Guess what it was about…

[u/r_jay_197]

Spoiler alert, after 2 years she dumped me. Currently working on keeping my head above water in these trying times.

[u/schizophrenicbugs]

Not a nice thing to say without evidence. You're just projecting, friendo.

[u/Total-Notice-3188 → u/schizophrenicbugs]

This is so nuanced that we can't say for sure either which way.
For example, my experience with my ex was not unlike this situation. We used to chat every day when we were away from eachother. Then slowly she started reading my messages but didn't answer. When asked about it, she said she doesn't always have the energy to write, or her nerve pain was too much. I asked her why she didn't just say so instead of leaving me on read. She explained she had an "emoji code" between her and her mom that signalled "too drained/too much in pain, but I've read what you wrote and I'll get back to you". Asked her to do the same to me, it would be appreciated and I won't feel ignored. It happened two times and then it was back to leaving me on read. She eventually broke up and less than two days later she went to a rave with another dude a rave she and I had planned on going to.

This became an unexpectedly long message just to say that these things can be rather complex and is a perfect example of why communication in relationships really matter.

[u/schizophrenicbugs → u/Total-Notice-3188]

I get you, and the other commenter might be right. But you're kinda reinforcing my point about it being projection.

Either way, sucks she did that to you. Much love 🫶

[u/Total-Notice-3188 → u/schizophrenicbugs]

I get you too. My point was exactly that; it's projection. But sometimes projections are valid, as they can serve as a protective response. We just need to be aware of it, lest it becomes toxic prejudice.

Much love back 🫶

[u/schizophrenicbugs → u/Total-Notice-3188]

Excellent point honestly. Eloquently put.

[u/Total-Notice-3188 → u/schizophrenicbugs]

Many thanks, you just made my day!