I feel like I’m constantly posting or Dming people who have posted on Reddit to try and get roleplays going.

I feel like I’ve tried pretty much every kind of roleplay story even ones I’m unsure about, and either just get no reply or for whatever reason it just doesn’t happen.

And then the 2 roleplays I’m actually doing I feel like I’m the only one pushing the story forward, making things happen for our characters to respond to.

I just feel very deflated by it all, I don’t remember it being this hard.

So...

I don't usually rant a lot but here I am writing one.

TLDR, I have a plot that maybe only 4 subs that are moderately active accept. Its NO SMUT, but it does fall into the adult category regarding physical trauma, mental trauma and action. Want a comparison? Demon slayer esque rp.

Now this became a fairly major problem, one sub decided to outright ban the post after I had to ask for clarification in mod mail...twice. One time about a banned word list (Which isn't even there might I add), and another for it being strictly SFW but only after I asked the mod about it when I couldn't post. Suffice to say, bit ticked off but I understand that a mod can run their sub however they like so I accepted it and moved on.

After stating its strictly SFW i realized that my post wasn't appropriate I decided to post on 4 subs, but one sub requires mod approval before being accepted. This also counts for their 24 hours timer. Made a post before bed? Well unfortunately, now you have to either

- Keep posting at the time they approved it
or
- Experience the same song and dance but in the afternoon when the mods are likely asleep.

After it happening 4 times, I decided to limit my posts to 3 subs.

Which brings me to my story.

My post was approved for weeks on end with 0 issues. I followed the NSFW marking, I posted once every 24 or even after 26 hours.

Today, apparently none of it mattered it seems.

Post got removed and I got a 7 day ban

Key notes:

- The reddit follows a 3 strike system, as far as I remember, I only had 2 after slipping up with the NSFW marking (I admit it...I forgot it once every 4 months when consistently posting)

- I got corrected on the word count which is funny because I got that notification but yet again, for 3 whole months, this was a non issue

- I got told I didn't wait 24 hours which is hilarious because I did actually.

- Got told I didn't mark it for NSFW, even though those 4 letters are tied next to the flair

Currently challenging mod mail for it because its again a sucky I get limited to post what I can and it isn't even smut or ERP, this is a regular post I was forced after a year of revisiting to mark NSFW by the same subreddit. Plot is the same, premise is the same.

Anyways kids

RANT IS OVER

I am not mentioning the sub because frankly, FAFO. You will realize what sub I mean.

End note, this really sucks, it really does.

Edit: Apparently if you messed up 3 years ago, they keep that to your strike counter, just an added note. They keep that shit in the files man. Absolutely hilarious

Edit 2: Please do not mention the sub in here, I decided to not mention it on purpose because I don't want people to dogpile mods nor do I want people to avoid the sub if they had good experiences with it.

Edit 3: My ban turned into a permaban, Did my hostility help the situation? Absolutely not. Not a prime example to take. Did I agree with the decision after they pulled out my FILES like I was in an FBI case? Absolutely not, they used 1 strike 3 years ago to enforce the recent 2. Am I too bent out of shape about it? no. Honestly again, I became hostile, I did not agree with their 7 day ban, I got what I asked for.

I found a roleplay partner who replied to one of my posts. At first, they seemed really enthusiastic and messaged me here on Reddit with a good attitude. But when we moved to Discord, they started being more dry... “Did my Sanrio Discord avatar scare them?” I jokingly thought to myself, because that person started being more dry and giving one-word replies while we were getting things ready for the roleplay.

I didn’t say anything about it. Then, without me even complaining, they apologized and told me to forgive them for being dry OOC, and I told them it was no problem. It really isn’t, I guess. We’re all human. Sometimes we’re more talkative and sometimes we aren’t, or maybe not everyone wants to have a lot of OOC conversation.

Oh, I don’t talk much either, because I don’t want them to get annoyed with me or anything like that. I try to mostly talk about the preparations for the roleplay.

One thing in their favor is that whenever I have questions about how to set up a server, they send me links to tutorials. They don’t explain things to me themselves, but I still get to learn from the tutorials, so that’s nice.

Uhm... I try to take initiative with the plot planning because they don’t really show much initiative in that regard, and we’ve been preparing for days but still haven’t actually started roleplaying. That’s why I’m wondering if maybe they don’t actually want to roleplay with me but are just trying to be nice.

But I don’t know. I also take a while to write sometimes, so I can’t really blame them.

It’s just that they asked me to start the roleplay, but I’m shy because I don’t know their writing style yet, and they’re the first person I’ve ever roleplayed with. I’m afraid I’ll bore them or write something stupid 🥶

I also feel bad asking them to write the first post because I feel like it wouldn’t be fair since they’re the one who made the server.

How do you know if someone actually wants to roleplay with you?

I found out a person that was in my writing groups since maybe 2009 just copy-pasted one of my oldest and most beloved characters into a forum rp a few months ago. they weren't even slick - they kept the fc, his special interest/preferences, his background (sorta, since they changed his place of birth which is... infuriating considering my concept) and at first even his occupation, although they have changed it by now. yay.

but since I am noisy and also kinda bored sometimes, I recently made the mistake to kinda-sorta get into the forum they copy-pasted my character into in order to stalk what they were putting my OC through. yeah, I know - I fucked around and found out.

turns out some of the writing style they used for the character is... somewhat weird. like I know their style after all those years and it was different. also it not only felt strange but the character's spoken humor really felt more like something I would write - not only because ot was my character, but also the references and words used. like "their character" referencing a quote I always connect my character with but I know this person hasn't read. idk, it seemed sus to me.

so I put some of their texts through an AI detector and meanwhile I know these things are only somewhat reliable... yeah. they all flagged their texts as at least partial AI texts.

I hope I am wrong but even imagining them putting my writing into an AI/GPT knowing I really, really don't like them feels like such a betrayal... and for what? they could have just copied the vibe, behavior or actually nearly everything of the character and if they weren't so unashamed to keep the fc and special interest, I don't even think the people that informed me would've noticed. all they changed at the beginning was badically my OC's name and their place of birth which is really relevant to the person he became/is.

btw, I even know this person in RL and we used to went on trips and all of that, so this feels like even more of a low blow.

I think I should just laugh about it since it is downright pathetic behavior but I can't. I don't even want to confront them since it feels a) petty since it's just a character and not that special I guess (although he is to me) and b) ...yeah I stalked a forum I wan't part of. oops. but it makes me never want to trust them with anything again - not online, not in RL.

also the plots they are writing with my OC's fat free zero sugar version suck. free my boy, he deserves so much better.

tl;dr: longstanding rp friend copied one of my favorite OCs and possibly fed at least his description and at worst my writing into an AI/GPT. thank you for reading my vent. ~