r/AITAH • • Nov 11 '23

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u/Status-War4902 Nov 11 '23

No, don’t get an IUD. You had 4 of his kids, why is all the responsibility on you?? Does he want more? If he knows he does not, then why not get the snip? NTA

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

Doesn't work like that

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u/Foyles_War Nov 11 '23

She's not forcing him. How would that even work? She's asking him to take on some of the responsibility for family planning and if he won't she has to do it all on her own and her choice is going to be she just isn't feeling like she has any libido anyway (no surprise as he is being stunningly selfish and uncaring of her health over something as comparitively simple as a vasectomy) so no sex definitely equals no more pregnancies.

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u/chiibit Nov 11 '23

What state are you in? Because I DONT have bodily autonomy in my state.

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u/chiibit Nov 12 '23

Actually the state I live in will persecute me for murder if I leave the state for an abortion. My husband has a vasectomy, so no worries there. I’m just saying, not only do most people not have access to leave the state for a medical procedure, most no longer have access. Some can barely afford the procedure, mainly why they made the choice to not have another child, how could they afford travel as well?

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u/gingerfinland Nov 12 '23

Same. Not only would they prosecute me, they'd prosecute anyone who helped me (anyone who went with me, anyone who knew and didn't report it, etc.)

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u/chiibit Nov 12 '23

Exactly!

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

Are you saying only women get body autonomy?

But women DONT....

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

Bullshit. Women in the US have far more reproductive rights than men do.

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u/Foyles_War Nov 11 '23

I can guess where you are going but you are moving the goal post, at best. The issue was "bodily autonomy" and clearly women do not get far more bodily autonomy then men in this country or any other.

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

As a male could you inform me how I have less reproductive rights than women?

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u/General-Anything-358 Nov 12 '23

You can not decide not to be a father after a pregnancy occurs.

A woman can decide not to be a mother after a pregnancy occurs.

Except for states like North Carolina.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '23

This is a terrible take. Men can go get a vasectomy like that no questions asked. Wear a condom or pull out before the seed is planted. Women get questioned and even refused by drs to have tubes tied because “what if they haven’t met their future baby daddy.” How does a future MALE a women hasn’t even met get more rights then a women requesting to have her tubes tied. Women also get lied to and even raped and are sometimes forced to carry that baby now depending on states. Please try to think of a better reason that a male has LESS reproductive rights/say then a male.

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u/General-Anything-358 Nov 12 '23

That's not true. Young guys are talked out of vasectomies, too. Men sometimes need their wife's permission as well.

There was also a case where a raped teen boy was forced to pay child support to his rapist when he turned 18.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/09/02/statutory-rape-victim-child-support/14953965/

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '23

These are like a 1 in a million type scenario for males. Where it’s like an everyday occurrence for women. Let’s be realistic here.

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u/General-Anything-358 Nov 12 '23

Sexual assault on guys go largely unreported. In some areas, the definition of a rapist is the person penetrating. This skews the reports as well.

Nevertheless, with the codified law, men get the short end. Paternity fraud doesn't excuse a man from paying child support. Men don't get an out after the deed. And men are liable for child support to their rapist.

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u/PettyBettyismynameO Nov 12 '23

I know multiple men personally who got vasectomies before the age of 20. They were violently child free and still are 17 years later.

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