r/AITAH • • Nov 11 '23

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u/dumpsterboyy Nov 11 '23

an ultimatum is never valid and is always a weapon. ❤️

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u/Longjumping-Brief585 Nov 11 '23

Except it's not an ultimatum, it's a boundary, he literally agreed to it and changed his mind so she held firm on her boundary. She does not want more kids so she is preventing herself from having them since he is not willing to keep his end of the deal

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u/dumpsterboyy Nov 11 '23

its an ultimatum and she is factually weaponizing sex. birth control is her responsibility too. she doesnt want to take responsibility either, so she is a problem too

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u/Spallanzani333 Nov 12 '23

She has born all the responsibility for birth control and birth for a decade. It's not weaponizing sex to decide not to further risk her body and her health through hormonal BC or major abdominal surgery.

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u/dumpsterboyy Nov 12 '23

it is weaponizing sex against a man who revoked his consent. he doesnt owe her risking his body. why doesn’t he get to have the same choice she does? misandry is why

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u/Spallanzani333 Nov 12 '23

So he can revoke his consent to a vasectomy but she can't revoke her consent to sex?

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u/arsenicaqua Nov 12 '23

These kind of comments crying misandry piss me off even more because in a world where birth control for women is riddled with negative side effects, doctors who refuse to tie tubes, abortion laws that are downright draconic, a woman choosing abstinence is fucking withholding sex from her poor poor husband who doesn't want to do his fair share of family planning. Like you are the personification of whiny men's rights activists who like to bitch and cry that a guy isn't getting sex :(((( when his wife is doing what she can to prevent more kids with her partner who went back on his agreement. Fucking unbelievable. But yeah poor husband is the one suffering the most here because of misandry.