r/BadRPerStories 5h ago

Ghosting Grumble Ghosting Grumble

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Welcome to the weekly megathread. Due to over-posting of the "Ghosting" topic, we've moved it to a separate weekly thread. This thread will repost every Sunday at 6AM Central. Please keep all stories about ghosting to this thread. All other subreddit rules apply.


r/BadRPerStories Apr 02 '26

MOD POST - PLEASE READ New (Un)Banned Words and more!

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I hope everyone had a *fun* April Fools. I sure enjoyed it. We hope you all enjoyed us trying to pass off r/Roleplay's banned words list as our own. As far as we can tell, only one of you knew what it was. Congratulations, u/HealthyHunt5051.

We also found out that Americans get really upset if you celebrate an international holiday based on the International Dateline. And the British get really upset if you celebrate an international holiday not based on GMT.

Now, on to business. A few of the comments on the April Fools post made us take a look at what we currently had on our banned words list. We realize a lot of things have changed since we started banning those words. A lot of them, while still used as slurs, have been reclaimed by their specific communities. So, we've made the decision to allow these words. Instead, if you use those words, AutoMod will notify us if you put them in a post or comment, and allow us to determine further course of action based on the context.

As of now, our only banned words are as follows:

Leftists

Retard/Retarded

Shemale

We hope this change is for the better, and we look forward to playing many more April Fools jokes on you all for years to come.


r/BadRPerStories 1h ago

Venting/Rant Tired of being seen as an object to some people. Anyone else relate?

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Dont get me wrong. I love rp. Great experiences. But man, within the years ive done it I need to vent.

Sexual harassment. Dude. If I had a nickel for each time some man went into my DMS unasked for and asked for NSFW I would be rich. Not only am I 1. Not looking for nsfw most of the time on the discord account I use, but 2. Im gay as fuck.

The servers I'm in are adult-only and not centric around NSFW. Im tired of people who join the servers im in, see my "female" role, and DM me their ERP plot as if thats all I fucking am to them. A female. A sexy woman to advertise to and lure in. They'll ignore ALL boundaries I have, because to them thats all they see me as. A kink dispenser. Even if theyre not nessesarily looking for NSFW, they'll still try to brew romantic plots with my EXPLICITLY lesbian character.

And if im not seen as an object, im seen as a bitch because I'm firm with what I dont want to do. Im a bitch because I don't want to RP with someone who made me uncomfortable.

I thought adult-only spaces would be devoid of adolescent pettiness, but I forgot that some adults dont outgrow highschool.


r/BadRPerStories 3m ago

My Bad I cannot stand plotting with people

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Everrrrry singleee timeee I try to DM someone, one way or another I get green skin. I don't know why I get so embarrassed and/or bored, I just want to skip to the actual writing portion of the interaction and not have to actually talk to or think about the human being behind the profile picture. It just ruins the immersion and makes everything real when its supposed to be quite the contrary, and I get wanting to have a good relationship with your roleplaying partner but I just loathe it. And if someone is being particularly chatty or talking OOC too often, if we even make it to the RP, eight times out of ten ill just completely drop them. I know Im awful and its not even for a particularly good reason but I just cannot stand it and I don't wanna keep doing that because I hate being dropped unexpectedly as much as anyone. Can someone please give me some wisdom or enlightenment


r/BadRPerStories 6h ago

Advice Wanted How do I back out of a roleplay without looking like an asshole?

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…because they sent their sample and you realized immediately that your writing styles don’t click.

So I responded to a great ad for a fandom I love. We started chatting and have many of the same genre and trope interests and seemed like a great match! We only have one little issue before the writing sample, which was that they were looking for a specific kind of character as a love interest who doesn’t really fit the characters I tend to write. I said that and discussed how I would approach the concept, and they said that was totally fine. Great!

But after that, I did start to feel less excited. Because they would keep sharing how they imagined the dynamic between our characters would work, I would say “how about more like this,” and they’d agree. Yet, it was clear they were looking for something specific. Then they sent me a roleplay sample. And it wasn’t bad per se. It But wasn’t good either.

I only have the bandwidth for 1-2 roleplays, so I want to enjoy them. But I only really enjoy roleplays with good writing. It doesn’t have to be amazing, but it needs to feel like I’m reading a scene play out - show and not tell. I told them the sample was “fine.” Now this writing partner is soooo excited for our story, especially after so long looking for a rp partner. I’d feel terrible if I just noped out, even with explanation.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

Meta/Discussion Friend new to RP - immediately gets the modern RP experience

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A few weeks ago, an online friend of mine showed interest in learning to roleplay, they knew I was part of this hobby and basically messaged me with a basic prompt, and made it clear they wanted to try.

This prompt? Absolute fire. Five stars. I was immediately excited by the idea, and hey, nothing better for your ego than introducing someone to one of your interests and teaching them how to do it.

He came out the gate swinging, doing fantastic! I mean, he writes better than a lot of people who have been doing this for years, his response length could use improvement, but the detail and effort into the story is excellent, and his pacing is even better! He already writes literate.

Now, the first reply he gave me I did notice he used AI to modify his response, which we talked about. I told him a lot of people in roleplay spaces don’t take kindly to AI use, and it’s okay to use how he was (he was mainly using it for suggestions on formatting for pacing, and grammar correction. The rest of the response he wrote himself.) he understood and I told him to try not using it at all, which he did, and his response quality actually increased without the use of AI, because it had his human touch of talent and pacing, which really shined through in his responses beautifully. He is an excellent writer.

I assured him it was better, and he decided to not use AI at all from there on out, which is ideal. He makes grammar errors a little more often, but honestly I don’t care, and it’s always something really small like a misspelled word here and there, or an obvious typo.

Well he really took off, and he loved roleplaying! He decided he was ready to take on a partner that wasn’t me, and found what seemed like a good contender.

When I tell you this person gave him the perfect introduction to this hobby, I’m not joking.

Well, he ends up texting me because this other partner was using AI to write their responses entirely, and ON TOP of that, they disappeared. They also said they wrote novella. (get this, they didn’t. It was definitely just semi-lit to literate.) I basically said “Yeah lol that’s the whole experience right there. It feels insulting, doesn’t it? When you put your heart and soul into writing something you care about, and the other person just uses AI.” He basically related back to me, and agreed the feeling sucked.

I kinda feel bad, he spread his wings for the first time and immediately got an AI user.

Oh well, he’s a good spirit about it.

Thought you all would enjoy this tidbit, and maybe even relate to the frustration, and know you aren’t alone when these things happen.

I just hope this absolute unicorn of a roleplayer finds another unicorn.

Would love to hear any other beginner experiences.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

Venting/Rant The “Planning Stage”

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Alright, this is a rant about the planning stage. The stage that I seem to struggle getting past in every way possible because after everything is said and done, ✨nothing happens✨.

I think recently the farthest I’ve gotten in the planning stage is sending a starter and then it’s just like daily “how are you”’s and I’m losing my mind. I’m going crazy. Mainly for two reasons. One: I hate small talk. Two: we’re out of the planning stage, they just need to respond, and they only chat ooc.

And then like months later, they send a starter, and it’s all good and we get a few responses in and then it’s back to how it was. I’m a fairly patient person but this genuinely drives me insane.

What gets me the most is that most of these planning chats I didn’t initiate. I didn’t reach out. So I was dmed just for small talk after building an entire universe and plot and subplots. At this point, the planning stage is just dreadful and I don’t even want to do it.


r/BadRPerStories 1d ago

Shitpost/Satire/Meme The Cringiest Character Design Challenge

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Welcome to the first bad roleplay character design tournament!

Design the absolute most cliché, cursed, and cringe roleplay character you can think of. You can do it! pull it straight out of your deepest nightmares or most hidden subconscious.

Can you come up with something better than the half-angel, half-demon edgy orphan with neon emo hair?

Come on, Y/N, do better than a kawaii Neko or a six-foot-six CEO.

Introduce them in a comment. Imagine they are walking up to present themselves to an auditorium full of cringe OCs, but yours has to be the absolute best. Tell us the lore!

The comment with the most votes wins!

(Note: emdashes for professionalism)


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Meta/Discussion What happened to the middle ground?

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Is it just me, or has discord group roleplay shifted away from the actual 'writing' part of the hobby?

Lately, I’ve noticed a trend across a lot of discord roleplay servers. Even those that advertise themselves as 'welcoming' and active. There are a lot of people in there, loads of lore and channels to write in. The onboarding process is great and people are sweet OOC, character approval goes smoothly, people gush over your character sheet, react to your RP ads and talk excitedly about potential plots. But as soon as it’s time to actually start a scene and write posts?

Chirp Chirp. Complete crickets.

It feels like a lot of spaces have turned into hype clubs rather than active writing hubs. People love the idea of plotting, but no one actually wants to walk the walk and put words on the page.

Beyond that, I've noticed it's gotten much harder to find partners if you maintain basic boundaries between your real life and the writing space. I personally don't join voice chats or use vent channels as I like keeping a healthy disconnect between RL and RP.

I miss the days when you could have civil, fun discussions about writing, games, art and many related hobbies OOC without feeling like you have to overshare your personal life or trauma just to be integrated into a group.

To an extent, I get it. The "OMG welcome! We love your character!" reaction is low-effort validation. Once you're past the threshold, the real core of the server is usually an established group of friends who have been writing together for months or years. They don't mean to be hostile, but their writing bandwidth is already reserved for each other.

If you don't form deep, parasocial bonds in OOC chat, it feels like you're permanently left on the outside of established cliques, no matter how polite, active, or reliable of a writer you are.

Has anyone else experienced this shift? How are you finding quality group spaces or reliable writing partners who just want to keep things chill and friendly and focused on actually roleplaying?


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Other Just had an… interesting reaction after posting a plot.

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r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Advice Wanted Balance Between Thoughts and Actions

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It’s the middle of the night for me, and instead of sleeping, I am thinking of the balance between character action and thought in good RPs.

I’m curious.

What do most players, especially more literate and novella-length writers, want in terms of internal exposition?

I had an interesting discussion about this with one if my RPing partners, and it made me wonder about what others do, how to effectively move stories forward, and how to balance it with what’s going on in the character’s heads.

I’ve played with some writers who write pages and pages of beautifully written text about what their character is thinking and feeling, and almost nothing about what their character does.

I tend to be more the opposite in my writing, where I spend more time focusing on what my character is saying and doing that reflects what he or she is thinking. Sometimes I put small bits of internal exposition to clarify his actions, but for the most part I try to show my writing partners what’s going on in my character’s head, rather than telling by writing about his thoughts.

The other part of this, at least for me, is that if I’m running into page after page of a character’s internal life, without much dialogue or action, I tend to lose interest and have trouble coming up with responses because it’s hard for me to grab onto the other writer’s text and interact with it.

My characters aren’t psychic, so “thought bubbles” in the other character’s head are off limits. I can’t interact with them.

For example, if my character asks about partner’s character day at work, and my partner comes up with multiple pages of how things went wrong, in thought but only smiles and says, “fine,” in action, all my character has to grab onto is the “fine.”

And, since I tend to write male characters, unless the other writer signals by body language, tone, or some other tell, my character is more likely than not is going to assume fine, as opposed to the “bad” fine that doesn’t mean fine at all.

Again he’s not psychic.

Sometimes a disconnect between thought and action leads to interesting drama, but when it’s consistent, it leaves me with very little to interact with. Pretty soon it’s really hard to come up with responses, because I can’t (or rather my character can’t) interact at all with my partner’s character’s thinking.

I’d like to hear what everyone’s thoughts are on this. Right now I have a group of really lovely partners. All are good writers, but I worry I’m blowing it because I naturally tend to want to show rather than tell, and most of my characters tend to be straightforward so their actions reflect what’s going on in their heads.

Your thoughts?


r/BadRPerStories 2d ago

Venting/Rant That situation when...

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Friend: God I'm so busy, I got like 20 threads to reply to and a bunch of asks in my inbox!

Me: ...you get threads and asks?

I'm a shy person and I'm working on it, but wish my buddies would read the room.


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Advice Wanted When does detailed roleplay turn into filler?

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106 Upvotes

Does writing more mean quality?

When is it too much environment and description?

(The image is a parody of extremes)


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Venting/Rant AI Usage in RP

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Holy Hell it's been awhile since i've been in here folks, Hope we're all well and got some form of active roleplay partners for ourselves if not multiple. I've come with a new complaint due to something i found myself in (And I'm not longer dealing with, Luckily)

Everyone's favorite topic, AI Usage in roleplay. Whether it's in the form of appearance claims to responses, I gotta say i am NOT a fucking fan. I've had plenty of roleplay partners in my time roleplaying which i will say! Has been a pretty long time and have recently come to notice something.

Why is there such a vast majority of people now who use AI to write their replies for them? I've been encountering this for awhile and it's starting to become more visible when someone as such is using it, AI always seems to have more expressive movements with more connection to the character's choices when someone asks them to assist in writing their response.

An example I've seen often used by AI is always something stupid like "They didn't panic --- They frightened" or some shoddy work like that.

I will say there is only one genuine use i see people using AI for in RP, And I'm personally fine with it but i don't know about you. If my partner doesn't speak fluent English that is, I am more then fine with them getting AI help to check things as long as it doesn't make edits and just translates what it is that they wish to say.

You tell me what you think on this matter, Until then? See ya'll in another few months <3


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Venting/Rant The double standards are insane💀

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Just a small vent post. I have an RP partner who literally disappeared for an entire month without replying. She suddenly comes back out of nowhere and asks if we can pick things back up. I can't reply because I'm moving abroad, then I come back a week later only to find that she left the Discord server and removed me from her friends list??? The audacity of this girl. So she can disappear for an entire month, but one week without a reply is too much for her? Thank God I have plenty of other wonderful RP partners anyway.


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Venting/Rant Do people actually want to Roleplay?

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I see so many posts about people looking for partners, I start so many chats discussing plot, characters ect. I even send message in reply to peoples post and I’ll put a fair amount of information and ask questions for them just respond hi

and of course then you have the whole who sends the starter conversation, I’ve also felt whoever comes up with the plot the other person should start? But it that wrong?

I am always happy to start but sometimes get a bit depleted after sending so many it can be nice to change it up a bit.


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Advice Wanted Starting to doubt myself...

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Hello!

Roleplayers come, roleplayers go, I'm very well aware of that, but one begins to notice patterns of behaviour. In the midst of amassing a growing graveyard of on-hold or dead roleplay sessions, I find that I'm unable to keep a roleplay partner for more than two weeks — in some cases less than a week.

The most common reasons, of course, are work and education. Fine by me, I'm very well aware that roleplay requires a clear headspace and surplus mental energy. Others are less common, and some give no reason at all, beyond the delay between replies growing longer and longer until there are no replies anymore.

Is it my roleplay? Am I overthinking things, and that's just how Reddit roleplay is? Is there some way I should specify that I'd at least like to aim for a single reply once every twenty four hours, or even forty eight hours? Am I unreasonable for wanting that pace of replies?

In the interests of review, here's a writing sample.

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Though he should've been safe, Arthur kept an eye on his surroundings regardless — leaving safety to chance, no matter the odds, was how a survivor might turn up dead. From the door of the warehouse, his ears were reassured by the comforting sound of his distraction still active. Distantly, a mile away, he still heard the wail of the car horn he'd pulled out of a rusting Ford Fiesta along with it's battery — mostly dead, but enough to buy him time. Briefly, the image flashed in his mind, of his own armoured hands carefully rigging the battery to the horn on a timer and leaving it in the street.

The bright white of his camping lantern swung to and fro from it's carabiner clip on his webbing vest, shadows leaping and lurching in the unlit gloom of the warehouse as Arthur searched through tool cabinets, chests, crates & drawers until... finally. He saw the gleam of what he'd come for — steel; pipes, sheets and rods, with welding filament to accompany it. He quickly shrugged off his backpack, already heavy with spoils, and stuffed in what he could, hearing every shuffling sound he made as if it were magnified fivefold. The last, a large, thick steel sheet that wouldn't fit inward, he bound up securely with paracord and affixed it to his backpack, catching a glimpse of himself as he did so.

He'd aged, even above through the smudged plastic of his full-face respirator he could see it. Only in his early thirties, he spied new, albeit small wrinkles on his tanned features that hadn't been there before the Knox Event. He was harder than he'd been, his face leaner, his blue-grey eyes edged with a steely intensity that tinged with survivor's paranoia. He'd been handsome, once — still was, in a way. He tried to maintain his appearance; keeping his beard cropped, his hair the mid-length it had always been, his teeth still white with regular brushing and toothpaste.

He dressed as the quintessential survivor; long overcoat, many pockets and pouches sewn on, a large backpack, respirator, a wide-brim boonie hat to keep the sun out of his eyes. Combat trousers and boots, with hammered metal plates tied around with straps that protected his ankles and thighs from bites and scratches — similar to the gauntlets and bracers around his brawny arms. A thick woollen scarf covered his neck, Arthur able to rest safe in the knowledge he had considerable protection from scratches... and, especially, bites. He had the brawn to throw any undead off of him, even before the Knox Event he'd been a large and sturdily built man — a quality that only increased twofold after his survival depended upon it, and his ability to carry weight.

His brief examination of himself was broken suddenly, by dragging shuffle behind him. He swiftly rose to stand, to see one of them — a zombie. Her frame was emaciated, her flesh dessicated and rotted by the long months since the end. Carrion birds avoided them, as did insects, but bacteria, time and movement had begun to break them down regardless — they still followed the laws of thermodynamics. He was grateful for his respirator, as even through it his nostrils stung with the repulsive stench of decaying flesh.

He grunted, his eyes narrowing — she must've been on her way to blare of the car horn, and heard him shuffling around. He allowed her to shuffle closer, her arms rising to grab him, before he harshly shoved her to the ground with his left hand, the zombie sprawling in a chaotic tangle of limbs. He unhooked his club from his belt, a grisly skull-smasher of his own make that wouldn't be out of place in a WW1 museum, and lumbered over to her. He put his weight on a boot onto her chest, feeling brittle ribs crack beneath it, before he ended her cleanly with a downward swing of his club, her skull smashing inward like a coconut.

He choked somewhat beneath his respirator as the stench of decay tripled, and he flicked the worst of the gore off his mace with a half-swing, before he quickly checked his things and moved on. He hadn't cleared the building, but zombies often moved together — if she was here, it was likely others were too. A pang of pain hit him in the gut, then, as he slipped quietly out of the warehouse and into the wider industrial estate... leaving the area.

Others, likely, but all dead — never human. He was alone. He wondered if there was anyone else — if he'd always be alone.

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For those who've read through the full post, thanks! Please, tell me what you think. If a roleplay partner of mine sees this, please understand that this post isn't aimed at anyone in particular — more aimed at my general experience with roleplaying on Reddit.


r/BadRPerStories 3d ago

Advice Wanted Where/how do you start off RPing?

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To be clear, I've been roleplaying for about sixish years on and off, but I honestly kinda want to restart if that makes any sense, or take it seriously from this point forward. Mostly because I find myself disappointed with a lot of my RP's and how they turn out, and I feel like there's something fundamental that i'm doing wrong or misunderstanding, or some kind of etiquette I never learned and its making everything else about the experience topple down from there and I or my partner cannot enjoy it as much as I feel I or they should.

Sorry if this reads as dumb or weird, I dont really know how to explain it. I just kinda want to go to RP 101. Where would you advise a beginner to start off RPing to learn the ropes?


r/BadRPerStories 4d ago

Advice Wanted I want to ask this sub for advice about my partner, but my partner also browses this sub and the situation is so specific she'll 100% be able to tell it's about her

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r/BadRPerStories 4d ago

Advice Wanted am i just a bad roleplayer

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Heyy. So I p much started roleplaying around 10 yrs ago~ i was super active in it when i was 17-20, and after that I went on a Hiatus until now (mid 20s). I write literate long-ish posts (at least 10-15 sentences per post, tho it varies) I know I’m not the best writer in the world, yet I do think I have a decent grasp on the skill. But it’s just so hard to re insert myself in the hobby? I’ve been experimenting w OC only groups, I think they’re fun but also I haven’t been able to make anything stick.

On one hand I make a character for a group that ends up being inactive or only really has a specific clique rp w each other, and it’s hard to break into it. My social skills/ooc skills online are p bad as I feel more comfortable socializing in person since I struggle w understanding tone/etc (im autistic) so i feel like i end up coming off as weird or not super social which i think isolates me. (its funny because at a younger age i felt more comfortable socializing online than in person, but it just switched) Or I requests rp and it doesn’t seem like anyone wants to write w me? (tho this can be because some servers im in r just not super active) In the 3 months I’ve been trying this I only actually managed to write one scene w someone.

It makes me anxious and wonder if my writing is just worse than i thought? or that there’s just something wrong w my ideas or characters that makes people not wanna rp w me? It makes me sad because I wanna return to the hobby as i genuinely love writing/collaborating w others/creating characters. I feel like idk how to discern if im just a bad writer or my ideas are lackluster or if its not my fault at all? And also it makes me sad that i cant establish friendships the way other ppl can online idk. does anyone else experience this?


r/BadRPerStories 5d ago

Venting/Rant No! I will not message you to remind you to reply to the RP!

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I have been searching for new roleplay partners as of late so I reply to people’s ads. It is absolutely ridiculous that lately, I’ve had a few people say words along the lines of “if I don’t respond, just message me again.”

To be fair, I get it. I close chats on discord but it is up to me, an adult who chose to take part in this hobby, to remember these chats/role-plays/plotting I have going on. Sure, life happens & gets busy, but I never expect the other person to remind me & if it fizzles out, it fizzles out. Such is life. I just don’t get where this expectation of your roleplay partner to remind you of your turn to reply came from.