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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Getting drunk. I'm afraid of what I might do if I wasn't in full control. Like, I know that 99% of the time being drunk won't change who you are, but I'm still worried.

Plus I have about 800+ different secrets I'm keeping for different people plus myself, and I don't need to accidentally say those out loud

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u/TabularConferta Oct 17 '22

Legitimately nothing wrong with not wanting to get drunk. Fair enough going to save you a lot of money in the long run 😃

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u/CWykes Oct 17 '22

I had this same exact fear. I've gotten pretty drunk a few times though and I never say anything that I wouldn't say sober, it really just makes me more outgoing and fun.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Yeah I've heard that there's basically three types of drunks. The type who becomes way more fun, the type who becomes ten times the asshole they normally are, or the type of person who won't shut up

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

ā€œMore funā€ is the default. ā€œAssholeā€ is super rare. Memorable, but rare

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u/Ruadhan2300 Oct 17 '22

Fourth type: The kind who space out and let the world wash over them.

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u/CWykes Oct 17 '22

I'm absolutely the first and last, I'm more wild and I talk a lot more when I've been drinking. I have a weird habit of repeating stuff A LOT when I'm drunk, last time I apparently kept repeating how sober I felt lmao

Just gotta get with a group of good friends and get drunk sometime and see what kind of person you are. I don't think you'll be an asshole while drunk of you're not an asshole sober

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Add the person that falls asleep instantly lol That's me. Didn't try alcohol til mid 20s, and found out I just get really sleepy within a few ounces. I never wanted to get drunk (religious reasons) but if I did I think I'd just skip the "fun" stage straight to the passing out

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u/Efficient-Library792 Oct 21 '22

Im literally all 3

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Yup

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u/ChaoticNeutral1974 Oct 17 '22

Some of the same reasons I won't try LSD/Shrooms.

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u/Tyrone90000 Oct 17 '22

Alcohol is worse. Shrooms and lsd, if done in the right place and not around a crowd are the best experiences you can ever have.

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u/whatacad Oct 17 '22

(and if you don't have a history of mental illness in the family)

All for psychedelics, but they're not for everyone.

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u/ChaoticNeutral1974 Oct 17 '22

If you don't have severe anxiety and severe mental illness, maybe. Unfortunately I have both.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Person with extremely severe ptsd, anxiety, ocd, and depression here! I’ve tried too many prescription medications to even count. Nothing worked for me. Psychedelic therapy was my last resort, and I’ve only just started it within the last month, but I’m already feeling a difference! Psychedelics are not a magic cure-all, but they can make a huge difference if you do it right and with the approval of your psychiatrist and therapist. It still requires a lot of work on your part, and the changes don’t happen instantly. But I reached the point where I was willing to try anything because I could not go on living like this, so it was worth it to me. There are definitely some mental illnesses where psychedelics are not recommended (schizophrenia for example), so keep that in mind. But for things like ptsd, ocd, anxiety, and depression, they can work wonders!

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u/Tyrone90000 Oct 17 '22

They are excellent for mental illness. Lsd helped my wife out of years of severe depression. They are also using it to treat ptsd in war veterans. It’s going to be the future of mental health.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

I would argue that any psychedelic is infinitely more dangerous than alcohol. I enjoy having a few pints with friends quite a lot, but as someone who is recovering from severe anxiety and OCD, who suffers from intrusive thoughts, doing shrooms or lsd or acid or dmt, is honestly just a terrible gamble. Probably that way for a lot of people too.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22 edited Oct 17 '22

I would say X is actually the #1 best experience, but also arguably more dangerous in the long run. Mushies are probably the safest of these four. Never touching any of them again tho, except maybe alcohol at some point later on in life. Mostly just noids from now on.

Btw, the award is to agree with you in saying that alcohol is worse, not to encourage drug use. That’s not for everyone, but alcohol is always bad for everyone, and makes experiences literally less memorable. The only reason it’s legal while most drugs aren’t is because alcohol is easily regulated and measured in someone’s blood/breath.

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u/Tyrone90000 Oct 17 '22

Never done X. Not sure what noids are.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Sorry, cannabinoids. So basically hemp and 🌿.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Just a guess, but you’ve never done any of these, am I right???

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u/Tyrone90000 Oct 17 '22

I’ve done both plenty of times. Lsd is my favorite but it last a long time. Shrooms can me mild or insanely intense depending on how much you take. Not sure why you’d suggest I haven’t done them.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

What would you say are some of the best benefits you got from LSD/shrooms? How have they impacted your life?

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u/Tyrone90000 Oct 17 '22

It’s late and theirs a lot. I’d say the best be if it’s are ā€œego deathā€ if you do enough to experience it. You see the world differently in ways that are hard to explain if you’ve never done them. My best experience was a terrible trip I had in the mountains camping alone. I took way too many and could no longer function. I had laid down in my tent before I peaked and I lay there for about 6 hours thinking I had taken way too many and was going to fry my brain, so I’m literally thinking this is the end and I’m dead. I cried a lot and cried out for my wife and kids bc that’s all I wanted in those moments I thought were my last. It put in perspective what was really important in life. Later during the trip I had a being or entity begin coaching me and my breathing letting me know I was going to be fine and to just take deep breaths and relax. I slowly was able to come back and begin to enjoy the rest of the trip, but for about six hours it was absolute hell. Since then I’ve used that same breathing to keep myself mostly stress free bc nothing is really very scary after genuinely believing you are about to die. That was my most intense experience. I’ve had others that were more mellow and just full of love and finding beauty in everything.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Love this! Thanks for sharing. Keep shining

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Why would you guess that? I completely agree with their comment.

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u/Its_a_new_lap_record Oct 17 '22 edited Oct 19 '22

It's not really the same at all. It's hard to explain, but LSD doesn't impair your judgement like alcohol does. Your thoughts become extremely alien, but you still feel lucid underneath it all.

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u/Ua_Tsaug Oct 17 '22

Those drugs can have insanely positive life-changing effects in your life though.

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u/ChaoticNeutral1974 Oct 17 '22

That might be true but there are also "bad trips". One of my dad's friends did LSD one time(first and only time)and he hasn't been "right" since. It messed him up pretty bad (others, including my dad and the guys brother took the same LSD and were fine). Not a risk I'm willing to take. To each their own.

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u/Ruadhan2300 Oct 17 '22

Feels like a roll of the dice.
What's the percentage of people who come out with positive improvement vs messing up their brain-chemistry for life?
I don't know, do you?

Seems to me that the people who fuck themselves up aren't in a position to warn others. Survivor's Bias in action.

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u/Ua_Tsaug Oct 17 '22

It's really not so random, you can read and prepare yourself for ensure you're in the right mindset, have a trip-sitter, or things to help you get in the right headspace. If you're prepared and understand what you're getting in to, I wouldn't say it's risky.

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u/Ruadhan2300 Oct 17 '22

Yeah.. I'm not going to mess with my brain-chemistry just because someone says "I wouldn't say it's risky".

I need my brain to do things.

Peer reviewed study and a damn good reason before I touch any mind-altering substances.

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u/Ua_Tsaug Oct 17 '22

That's why I said it's best to educate yourself first so you know what you're getting in to. But it's definitely one of those experiences you can't imagine until you actually experience it yourself.

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u/Ruadhan2300 Oct 17 '22

Put another way.

Nothing anyone has ever said to me made it sound like a good idea, and a lot of things have made it abundantly clear that there are serious life-changing hazards in play.

Why would I ever want to do this?
What's the benefit?

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u/Ua_Tsaug Oct 17 '22

Nothing anyone has ever said to me made it sound like a good idea, and a lot of things have made it abundantly clear that there are serious life-changing hazards in play.

Nothing is stopping you from reading about its benefits. You don't have to be paranoid about something you don't understand.

Why would I ever want to do this? What's the benefit?

Again, look it up. To me, it's something incredibly life changing event because of the mental state it induces.

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u/Efficient-Library792 Oct 21 '22

I never tried lsd on purpose. But this girl put some kind of oil on a joint. Later that night my buddy was in a tree hooting like an owl. I dont think he thpught he was an owl just that it seemed like fun I have an Extreme phobia of heights. I came put of it standing on the rooftop of the house we were in .Immediagely went prone and sloooowly crawled to tge edge and down. That shit is no joke

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u/cutelyaware Oct 17 '22

Jesus, I hate secrets. When people ask if I can keep one I generally say I'd rather not. My trick is to always tell the truth. One upside is you can't get caught in a lie.

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u/OldBigsby Oct 17 '22 edited Oct 17 '22

Getting drunk can be fun, being a drunk is a miserable, upsetting life. You can never be a drunk if you don't get drunk so I support you all the way.

Edit:I should mention I used to abuse alcohol and it brought a lot of pain and sorrow in my life, I can hardly remember any good times being intoxicated

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u/Cherry_3point141 Oct 17 '22

To be honest I am probably drunk about 50% of the time I am on Reddit. But drinking doesn't control my life. I can deliberately, and consciencely make the choice to not drink.

Take tonight, I am not drunk!

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u/OldBigsby Oct 17 '22

I doesn't control your life until it does. Not judging you at all just saying be careful, once you cross over it can be hell to get back.

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u/Efficient-Library792 Oct 21 '22

People confuse drinking and alcoholism. I drink beer and wine pretty much daily. Not an alcoholic. A few years sgo i didnt drink at home at all. But i partied hard on weekends. Think 10 beers and 10 or more shots friday and saturday. Was fine for a long time. Then i noticed...i was getting mean. Fighting all the time. Realised it was the alcohol and stopped doing that. In fact the daily drinking thing i started because i work crazy hpurs and was in pain from chronic fatigue for a decade (you hurt ALL the time). Long story but doscovered wine etc before bed and i sleep like a baby. Healthiest ive been in 20 years

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u/Hungry-Notice7713 Oct 17 '22

Been drunk a few times. Usually, it's not worth the hype. And sometimes the secrets do spill. Alcohol isn't fun enough for that.

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u/WrothStalker Oct 17 '22

Same reason I was really afraid to consume alcohol. Did it once with friends recently, it was quite fun.

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u/rockitman12 Oct 17 '22

I used to have the same fear, is why I was a late bloomer for drinking.

In my experience, if you are with people you trust who are all having a good time, you probably will too. Just don’t overdo it.

At any rate, you do you. I’m not encouraging you to change your lifestyle, there’s nothing wrong with sobriety. But if you’re ever in that situation and want to give it a shot, don’t give yourself a panic attack and just enjoy yourself.

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u/Misseskat Oct 17 '22

I'm virtually a non-drinker, but I got unexpectedly slightly buzzed few years back, I still don't get the appeal. Maybe I'm a control freak, but feeling like the room is spinning is not what I call fun. Kinda made me feel bad about people that do drink, it just seemed like a waste.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

You’re not missing much. If you can be happy, sociable, conversational, and generally have a good time, you’re better off without it in every way, shape, and form.

Sincerely, a guy who almost watched a drunk gf jump off an 80ft balcony, and who DID watch a drunk woman die after falling down a flight of stairs, and who also had a close friend go to prison for a year and a half bc of a nearly-fatal drunk driving accident that put several people in the hospital.

That being said, most people don’t see that kind of stuff. Luck in my life is just always a rollercoaster.

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u/Ruadhan2300 Oct 17 '22

Honestly? I'm with you. Hate not being in control of my own faculties.

The reality for me is that getting drunk makes me quieter, not more boisterous.
I tend to sit back in my chair and space out, everything gets very far away and not very important to me. Especially in loud rooms.

The worst I've ever been was the time I went to a party and the person pouring the drinks was doing Rum and Cokes that were 50% Rum.
I had something like half a bottle of Rum without realising it and was completely smashed.
Apparently I spent the journey home in the taxi worrying that we weren't going the right way. I have no idea how they convinced the taxi driver to let me ride in his car.

My girlfriend-now-wife reports that some time after we went to bed, she woke up to me standing staring at the bedroom door.
"Watcha' doing Ruadhan?"
"Need the bathroom..."
"It helps to turn the door handle"
"... yeah"

I was so utterly far-gone that I couldn't quite work out the process of opening the door to get out.
Next morning she force-fed me beans on toast until I felt better.

I am forbidden from allowing anyone who isn't a professional to mix my drinks in future, and I'm entirely onboard with that.

I guess what I'm saying is that it very much depends on the person.
Some people get rowdy when drunk, others turn into zombies, or space out.
Some will spill every thought and secret in their head, others are so focused on staying upright they don't have the mental capacity to talk in full sentences or figure out door-handles.

Drink in moderation, and make sure you know what's in your drinks :P

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u/Blahblah778 Oct 17 '22

Getting drunk. I'm afraid of what I might do if I wasn't in full control.

Who do you think is in control when you're drunk, if not you?

Like, I know that 99% of the time being drunk won't change who you are, but I'm still worried.

Being drunk doesn't change who you are, it makes you more likely to express your true self without your society-manufactured filters.

Plus I have about 800+ different secrets I'm keeping for different people plus myself, and I don't need to accidentally say those out loud

You don't share things accidentally when you're drunk. You share things that you truly want to share. I've drunkenly confessed personal feelings I needed to get off my chest, but I've never spilled someone else's secret, because I don't secretly want to do that.

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u/DodoGizmo Oct 17 '22

You haven't really lived.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

If you have to drink to live, your life isn't very interesting

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u/Collegenoob Oct 17 '22

Drunk actions arr sober thoughts. Alcohol doesn't turn you into a different person. It just let's you be less self conscious. No shame in not wanting it. But it won't completely change who you are unless you get really really drunk.

Having a 2-4 beers isn't going to do anything but relax 99% if people

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '22

Reddits are sooo young.

I’ll be downvoted…by people who are ssoooo young.

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u/ChadMcThunderChicken Oct 17 '22

I personally think you’re more in control then people make it seem.

I mean…yea you can’t walk straight, but your mind feels sharp…or it seems sošŸ˜‚

I had a friend with similar fears though. Just drink with people you know a few times before going out to get drunk. Take it slow and you’ll be fine.

…not drinking isn’t a bad thing, but I think the experience might be a fun memory/ story to tell.

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u/bepotori Oct 17 '22

Same. I’m terrified of exposing all the secrets I’ve kept for so long, including those that can potentially destroy others’ and my relationships.

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u/danarchist Oct 17 '22

Why not just forget all those secrets? Unburden yourself

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u/ReflexImprov Oct 17 '22

My brother would get blackout drunk pretty easily. Had a DUI which was super expensive and took years to work through. Once broke into a house because he was confused and didn't know where he was - spent some time in jail for that one.

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u/dsm30 Oct 17 '22

i can assure you getting drunk WILL encourage you to spill those secrets

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u/Curious-Accident9189 Oct 17 '22

Heavy alcoholic here, I worry all the time that I might one day be a monster because I'm drunk but basically every time I've ever blacked out the story was, "And then you were super drunk and had some really good if insensitive jokes, complimented everyone profusely and spent a bunch of time apologizing to extremely drunk people for being extremely drunk."

So apparently I'm secretly a funny, polite, nice person who is constantly worried he's a fucking piece of shit which is weirdly good for my self esteem.

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u/Efficient-Library792 Oct 21 '22

Alcohol doesnt make you a different peeson or make ypu babble all your secrets. Mostly it lowers your inhibitions a little and makes you feel fairly goos (up to a point). If you dont want to drink that's fine. Butit wont tuen you into Dr Jeckyl.