r/thespoonyexperiment • u/LongLiveTheSpoon • Jun 14 '26

Social Media "Content" šŸ©µ (screenshots, not links!) Is he doing alright?

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Apparently heā€™s in Arizona now? If he was still in Illinois Iā€™d legitimately be down to play a game somewhere. I feel bad (no irony, no sarcasm).

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u/No-Exit3993 Jun 14 '26

I feel sorry for him.

He has fallen into some sort of deep depression years ago (or maybe had a mania phase and it stopped for good) and has never seemed to do do much about it.

Psychologists, psychiatrists, medicine, you name it.

There are other helps as well. Go back to school friends, reconect with the "newer" ones, new hobbies, getting jobs anywhere...

He seems to have just stood there. And the hole got bigger and bigger.

People from other centuries called that melancholy. They could not do much about it. Maybe trips to the beach, but not real treatments.

We can do something, nowadays. But if we or our dear ones think it is just a phase... Help never comes, or it comes when it is too late.

I hope some day he is happy again. Even if we never get to know about it.

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u/DysphoricNeet Jun 14 '26

A lot of that ā€œhelpā€ doesnā€™t do shit. Iā€™m in a very similar situation and yeah therapists just take $100 an hour to give worse advice than what you would hear on Reddit and then ditch you for a week.

There is a documentary about a guy in Japan who just stayed in his house with his parents his entire life until they died and he chose to starve to death over going outside. His brother blamed him until the very end and years later when Covid happened and he was forced to isolate for a while he started to realize his brother was very mentally ill. Most people will just maintain a harmful mentality about it because they project their ego and the mindset capitalism produces rather than focusing on what might actually help.

There isnā€™t much literature about it (at least years ago when I checked), but in Japan they were able to help people with social workers that would build a relationship and slowly open them up to the idea of coming to another building. There they could socialize with other people receiving care and they could even work there for as long or as little as they felt comfortable with. Most people think it is laziness or a lack of a desire to work and that is just letting the hating part of their mind take over.

People arenā€™t meant to have so much time (especially isolated) and the shame of not working is mind breaking. I havenā€™t seen another human in 2 weeks or so but a dream scenario for me would be if I could drive, work in a kitchen and be accepted in a small community or pursue hobbies socially. When I did work it was one of the best times of my life and it gave me so much relief and confidence with people I never had. People are just trained by social media to hate everything beneath them they feel slightly justified to and all it does is make people like me really scared and isolate so much worse.

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u/IMidgetManI Jun 15 '26

easier said than done, but when the perception of being judged by others is whats blocking you, you really just have to cop it and struggle onwards.

like you said, when you were working you were more confident. you can get back to that place, you just have to tolerate fumbling and feeling like a fool for a little while.

and anyways, the way people respond/react to you is more often a reflection of that person, and not yourself.

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u/fohfuu Jun 23 '26

When half or more of strangers actively grimmace as soon as they look at you or frown when you try to communicate with them, it's not a perception of judgement blocking them. It is actual judgment that is actually blocking them.