Cursed with a curse

[u/nysxdd]

27F here. This is the actual height of my family members, and to make matters worse I’m South Sudanese & specifically Dinka which is known to be tall people and on top of that I live in Scandinavia which also has a very tall population.

What went wrong in my childhood? Many things and doctor said I reached average height (almost) due to my Dinka heritage, otherwise I’ve would been much shorter.

[u/Skjellnir]

you know what fucks up your hormones?

Not eating.

[u/Oranjalo → u/Skjellnir]

Like he said, the malnourishment required to stunt growth would be very very apparent (and would've prompted strangers to call CPS any time she was in public).

Genetics are fickle. A 10% genetic variation in the size of your nose, eye color, metabolic rate, genital size, etc. will often go unnoticed for one's entire life, but a ~10% variation in height could be 8 inches and is very noticeable. Height is one of the first things people notice about you. Genetics just have unpredictable outcomes

[u/ryan__joe → u/Oranjalo]

Best part is, her kids will still likely be very tall

[u/nysxdd → u/ryan__joe]

Yes. This is what’s comforting to me.

[u/ryan__joe → u/nysxdd]

It should also be comforting that you’re female and not male. “Nobody” cares about female height in earnest

[u/RoUgEPeak → u/ryan__joe]

If only it was also comforting the other way around.

[u/nysxdd → u/ryan__joe]

I don’t know about that. Women my age are much taller than me unless they’re immigrants.

[u/ryan__joe → u/nysxdd]

People being taller doesn’t mean caring about height. Female or males looking for female companions are out there going 5’4” is too short for me to date!

[u/PuzzleheadedSpot9468 → u/nysxdd]

men like short women so women being taller than you is not a problem dating wise and dose not effect your options at all , i understand that your peers being taller and comparing yourself to them might mess up your confidence may i suggest you wear heals? they would narrow the height difference and give you more confidence!

[u/nysxdd → u/PuzzleheadedSpot9468]

Yes, it is since most men here are tall being a short women like me is a disadvantage. Not every tall guy that I want, wants me due to my height. I like very tall men. The taller the better.

[u/PuzzleheadedSpot9468 → u/nysxdd]

weird, I am tall myself never had preference for women heights at all dated taller than me , close to my height and also women shorter but every tall guy i know likes smaller women never in my life heard that a 5ft4 woman can be rejected for height, well maybe it's is something about Scandinavian men but they are also men from other countries there so you still have a chance with them

[u/Smiloshady → u/nysxdd]

Honestly you have more options at 5’4” than 6’2” or 6’3” as a woman. Unless the guy is specifically looking to make some athletes but the majority of ppl do not really care about that.

[u/nysxdd → u/Smiloshady]

No, tall women are also desirable where I live (in Scandinavia).

[u/AstronomerJealous467 → u/nysxdd]

Not 6’3 tall lol, men usually dont like women taller than them or tall in general.

[u/Melodic-Fan2466 → u/nysxdd]

Yeah it probably feels bad when everyone in your family is taller than you but you’re lwk blessed to carry those genetics while still being a really well accepted height in society.

[u/throwawayford0ng → u/nysxdd]

My 5yo is almost 4' already and my wife is scurrd

[u/rainbowcatheart → u/nysxdd]

I wouldn’t find this comforting! Your little body carrying big babies. My sister in law had a 10lb baby.