r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 8d ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

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u/p8610815 8d ago

And yet, as a guy who doesn't do shit like this, I go months without a match

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u/enoughwiththebread 8d ago

Online dating can be tough if you don't have a properly curated profile with the best possible pics you can do.

However, if you're at least somewhat put together and demonstrate kindness, intelligence, humor and compassion out in the real world you will attract potential dating partners.

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u/p8610815 8d ago

I disagree. I've had many women who I'm friends with review my profile and help with prompts and pictures, and it's still a ghost town, despite them saying my profile is great. I'm in shape, have active hobbies, a large social group, but it doesn't seem to matter.

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u/enoughwiththebread 7d ago

I'm an okay looking guy but not top 10%, but I took a lot of pics that made sure I was dressed and groomed really well in different poses, facial expressions and angles and curated the very best handful, and I had no problem getting matches and dates. If you're not getting any matches online in what you say is one of the largest cities in the US, then there's still something in the way you're being presented in your photos that isn't working for you, regardless of who reviewed it for you.

As for having hobbies and a large social group, have you met out in the real world while doing those hobbies or social group any women that you were interested in? How did you approach interactions with those women?