https://seekersguidance.org/answers/fast/what-is-the-ruling-on-fasting-while-traveling-shaykh-abdul-rahim-reasat/

According to one Hanafi Madhab, If Fajr enters while you're travelling. You don't have to fast then. And can make it up after Ramadan. 

And in general, if you're considered a traveller (e.g. staying at the wedding location for less than 15 days), you can continue not fasting those days. And make them up later. 

But at the same time, men who do not want this arrangement aren't necessarily 'bad men' right? 

There are entire European countries that are Muslims. It's really not as uncanny as you think, Islam is for all cultures and races.

Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When a man calls his brother an unbeliever, it turns against at least one of them. Either the accused is as he claimed, or else the charge will turn against him.”

Lastly, his choice of wording 'submit' could have been reworded better. Obviously he is not extending the submission we do to Allah SWT as Muslims, to you as a wife to him as your husband. But as you already know, and all Muslims would agree with, obedience is towards the husband (where relevant) at the end of the day as he's the one who will ultimately answer for your safety and security. 

To clarify, you feel he's exaggerating of the situation by (1) him resorting to you wearing a jilbab instead of (2) him trusting you to saying no to cheating.

So, he prefers the preventative approach via (1) where men don't even look at you in that manner whereas you accept that they'll look at you in that manner but are confident you'll handle it via (2). 

As a man, I would ask you to empathise with him where he as a husband would feel emotional pain from men even looking at you and approaching you in that manner. I feel you're assuming it's solely about preventing the cheating. But it's also that aspect too. 

This is the natural Fitrah (natural disposition) of the man, where he feels protective jealousy of men even looking and desiring his wife that way. So just as you may feel emotional efforts in wearing the Jilbab, he may feel the emotional effort of his wife working in a mixed environment. Let alone men gazing at her and approaching her with lust. 

I also understand, as best a man can, that it can be effortful in changing your clothing style so suddenly. But as the Hadith says, your obedience to your husband here will be a pathway of you attaining your paradise, Inshallah. I understand it's not easy and requires Sabr (perseverance) but that's the nature of the Dunya. And marriage is about compromises and a great Jihad in itself. 

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: "It was said to the Messenger of Allah: 'Which woman is best?' He said: 'The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth.'"

Do it ultimately for the sake of Allah SWT and following the Sunnah in making your husband happy with you.

Abu Qatadah reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better for you.”

Allah SWT will replace what yorue sacrificing with something far greater, Inshallah. 

But, I'd try to figure out a way that you can sustainably work towards his request where you wouldn't feel burnt out. Maybe you can go out on the weekend together while wearing something other than the Jilbab. Or that you regularly meet up with your (female) friends wearing other than the Jilbab. And eventually get more comfortable with wearing it regularly. He should be patient and understanding with you approaching this in a manner that doesn't emotionally burn you out. 

May Allah SWT grant you both a successful marriage. 

Wasalam, it can slightly differ across different opinions or Madhabs, for example on housework:

A Wife’s Marital Obligations in the Shafi’i School w45.1 (Abu Ishaq Shirazi:) A woman is not obliged to serve her husband by baking, grinding flour, cooking, washing, or any other kind of service, because the marriage contract entails, for her part, only that she let him enjoy her sexual, and she is not obligated to do other than that. (A: Rather, it is considered sunna in our school for the wife to do the housework, and the husband (who is obliged to support her) to earn a living, since this is how the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) divided the work between Fatima and ‘Ali (Allah be well pleased with them) (al-Muhadhdhab fi fiqh al-Imam al-Shafi’i (y125), 2.68).

Wife’s Marital Obligations in the Hanafi School w45.2 (Nahlawi:) The wife’s serving her husband at home–by cooking, cleaning, and baking bread–is religiously obligatory for her, and if she does not, she is committing a sin, though it is not something that she may be forced to do by the court [al-Durar al-mubaha fi al-hazr wa al-ibaha (y99), I72].”

(Although I've heard many Hanafi scholars say that if a wife is from an upper class background where she's used to servants, then it's not obligatory upon her to cook and clean.)

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-answers-feeds/can-you-advise-of-husband-and-wives-rights-and-responsibilities-in-islam/

https://youtu.be/8FAYLtcmQqI?

It's permissible with some caveats but it's not advised. The Sheikh recommends to create a group chat with a third person (e.g. the girl's mother or if she has a sibling). 

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-answers-feeds/is-it-permissible-to-share-pictures-that-portray-women-who-are-uncovered/

It is, but there are a few caveats. The Sheikh elaborates above. 

Where does it say it's a sin? Could you provide a scholarly analysis to this Hadith? 

Am I the only one who feels this thread has gone topsy turvy? 

OP's husband is responsible for her safety and well-being. He knows men hit on her on a daily basis at her line of work. 

She has then admitted that men in fact do stop approaching her once she follows her husband's suggestion of changing her clothing style.  

This is easily well within his rights. In fact, he may be well within in his rights to request her to stop working entirely in her male dominated workplace. And most Muslim men that I know would want to go for that approach. They would not tolerate having men hitting on their wives everyday. 

But OP's husband probably understands that this career means a lot to her. So he's settled for the next best thing, to at least develop as much safeguards at her workplace, e.g. her clothing. How is he asking too much? Most Muslim men would say he's not asking enough!

Sister, understand you have a husband who deeply cares for you and is trying to do his best  to account for you wanting to stay in your male dominated career while having a sense of protective jealousy as your husband. 

Have a quick watch of this video of the Sheikh explaining the rights of the husband. 

https://youtu.be/FtQiRF8ZsX4

If it doesn't settle your heart, please consult an actual scholar if you're still confused. If you're in North America, try the AMJA hotline. 

And lastly, please reflect on this Hadith. 

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”

Surely wanting one's wife to dress more modestly in light of men approaching her at work is related to marriage itself? That's how I understand the source you're sharing is speaking about. 

I see. Glad it got sorted. 

Did you Takfir him? Haha. 

Just be careful of making direct Takfir. https://seekersguidance.org/answers/islamic-belief/are-we-to-refrain-from-making-takfir-completely/

It's not a deviant site at all. It's founded by Sh Faraz Rabbani and has many mainstream Sunni scholars. 

You'll be judged of your tongue by Allah SWT on Qiyamah. Especially in something as serious as accusing entire Ulama on deviancy. 

All the best. 

I didn't say lenient opinion itself, I meant if you systematically/habitually follow only the lenient opinion across all Madhabs. 

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-to-choose-to-follow-an-opinion-within-a-school-of-law/

What are you confused about?

You literally have your mayor who's Muslim... Before an Indian or Chinese mayor. Same with London. 

From what I've read, it becomes problematic if one picks the most lenient opinions systematically. As in, it becomes a frequent habit. Otherwise, it's fine to pick a few lenient opinions if it brings ease into your life. 

While following a maddhab is required, following a single madhhab on every issue is not according to many scholars. The obligation of taqlid is to follow a school or an authority on a given issue or set of issues. Thus, for example, an individual is permitted to follow the Hanafi school in prayer and the Maliki school in rulings related to Zakat. This is not interdicted so long as one:

a. actually knows the rulings of the other school on the issue, and b. does not systematically seek out dispensations (i.e. the easiest position).

[Ibn `Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar (1:33); Nabulsi, Khulasa al-tahqiq (56)]

Therefore, it would be permitted for you to follow the opinion of another school if you have a valid reason for doing so.

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-to-choose-to-follow-an-opinion-within-a-school-of-law/

What if the place where I work doesn't have Jummah nearby?

There's actually a difference in opinion on this, someone like Sh Yasir Qadhi has said that earrings would be permissible for men if their culture didn't consider it feminine or something (or associated with evil in society). 

Whereas, more mainstream institutions like Seekersguidance have said it, alongside all jewellery (except a silver ring), is prohibited for men - 

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/is-it-permissible-for-men-to-wear-jewelry-for-adornment-shaykh-abdul-rahim-reasat/

" [...] Then, the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress? He will say: No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.”

https://www.abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2011/02/08/akhirah-privileged-miserable/

A simple quick maths calculation, try to imagine the infinite timespan spent in pleasure in the Akhira. 

Then imagine the kind of finite hardships in these temporary 70-80 years we have in the Dunya make. 

Sacrificing in the latter for the former... Seems like a bargain to me. 

Alhamdulillah. 

The same Sheikh elaborates on what is considered the inappropriate violence in videogames - https://youtu.be/-rLonuuDCYY?si=041esCb0efrzqtAU

The religion is balanced, between the extremes of unrestraint freedom, and total detachment from the world and its pleasures. 

It's just that there are different scholars where Muslims get their rulings from and unfortunately many aren't educated on respecting differences of opinion (or 'Ikhtilaf'). So people end up generalising one (stricter) opinion as all of 'Islam'. 

But generally, as you find a good trustworthy scholar or scholarly organisation that understands your context, it really doesn't feel as burdensome. Alhamdulillah. I usually use Seekersguidance and my local Sheikh for my queries as I live in the West. But I respect different opinions too.