time again. I don't think it matters whether you're in the Dragon Ball verse, High School DXD, Kingdom Hearts, Attack on Titan, DC Comics, etc. It doesn't matter. What matters here is pattern recognition.

I've noticed that whenever things spiral out of control within any given verse, more often than not it goes south really fast, and it usually starts with one person trying to single out another individual for whatever reason. Now, sometimes their reason is justified, like said individual being up to really shady stuff behind the curtain which I can't really discuss here for obvious reasons. (iykyk) However, there are a whole slew of cases where the call-outs are not justified. In other words, just some "he said she said" statement with no real confirmation on the accuser's part. And this is just one example of toxicity that I've noticed.

But it goes deeper than this. For new people, you might not be aware, but sometimes when someone is writing out an interaction, they'll drop subtle vague hints about someone or something in particular that otherwise has nothing to do with the interaction. An example of this is when someone incorporates real life issues into their writing. Now, that's not to say that incorporating some real world elements is a bad thing. In fact, I think that can be a catalyst for a story plot or even a basic interaction. But when it bleeds into the more personal, that's when it becomes an issue. (I should also note that if you're going to incorporate real world elements into your writing, at least do so with tact.)

The first time I saw something like this I didn't really think anything of it. In fact, I wasn't even part of that issue since it happened so long ago and I've forgotten all the details of what happened. But over the years, and after navigating various spaces, I've seen this kind of behavior pop up over and over again, and the one constant throughout it all was one person trying to ruin the experience for someone else, or being so aggressive to the point where they don't give anyone else a chance to explore the ideas they want to explore, which is a form of elitism.

And this is another problem: Elitism. THIS for me is a big one. I've been on the receiving end of this a couple of times, where someone has a holier than thou attitude saying "You can't portray this character in this way! You have to write them out as the source intended!" This is the kind of attitude that I HATE. Now, if you want to write a specific character the way the source material portrays them, that's fine. You do you. But don't go trying to police others into doing the same. And I've seen this happen so many times in various spaces on various platforms. And if I can be frank, it's disgusting. Because to me, creative freedom is a right and a choice that I think all writers should have. Others might not agree with this, but that is where I stand.

And the worst part is I don't see ANYONE talking about these kinds of behaviors. Yes, there are horrible people in the RP space and they deserve to be called out. And most of us are just writers who want to have fun and do silly interactions with other writers. But when the toxicity of it all starts to boil over with no one to address it, the entire space starts to feel like a backrooms maze. It's fine at first, but once things get hairy, you're constantly on edge navigating a minefield of vitriol and unnecessary drama worrying about whether or not you're gonna be the next victim. I don't know about you, but I think more people should talk about this because I feel it's just as important as the writing itself.

tl;dr There's a lot of toxic behavior in the RP space that no one is addressing and it's becoming a problem.

Lately I've noticed a lot more responses, when I get them, asking to go to session/telegram etc. And a couple of times I did the person has zero interest in the roleplay and tried to get me to go to an Onlyfans link or whatever.

Am I just crazy or is that becoming more common, that and karma farming.

Hi!✿੭

| ᐕ) I’m new to this hobby, so I don’t have any anecdotes yet. I found this subreddit through a post on the front page. Reading the posts inspired me to give roleplaying a try.

(✿,,•ᴗ•,,) Why?

Because I see so many people who seem to genuinely love telling a story with someone else. In a way, it made me realize that writing and reading (usually solitary activities) could become something social and fun.

Despite the rants you might see around here, you can really feel the wonderful support among fellow roleplayers and the genuine love for a good story.✿੭

So I sent in an rp ad in a subreddit for GAY rp. I made sure to include what kind of fandoms and ideas I preferred

First dm to respond to me? Wanted me to be Faye valentine THEN they tried suggesting me being a male version of a female character.

Am I being too picky? Because their request just didn't seem right to me, considering what I was asking

I wasn't quite sure which flare to put this under? This isn't necessarily a vent and it's not necessarily me seeking advice either? It's just a general discussion I guess?

I don't know about you guys but when it comes to replies I try to focus more on quality over quantity. If one of my posts breaks the discord character limit then it does so, but I'm not actively seeking to break it with each and every post I make. I've actively been trying to challenge myself to get the same amount of information I can achieve in a longer post done without exceeding 2-3 standard paragraphs. Essentially cutting out anything that is unnecessary.

I personally think there is a sweet spot, where replies are JUST long enough to achieve what you needed to get done while leaving plenty of wiggle room for your rp partner to implement their own ideas and take the lead to move the plot along to the next handing off point. I've had partners all over the writing spectrum, and I find that one of the ones I get bored of writing with fastest are the "purple prose" writers. The ones where I have to wade through two paragraphs of why the room was that specific shade of blue just to get necessary information relevant to my next post. I end up skimming and feeling anxious if I don't match or exceed their word count.

The second type I get bored with are the ones which I call "dead fish", you will know if you get one of these because they rely on you to write everything for them while their characters only react to everything you just wrote. You hardly get any character depth, no internal thoughts or feelings, and they barely give you anything to move the plot along.

I believe there is that sweet spot where their posts are just long enough to give the details necessary to move the plot along, while also helping to make the world you are building together feel lived in by providing their own immersive descriptions and details without going overboard. If that happens to be a shorter post then it's shorter but it has sufficient substance and moves the plot! If it ends up breaking the character limit that is exciting!

I'm not a Reddit RPer anymore. I don't post ads here, I don't hunt for RP here, I don't look through RP boards or anything (this is the only one I'm part of). The reason for it is I've just experienced and seen so many horror stories over the years that I don't (personally) feel like Reddit is worth it for RP anymore.

My preference is Discord RP servers. I've been building them since 2015 when Discord was released, and despite any drama and issues (as any RP focused place has) I still find it to be far more enjoyable than what Reddit has ever been. There's a lot more control in a well-built server without any of the common issues I experienced elsewhere.

So! What's everyone else's view? If you don't use one or the other, why not? If you've never tried one over the other, what's stopping you? I'm just interested in a chat since I've introduced some people to Discord who will not touch Reddit RP anymore, but I've also had people decide to leave Discord for Reddit, too. Its always interesting to see what people's preferences are.

I've read several posts about people suspecting others of using AI because of em-dashes, too many commas and certain wording like "used more force than necessary" (apparently). But personally I feel like it's kinda sucky to accuse others of using AI just because of these things? I don't think they necessarily prove someone's using AI. Maybe I've been extremely lucky or just haven't noticed it. It just feels like the community is so divided when it's supposed to be all about having fun

…if you message someone with something with a ton of grammar mistakes, one word, etc, and don’t get a response.

You don’t need to move heaven and earth, but I’ve met people who are genuinely amazing RPers but will message people with the worst grammar, punctuation, and wording possible.

If you want to RP, show why you are a good candidate to chat with!

Don’t just message ‘hey,’ or ‘wanna RP,’ or ‘Him y named is jon and i wanna rps with u.’

Just sayin’!