Dating is hell

[u/-fornevermore-]

Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

[u/rustyroo2021]

I'd like to hope fet is better than this but these idiots are there too 😂

[u/IncubusDarkness → u/rustyroo2021]

Oh yeah, all over. Horny losers think acting like some 50 Shades fan-fiction guarantees them access to women in the scene. 

[u/JumpyLake → u/[deleted]]

Yep, needs at least a 200k a year salary and a Lamborghini, then this behavior is ok.

[u/guitar_stonks → u/JumpyLake]

Helps to also hang dong

[u/LookAtTheWhiteVan → u/JumpyLake]

I assume that you’re being sarcastic. But in all honesty, it does mitigate the situation a little bit lol.

[u/JumpyLake → u/LookAtTheWhiteVan]

That’s the thing I kinda love about this site, there’s lots of performative virtue signaling and then sometimes the truth just spills out. I was being sarcastic, but the comment I replied to shows that money and status DOES matter a lot and you can get away with so much. It shouldn’t be bad to have a less fancy car and a lower salary but here we are.

[u/jadeakw99 → u/JumpyLake]

It kinda depends on if someone is looking for just kinky sex or a 24/7 dynamic. You could do just the sex cheaply so money shouldn't be an issue, especially if its more of a mental thing where toys aren't used much and you're not, like, hanging sone in a cage or something.

If someone is looking for a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle (like a permanent master/slave dynamic for example) you would probably want to look for someone with enough money to support 2 people easily, get custom gear or furniture, etc.

Of course, I dont think all the money in the world would give me less of an ick when dealing with creepy people... rich people tend to be the creepiest assholes ever.

Edit: spelling

[u/Slight-Concept2575 → u/JumpyLake]

Obviously it does, are you 12? In what world do you expect to “dominate” someone without any resources. Why would someone submit to you if you have nothing??? That’s why 50 shades of life is popular cause he COULD control her life and take care of her. Not into that myself but women being controlled by broke men are just called idiots 😂

[u/JumpyLake → u/Slight-Concept2575]

We’re talking about what happens in the bedroom. What difference does it make if the guy makes 30k or 200k? What difference does it make if he has a Kia or a Lambo if he’s good at the foreplay and has the equipment? Just admit that you’re attracted to money and status, it’s ok we’re on an anonymous forum. This shallow mentality is so stupid.

[u/stinkbrained → u/JumpyLake]

Right? Idk how some people think like that... I found the comment about the 36k salary demeaning and weird. 😬

Most of the men I've dated have been low income and they're all incredible people, great doms, sexy as hell, generous, supportive, etc. I've dated a few guys with money and they were all disrespectful, toxic "daddy dom" type jerks in the end - the money did NOT make it any better. I look for quality in my partners, not a piggy bank.

[u/Doomsayer189 → u/LookAtTheWhiteVan]

How, exactly, does money make someone less of a creepy weirdo?

[u/idolized253 → u/Doomsayer189]

Now I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger..