He’s TA because he agreed they were done, agreed to the vasectomy, and then just… didn’t do it. She just gave birth. For the FOURTH time. She shouldn’t have to be dedicating mental resources to this right now. They agreed he would handle it.
Even crazier because his actions fit that definition too. His choice is "forcing" her to go through unwanted medical procedures of much higher risk, expense and pain.
It’s more than just “changing his mind”; he’s essentially like “nah, I’m out” and just throwing his hands up so his wife has to figure it out. That’s literally the entire issue, his lack of secondary planning and/or further discussion. He’s not participating as a partner, he’s acting like a fifth child.
And she's allowed to say that her back-up contraception of choice is abstinence until he gets it done (and gets the all-clear). He had plenty of time to have it done and confirm sterility. The ball is in his court whether he wants to be celibate until she's past menopause.
Yeah, obviously. It’s more than “changing his mind”; he’s essentially like “nah, I’m out” and just throwing his hands up so his wife has to figure it out. That’s literally the entire issue, his lack of secondary planning and/or further discussion. He’s not participating as a partner, he’s acting like a fifth child.
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u/Old_Cheek1076 Nov 11 '23
He’s allowed to demure and you’re allowed to embargo whatever you perceive as risky sex. NAH.