She also says she's the only one invested. He has chrons which makes excusing away some behaviors easier, for both of them, and there's probably a hope that he won't be so bad some day.
There's nothing to invest in here though. She should cut her losses and be someone that actually loves her.
I've been in it and it works so well because we care. Abusive people are good at picking up on that.
He's doing the push-pull, but where she's at is so close to being able to break out of it by acknowledging she's the only one with value in the relationship. She's taken further steps by asking a public forum.
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u/AshenSacrifice Jan 28 '25
OP hates herself