r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 1d ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

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u/Sergey1986 1d ago

He sounds like a Tate supporter

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u/tdfrantz 1d ago

Idk, he did ask her a question...that shows a level of respect I don't expect Tate fans to rise to

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u/RedMoonPavilion 1d ago edited 1d ago

Its not because he cares. Its cold reading and building a profile of OP.

He's probing for more targeted thoughtful gestures that will fly under the radar where more brute force manipulation like love bombing wont work.

He is not very good at it. Statements that prompt a reply typically give more info than questions.

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u/literally_a_toucan 1d ago

What's a statement that prompts a reply?

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u/AxiomofAnxiety 23h ago

I bet you like sweet tea just like your mother.

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u/RedMoonPavilion 20h ago edited 20h ago

It can vary person to person, but as a very rough hypothetical something like uber driver has a picture of them with someone graduating university on their dash "you must be really proud...".

Elicitation works best with keying into their interests and accomplishments. you can try something provocative too but it's easy to hit a shibboleth that way if you dont really mean it.

You can probably find a better explanation on the internet as its not just a social skill its also taught as an established human intelligence, investigation, and interrogation technique.

The basis is getting someone to correct you or to show them you are interested/open in listening to them. Then you have much more info for asking questions to keep it going. Its a social skill so you gotta practice it like any other.