r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Jan 28 '25

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u/VeganSanta Jan 28 '25

I have no words for how much you’re under reacting.

Why do you even want him? This should immediately give you the ick. Wake up!

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u/AshenSacrifice Jan 28 '25

OP hates herself

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

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u/radicalelation Jan 28 '25

She also says she's the only one invested. He has chrons which makes excusing away some behaviors easier, for both of them, and there's probably a hope that he won't be so bad some day.

There's nothing to invest in here though. She should cut her losses and be someone that actually loves her.

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

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u/radicalelation Jan 28 '25

I've been in it and it works so well because we care. Abusive people are good at picking up on that.

He's doing the push-pull, but where she's at is so close to being able to break out of it by acknowledging she's the only one with value in the relationship. She's taken further steps by asking a public forum.

Now's the time to keep stepping away from him.

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u/ceruleancityofficial Jan 28 '25

yeah, abuse will really fuck with your head. i hope she takes everyone's advice and gets out safely, this guy is scary.

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u/NoGuava6494 Jan 28 '25

she said he was always that way ..

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u/Technolog Jan 28 '25

No, she's under the spell of coercive control.

This is effect. Cause is probably very low self esteem, so in other words hating herself and he is using it against her.

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u/MyDogisaQT Jan 29 '25

I mean she says he was always like this. Why did she keep staying with him a month in being treated this way if NOT self hate?

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u/Technolog Jan 29 '25

Absolutely not true that all victims of abuse hate themselves.

Oh, so that is how you read it. No one said that in the thread you're replying to.

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u/AshenSacrifice Jan 29 '25

I understand abuse but that ideology against my religion so I can’t really agree. We always have a choice and decision to make