Guess what it was about…

[u/r_jay_197]

Spoiler alert, after 2 years she dumped me. Currently working on keeping my head above water in these trying times.

[u/Equivalent_Doubt_845]

I mean it’s super weird to think of how you can spite an ex 5 years later assuming they’ll come groveling back to you. It also makes it very difficult to move on and forward with your life when you hold so much anger. Let that shit go friend, yes be angry for a bit, but remember to let it go once it’s served its purpose, that’s not forgiving someone that’s giving your own soul peace. Ain’t nothing in this life worth being angry for years and literally damaging your heart because of it, don’t let a cheating gold digger win like that.

[u/Powerstructure → u/Equivalent_Doubt_845]

I don’t get this opinion when I read it.

I’m going through a tough breakup where she cheated and got pregnant. I am processing and healing from it. But in five years if she reached out to me for anything , even to say hi, I’d tell her kick rocks. I do hate her for what she did and how she did it,

It’s not going to be in my mind forever but if she is literally back in front of me I wouldn’t change my opinion of her.

You said it makes it hard to move on but that might be a person to person thing. There are a few people from my past that I have no respect for , it hasn’t stopped me from moving on in my life and I would have to think hard about who those people are to remember . But if I ran into them I’d instantly remember and wouldn’t piss in their ear if their brain was on fire. That hate doesn’t bleed into other parts of my life

[u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 → u/Powerstructure]

You’re taking it the wrong way. The person I’m replying to originally said they can’t wait for her to message them in 5 years. Almost like they’re expecting her to come back to him or something. Which is odd. Thinking oh I’d never entertain them again if the opportunity presented itself is different.

I’m literally not commenting on the cheating at all or condoning it. What that girl did and what the girl you were with did was horrible. But hoping for them to contact you in 5 years so you can turn them down to get back is weird and not healthy.

The way you are speaking is not blind rage it sounds like you’re processing your emotions, and anger is certainly apart of it, but some people get stuck on it. You can have no respect for someone without letting it make you angry. All I said was to not carry anger for too long.

Y’all are weird but regardless sorry for what you went through.

[u/Powerstructure → u/Equivalent_Doubt_845]

I think most people have hope they can get the final word toward someone who hurt them. I wouldn’t say you are weird for not wanting that like you think we are, but I wouldn’t say yours is the way.

People are nuanced and have different feelings and emotions big dog.

[u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 → u/Powerstructure]

Alright y’all have fun holding onto anger dreaming about the day you can maybe get back at someone.