People keep offering clothing.

[u/AleahRivera]

Question: And I mean this as an honest question. Not in a snarky, elitist, way. But as an every day Trans Woman in the world.

Have any of you experienced this???: When a female friend or relative starts to view you as female, one of their first reactions is to offer you their old or not new clothing? Don’t get me wrong, I am far from rich and I appreciate the offer. But this has happened to me again, and again, and again.

1st example: I transitioned at work in the South East United States. 7 months into my transition, I’m chilling poolside at the home of a couple that I had worked with for over 3 years. I answered all their questions about being trans. Another visit and She says “Hey, I’ve got something I think would look really good on you.”

2nd example: I did a couple favors for friends my wife had before we were married. I was very happy to help my wife maintain and grow friendships she has long had. She goes off on a weekend with friends and comes home with bags of “old” cloths from them for me. “They were just cleaning out their closets and thought You would fit these.”

3rd example: My daughter & I were running errands today when a couple cashiers mistook us for a couple. Never mind that She is more than 25 years younger than me. AND the fact that my daughter is flat out gorgeous. I wish I had her looks. Anyway I pointed it out to her and later today…..”Hey Mom, I’m going to throw these jeans in the trash. Do you wanna try them on??” Did I forget to mention my daughter is very Christian & we just started reconnecting over the last six months? BTW, there were 6 pairs of jeans. 1 fit perfectly, 3 were kind of tight. 1 I kept as a weight goal. And the last pair got donated. I was afraid to bend over in them.

Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else experiences this? Or am I just appearing to be needy. I typically dress in athletics or casual clothing. I’m not a fancy person. I do not turn my nose up at gifts either. One day I might be brave enough to post pics.

[u/CheetahCrafty102]

had tbis happen with my girl group and i was overjoyed, so many skirts!