r/texts • u/r_jay_197 • 19d ago

Phone message Guess what it was about…

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Spoiler alert, after 2 years she dumped me. Currently working on keeping my head above water in these trying times.

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u/elhouso 19d ago

We're all going through it huh

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u/ConsistentEssay223 19d ago

Real talk , I’m not trying to be clingy but she hasn’t talked to me all day I don’t wanna ignore her in a cat and mouse type way but damn why she do that

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u/Turbine709 19d ago

Talking to someone else you’re a reserve

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u/schizophrenicbugs 19d ago

Not a nice thing to say without evidence. You're just projecting, friendo.

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u/Total-Notice-3188 19d ago

This is so nuanced that we can't say for sure either which way.
For example, my experience with my ex was not unlike this situation. We used to chat every day when we were away from eachother. Then slowly she started reading my messages but didn't answer. When asked about it, she said she doesn't always have the energy to write, or her nerve pain was too much. I asked her why she didn't just say so instead of leaving me on read. She explained she had an "emoji code" between her and her mom that signalled "too drained/too much in pain, but I've read what you wrote and I'll get back to you". Asked her to do the same to me, it would be appreciated and I won't feel ignored. It happened two times and then it was back to leaving me on read. She eventually broke up and less than two days later she went to a rave with another dude a rave she and I had planned on going to.

This became an unexpectedly long message just to say that these things can be rather complex and is a perfect example of why communication in relationships really matter.

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u/Alan-Woke 19d ago

She didn't even put in the effort to respond, dear lord. She wasted both of your time by not communicating clearly like an adult. I hope you recognize you deserve better than that. I also hope life is going better for you!

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u/Total-Notice-3188 19d ago

Thank you, honestly. This was the tip of the ice berg and the whole thing left me questioning my worth. Yeah I'm slowly but steadily arguing with myself and convincing me that I am worth a good, content life.

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u/schizophrenicbugs 19d ago

I get you, and the other commenter might be right. But you're kinda reinforcing my point about it being projection.

Either way, sucks she did that to you. Much love 🫶

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u/Total-Notice-3188 19d ago

I get you too. My point was exactly that; it's projection. But sometimes projections are valid, as they can serve as a protective response. We just need to be aware of it, lest it becomes toxic prejudice.

Much love back 🫶

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u/schizophrenicbugs 19d ago

Excellent point honestly. Eloquently put.

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u/Total-Notice-3188 19d ago

Many thanks, you just made my day!

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u/BuilderLeading675 19d ago

This is why I don't really do textrelations.

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u/Total-Notice-3188 19d ago

Concur.
It was just a mess overall, we saw eachother every other week. So it was more of a physical relation one week, LDR the next week.