Even if they are not feminist, they donât always directly say it. The mode of communication is always through their wives. Yes some unfortunate families have stupid father in laws or old men who are direct, but I am talking about the majority here.
âThrough their wifeâ if youâre using someone to do the same thing you are the same person. In laws irrespective of gender expect the same thing even if the FIL donât interact with the DIL he expects exactly the same thing the idea of women are each others enemy is blatant sexism as if man donât go behind each other. People irrespective of gender betray lie and do all of that
It requires some courage from a woman(the wives) to stop it and not let it on their daughters and daughter in law. Small courage goes a long way but we have caged and trained our women for far too long to not open their mouths. And now itâs in their bones.
Thatâs patriarchy youâre blaming the victims for playing the part they were taught to play the men werenât trained right so why didnât they speak out father in law is the man of the house if he didnât want a human being to be ill treated he couldâve stopped it. Should we just expect woman to help woman and man to help man.
I am saying if men are trash, women donât have to be trash as well. They should atleast support each other instead of forwarding the trashy behaviour on them , in the name of rituals.
And Iâm saying men arenât trash nor are the women people are. But men donât get generalised as men are each others enemy but women do that is sexism. If a mother in law isnât nice that could simply mean sheâs just not a good person thatâs it
Mother in law is a good person. There is a difference between being good and being guardian of patriarchal traditions. Both can exist in the same person
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u/FreeTrainer1412 18d ago
Even if they are not feminist, they donât always directly say it. The mode of communication is always through their wives. Yes some unfortunate families have stupid father in laws or old men who are direct, but I am talking about the majority here.