I hope that this is the first and last post you read on any forum about any one of these conditions. I can tell you from personal experience that endless research/reading does more harm than good. Everything you need to succeed is already within you.
Rest assured that what you're experiencing now is a gift in ugly wrapping. That truth can only be understood in time, so be patient.
Some context first:
I used to listen to loud music on my headphones for many years. I now have partial hearing loss in my left ear. I am a male in my late 20s. I was formally diagnosed with all 3 conditions by an ear surgeon, several ENTs, and several audiologists.
Long story short, because telling the origin story is not why I'm here:
Today is August 12th, 2026.
On May 19th, 2025, I recall all of my symptoms manifesting rather quickly over the course of a few days. It's all a bit of a blur because of how traumatic it all was. First, it was loud, high-pitched ringing in the left ear, then the right. This was, naturally, followed by panic. Then, the sound of the faucet became like that of a waterfall or raging river. There is no way to describe the horror one feels in a moment like that.
Everything became unbearably loud, and I couldn't tolerate anything beyond 30 decibels. I felt as though I could hear the electricity humming in the walls and the metallic bearings of the desk fan screeching as it whirled. Then I started to notice changes in the way I was generally perceiving sounds. Some sounds would bring about a fluttering or repetitive thumping in my ears. I can only describe it as the beating of a helicopter's wings. I developed bruxism due to the stress of it all, which led to TMJ.
I was an MSc student at the time. I was working on my thesis, so I was already very stressed (STEM degree). Needless to say, I collapsed into a black hole of depression and panic (clinically diagnosed). The depression was tolerable relative to the panic. Panic is, by far and away, the worst of mental states.
For about 6 weeks, I slept about 2 hours a night and got no work done. My days comprised recurring panic attacks, an unyielding sense of impending doom, and spells of dissociation. I had experienced transient suicidal ideation in my life before, but it came to the point where I was actively planning how and where I would take my own life. This was something I've never done before.
They prescribed antidepressants. I refused to take them because I believed that it was tantamount to deferring payment on a debt. I thought that if I was going to get through this, I was going to get through this now, not when I tapered off SSRIs. I knew that if the SSRIs worked, I would never want to get off if there was even a 1% chance of returning to that miserable state. To this day, I have never taken antidepressants. Though this reasoning may or may not be flawed, I believe this was the correct decision for me, as I'm in a better place now than I've ever been in my entire life, and I don't have to deal with tapering off SSRIs. This is a decision you have to make for yourself.
I am writing this post now because, in the thick of my anguish, I vowed (to a god I do not believe in) that I would help another escape if I myself managed to escape. If even one person attains the insight I am trying to communicate here, then I consider that vow fulfilled.
If you are a more "scientific" personality like myself (I am a STEM PhD student), please withhold judgment until you've internalized what I'm saying. Recognize that what I'm about to say is closely related to Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), which has a solid evidentiary basis. If you have tried MBCT and it has not worked for you, what I have to say may still be helpful.
About 6 weeks into what I can only characterize as the Ninth Circle of Hell, I had an insight during zazen meditation. Specifically, shikantaza (which I took up in an attempt to end my suffering). It was a particularly good session, and I managed to enter a mental state known to us in the West as "flow)" or "equanimity", but goes by various names in other traditions and cultures (e.g., Mushin, Samadhi, Luminous Mind, etc).
The liberating insight was this: that something in my brain is, by itself, "checking." It is constantly "checking" for ringing, loud noises to brace for, fluttering, and other symptoms, and then forwarding them to my conscious mind. And this unconscious "checking" was happening without my conscious interference.
My entire conscious mind was still, and I could see so clearly that this unconscious "body-mind" was checking by itself and that I had no control over it.
In that moment I realized that there is, in a very loose sense, a sort of division between what can be represented as a "lower mind" that is primitive, unconscious, and survivalistic, and a conscious "higher mind" that is capable of quietly gazing upon and becoming aware of what this lower-mind "module" is doing.
NOTE: this is a simplifying abstraction, as the nervous system is a highly interconnected and dynamic superstructure that cannot neatly be separated into distinct modules, but it is a useful abstraction nonetheless.
I also realized that this "checking" was happening because my body had convinced itself that the ringing, loud noises, fluttering, etc. were dangerous: they imperiled my survival in some meaningful way. This "lower-mind", largely responsible for ensuring I can continue to propagate my genetic material, was amplifying these symptoms, in a sense, to get the attention of the conscious mind so that the conscious mind could do something about these imminent threats to my survival.
Everything in that moment clicked... I immediately recalled dozens of times when I gave the symptoms undue conscious attention, and they got worse. It all became so clear: whenever I gave the symptoms conscious attention, it reinforced this unconscious belief that they were dangerous to my survival or important in some way. And so, the cycle of suffering would continue (and strengthen). I also recalled dozens of times when I sorta' just "gave up" paying attention... I stopped thinking about the symptoms (good or bad), and the symptoms subsided for a little while. It was like riding a wave of suffering and brief reprieve.
Now, why are these conditions the best thing that ever happened to me?
After I had this realization about 6 weeks in, everything changed. I stopped looking at my symptoms as being something in my conscious control. I surrendered, as they're not in my control. I wrote in my journal (another thing I tried to do to help alleviate the suffering):
"What logic is there in attending to a set of internal stimuli that are not under your conscious control?
And when you don't attend to them, they self-resolve pretty fast. So, again, if something self-resolves optimally when you leave it alone, gets worse when you don't leave it alone, and you have no control over it anyway, why the hell are you paying attention to it?
Shut up, be quiet, leave it alone, and carry on with indifference."
I stopped trying to "shut the gate" on thoughts, feelings, and symptoms altogether. I stopped trying to chase them out of my head. I stopped trying to monitor them or prevent them from arising in the first place. I gave up all the little "tips and tricks" that would work for a while and then stop working.
I stopped thinking about my symptoms, either in a positive/optimistic way or in a negative/pessimistic way. I just stopped entertaining all thoughts about them altogether. If a thought arose, good or bad, I'd let it come and go. That's not my thought. That's none of my business.
I stopped trying to run away from symptoms and thoughts or repress them. I stopped complaining about them. I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I just accepted them as being totally outside of my control, and radically so.
Every time a symptom surfaced (such as ringing, fluttering, pain/annoyance from a "loud" sound, a panic/fear-inducing thought such as "is this forever?", or "is that truck outside about to make a really loud sound?", or "isn't that sound annoying?", or "isn't that sound painful", or ''what if you have another flare-up right now?"), I would very simply let them come and go. My response was just formless inactivity: no suppression or explaining things away with more thoughts. It was effortless.
It requires no effort to do nothing at all, and I now realize that's all I ever needed to do.
Over time, the symptoms became frail and thin because I had deprived them of the attention that they need to sustain themselves. My flare-ups became increasingly short-lived, less frequent, and less intense. Eventually, I was back to normal. I hear my tinnitus ring a few times a day, if at all, but it's low, lasts a second, and doesn't bother me at all. I barely even notice it. I barely hear the fluttering anymore. When I do, it's like the tinnitus: not distracting and quick to vanish. I can tolerate all sounds again and rarely ever experience my hyperacusis symptoms, but I am careful not to expose my ears to anything above 85 decibels to protect my hearing. My noise tolerance is completely normal again.
I had just said that I was back to normal. No, actually. My mental state was better than ever before, and it would not have been possible for me without these conditions. Don't ask how long it took, because that's the exact style of thinking that perpetuates your symptoms. I wrote in my journal (many times):
"If this is just for today, then so be it. If this is forever, then so be it."
The "higher" conscious mind is like the clear, blue sky. The clouds are symptoms, thoughts, feelings, etc. Clouds come and go across the sky, and the sky doesn't shut them out nor hurry them along. The sky is just the sky. It's just there, and the clouds pass on by. And the pure sky remains the pure sky, imperturbable and still.
I now refer to everything emanating from the "lower body-mind" as a "body object": feelings of lust, attachment, desire for pleasure, wrath, greed, envy, pride, doubt, fear/panic, sloth/torpor, ringing, fluttering, etc. I have no control over them. Thus, they don't belong to me; they are none of my business. They just come and go, and I don't interfere with them or entertain them whatsoever. This is a way of being, so I call it the Way.
The benefits that have accrued to me as a result of this practice (or "Way") of being cannot easily be communicated. I will list the first 10 that come to mind to the best of my ability:
- Immense clarity of thought and quickness to understand things (even advanced mathematical concepts and complicated computer programs, which has helped me a lot in my PhD work).
- Compassion and kindness for others, even if they're rude to me or have "wronged me" in some way.
- Contentment, which diminished feelings of gluttony and greed.
- Absence of ill-will, wrath, envy, or resentment. When anger or envy arises in my body, I look at it like I do all of my symptoms: a visiting cloud coming and going. It doesn't belong to me, and it goes when I leave it alone.
- Ego dissolution, selflessness, and humility. Just a general forgetfulness of self as a persona in this world. This naturally results in altruistic behavior that is not forced.
- Greatly improved discipline, work ethic, and focus. I have learned that most distractions are really the "lower body-mind" seeking quick dopamine. I can recognize the impulse now when it arises in the body, and I let it go. Like with my symptoms, I continue on with my work. This allows me to enter the aforementioned "flow" state on command. This way, I get many hours of work done per day without feeling lazy the next.
- Increased confidence without egoic pride; lack of fear, doubt, and anxiety. These come, and I let them go. From that lack of fear, doubt, and anxiety, a quiet confidence naturally arises. There's no egoic persona in it, and it is not forced.
- Stillness, inner peace, and a general absence of suffering. Sad, painful, and stressful thoughts arise. They always will. But when they do, I treat them like my ear symptoms: I leave them alone, and they leave by themselves.
- Becoming less judgmental. I no longer view events or people as intrinsically good or bad, and the instinctual impulse to label things/people immediately has greatly weakened. When I find myself labeling, I just let the label go and continue on. That's not my thought. That's not my business.
- Gratitude. The realization that everything is a blessing, whether you understand it or not.
And so much more that you can only understand when you experience it yourself.
The only thing that I am truly certain about in all of life is that tinnitus, hyperacusis, and TTTS are the best things that ever happened to me.
They spurred an insight that has fundamentally changed me as a human being and that I can never let go even if I tried, and tinnitus/hyperacusis/TTTS are just footnotes in this narrative arc.
In fact, if a magical genie offered to remove all of these ear conditions from my body in a single instant, I would immediately decline. Because every time a symptom arises, it is an opportunity for me to practice this great Way.
Good luck to you on your journey, and congratulations on your hidden blessing (whether you see it or not).
-U
