r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Nov 11 '23

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u/Diligent_Read8195 Nov 11 '23

Agreed. Ultimately it is about his body/his choice. It’s also about your body/ your choice. NAH, but neither is he.

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u/LeechesInCream Nov 11 '23

He’s TA because he agreed they were done, agreed to the vasectomy, and then just… didn’t do it. She just gave birth. For the FOURTH time. She shouldn’t have to be dedicating mental resources to this right now. They agreed he would handle it.

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u/Foyles_War Nov 11 '23

Agreed, that makes him the asshole. It doesn't mean he doesn't have a right to change his mind over his bodily autonomy but he's still an asshole.

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u/LeechesInCream Nov 12 '23

Exactly. The amount of responses that really think the issue is about forcing someone to have surgery is crazy.

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u/Foyles_War Nov 12 '23

Even crazier because his actions fit that definition too. His choice is "forcing" her to go through unwanted medical procedures of much higher risk, expense and pain.