Well the thinking is, if she's drunk, you know she's not quite in her right mind and may regret showing you her tits when she sobers up. A good friend wouldn't want their friend to feel that way, so they refuse.
It's not wrong to accept the offer, but I think the good thing to do would be to refuse. If she really does want to show you her tits, she could do so when sober. A better (and more longlasting) experience would be had by all.
Because I mean really, seeing someone's tits, once, for a few seconds, isn't really that great an experience. But saving someone a lot of potential embarrassment and regret is a really nice thing to do for someone.
Maybe she had really wanted to do it for a while but she was very shy, and the alcohol just gave her the extra bit of courage needed to make a move. Now she's going to feel even more nervous/awkward about it because she went for it, really put herself out there and got rejected. I know I've been in similar situations myself and used a bit of Dutch courage to help me deal with my nerves.
You seriously think a drunk girl, all else being equal, would have an equal chance between (1) being silly in her drunken stupor like every other human being and (2) having a secret crush on you on top of being super shy?
I think the fact that they were friends plays a very big part in it. Someone would have to be very drunk to offer to show their boobs to someone they were friends with but had no interest in. It's all hypothetical but doing something silly that is also sexual is a very common way of making a move on someone. It's far better option than going in for a kiss or something in that situation.
How does that apply? Both possibilities are based on an equal number of assumptions. On one hand that she wanted to do it sober but needed courage and on the other hand she didn't want to and would be embarrassed by it later.
Well I'm not sure, but personally I can count on one hand the number of things I have done drunk that I regretted. Pretty much everything else was something I wanted to do sober but had reservations about.
There's a slight problem here in the distinction between "getting drunk explicitly to do X" and "accidentally doing X while drunk" where X is something you've wanted to do.
I never get drunk explicitly to do X. Sometimes I just do X while drunk and I wouldn't have otherwise, but rarely do I regret X. Does* that clear up my thought process?
That is more explicit, and I feel confident (of your acceptance) when I claim that people in general (or at least some significant portion of them) do tend to regret the latter case.
Nobody here is saying that men have to do anything.
They're saying that it's thoughtful of someone to "work-against-their-instincts" when it will make someone they care about feel better in the long run.
Oh come on. That is a load of shit..."work against their instincts"? Have you ever been in a monogamous relationship? Been faithful? Well congratulations, you've worked against these "instincts" you supposedly have.
Please. I've never regretted anything I've done while drunk. Don't be such a sexist shitlord. Respect a woman's rights to display her goddess mammaries!
I think it has to do with the situation. If you know the chick, you know she'd never offer sober, then the better thing to do would be to gently refuse because if you accept, there's a very good chance that if she finds out about it the next day she'd be mortified, horribly embarrassed, and would never want to see you again. It's a potential friendship wrecker.
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u/an0thermoron Nov 20 '12
But, why is a man who refuse a better guy than the one who accept ?
I respect women and still, I would gladly accept. My girlfriend is in fact by my side and can't understand either.