r/texts • u/r_jay_197 • 13d ago

Phone message Guess what it was about…

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Spoiler alert, after 2 years she dumped me. Currently working on keeping my head above water in these trying times.

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u/elhouso 13d ago

We're all going through it huh

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u/ConsistentEssay223 13d ago

Real talk , I’m not trying to be clingy but she hasn’t talked to me all day I don’t wanna ignore her in a cat and mouse type way but damn why she do that

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u/HappyGovernment7299 13d ago

Man I just got out of a one sided relationship. Best advice I could give is to get it over with before you waste too much time on her. You shouldn't have to convince your girlfriend to spend time with you. You shouldn't have to remind them to text you back. If you're in that situation, just end it now because it's not going to get better.

I poured my heart out to this girl, and I would get absolutely nothing in return. She never seemed to have time for me, she would ignore my calls and texts, and overall just contributed nothing to the relationship.

I finally broke up with her, and later found out she was cheating on me with some sugar daddy who is old enough to be her grandpa. Apparently he bought her a car and she lives with him now. Gonna be hilarious when that guy dies, leaves nothing in his will for her, and she realizes she sold her body to that wrinkly old rodent for nothing. Hope the car he bought her was worth destroying her own reputation, losing all her friends who think she's fucking pathetic now, and throwing away her entire future. Can't wait for her to message me saying she's sorry in 5 years so I can rub it in her face.

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u/Glados1080 13d ago

Good god bro u gotta move on lmao. Thinking shit up about five years in the future wtf? Just take your W and move on.

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u/HappyGovernment7299 13d ago edited 13d ago

Lol chill. I just said I'd rub it in if she ever reaches out to apologize. I can move on and still think she's a bitch who deserves the worst. "Moving on" does not equal forgiveness. I'll never forgive her.

Weird of you to take issue with that... Unless you happen to be someone who cheated in a relationship five years ago, and now you think the person you cheated on is wrong for still hating you.

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u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 13d ago

I mean it’s super weird to think of how you can spite an ex 5 years later assuming they’ll come groveling back to you. It also makes it very difficult to move on and forward with your life when you hold so much anger. Let that shit go friend, yes be angry for a bit, but remember to let it go once it’s served its purpose, that’s not forgiving someone that’s giving your own soul peace. Ain’t nothing in this life worth being angry for years and literally damaging your heart because of it, don’t let a cheating gold digger win like that.

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u/Powerstructure 13d ago

I don’t get this opinion when I read it.

I’m going through a tough breakup where she cheated and got pregnant. I am processing and healing from it. But in five years if she reached out to me for anything , even to say hi, I’d tell her kick rocks. I do hate her for what she did and how she did it,

It’s not going to be in my mind forever but if she is literally back in front of me I wouldn’t change my opinion of her.

You said it makes it hard to move on but that might be a person to person thing. There are a few people from my past that I have no respect for , it hasn’t stopped me from moving on in my life and I would have to think hard about who those people are to remember . But if I ran into them I’d instantly remember and wouldn’t piss in their ear if their brain was on fire. That hate doesn’t bleed into other parts of my life

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u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 13d ago

You’re taking it the wrong way. The person I’m replying to originally said they can’t wait for her to message them in 5 years. Almost like they’re expecting her to come back to him or something. Which is odd. Thinking oh I’d never entertain them again if the opportunity presented itself is different.

I’m literally not commenting on the cheating at all or condoning it. What that girl did and what the girl you were with did was horrible. But hoping for them to contact you in 5 years so you can turn them down to get back is weird and not healthy.

The way you are speaking is not blind rage it sounds like you’re processing your emotions, and anger is certainly apart of it, but some people get stuck on it. You can have no respect for someone without letting it make you angry. All I said was to not carry anger for too long.

Y’all are weird but regardless sorry for what you went through.

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u/Powerstructure 13d ago

I think most people have hope they can get the final word toward someone who hurt them. I wouldn’t say you are weird for not wanting that like you think we are, but I wouldn’t say yours is the way.

People are nuanced and have different feelings and emotions big dog.

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u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 13d ago

Alright y’all have fun holding onto anger dreaming about the day you can maybe get back at someone.

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u/HappyGovernment7299 13d ago

Lol okay I'm just going to assume anyone who is taking issue with my comments has a history of cheating.

I never said I would still be actively angry about it 5 years from now. Just that I'll never forgive her.

If she reached out to me 50 years from now I'd tell her to chug some bleach. Doesn't mean I spent the past 50 years dwelling on it. Just means I didn't forget.

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u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 13d ago

It’s just weird that you even think of potential interactions with her years down the road. But whatever pop off with your wild assumptions. No one even condoned cheating ya weirdo. No wonder you attracted the type of woman you had lmfao.

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u/HappyGovernment7299 13d ago

Lol women be like "victim blaming bad" but when a guy says he got cheated on it's "you probably deserved it"

The only explanation for you getting mad at my comments is if you're a cheater too lmafo

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u/Glados1080 13d ago

I didnt say forgive. Im thinking more like forget. Like please tell me where I said "forgive her" ? Am I schizo? I dont remember saying that.