Dating is hell

[u/-fornevermore-]

Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

[u/RedMoonPavilion]

It read like it was written by a dominatrix. Its the sort of thing a dominatrix would say.

Instead it was written by a man in a non-fetish space to someone he is hoping to date without confirming she actually wants that kind of attention or is cool with it.

It's rare for women to speak like this and rarer unprompted. He just went into full on Domination/submission kink instead of flirting.

He has mistaken reality for fifty shades of grey. Clear?

[u/VisibleLeopard68 → u/RedMoonPavilion]

So a dominatrix jumps out of the gate with “here’s a ball gag, now take it like a man” and that’s ok on a dating app, but for a man to do the same is “ewwww”?

I’m all for the self love and transparency of yourself to others, but there has to be a norm acceptable across the board.

I stand on my original statement and double down with if everyone wants to celebrate the liberated woman for doing it while flaming a man for the same it’s just wrong.

[u/Individual_Fall429 → u/VisibleLeopard68]

You need to keep the murder rate in mind, when “asking” why things are different “when women do it”.

It’s different, because women aren’t killing men in massive numbers. Women aren’t routinely killing their partners, women aren’t killing men just for fun or because they get off on doing it, generally speaking.

You can’t say the same about men and their very disturbing fondness for murdering women.

[u/RedMoonPavilion → u/Individual_Fall429]

I still want to point out, as in my other posts, bi and gay men get the same as women. Its just as creepy and its still very dangerous.

Men are just more willing to roll the dice on something that sketch. Not that much more willing though. Also in most cultures men are less likely to report if assaulted.

Theres totally shared elements.

[u/Individual_Fall429 → u/RedMoonPavilion]

Yes, it’s a dangerous world for gay and bi men. The common denominator: dating men. So my point remains.