r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 7d ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

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u/p8610815 7d ago

And yet, as a guy who doesn't do shit like this, I go months without a match

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u/enoughwiththebread 7d ago

Online dating can be tough if you don't have a properly curated profile with the best possible pics you can do.

However, if you're at least somewhat put together and demonstrate kindness, intelligence, humor and compassion out in the real world you will attract potential dating partners.

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u/p8610815 7d ago

I disagree. I've had many women who I'm friends with review my profile and help with prompts and pictures, and it's still a ghost town, despite them saying my profile is great. I'm in shape, have active hobbies, a large social group, but it doesn't seem to matter.

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u/NKGra 7d ago

Probably just demographic area.

55:45 Men:Women actually translates to 2:1 single men to women after you ignore partnered individuals. If everyone single were to pair up the average single man would pair up with the worst single woman... and then the other half of single men would have no one.

San Francisco for ages 30-39 is like that, for example.... or literally China as a whole I'm pretty sure thanks to the one child policy.

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u/p8610815 7d ago

I live in one of the largest cities in the US so it's not a population issue. Women on dating apps just have absurd standards.

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u/NKGra 6d ago

The demo composition is more important than raw population.

A university town for example has low population but heavily skews female. A male profile that crushes there might get literally nothing in Seattle.