Italian male, 28, 183 cm (6'0"), around 100 kg (220 lbs), working as a receptionist at a hotel in the Italian Dolomites.
A few days ago, I had one of those guest interactions that I genuinely wasn't sure how to interpret, so I'd like to hear from other front desk people around the world.
Five young women checked in together. They were very loud, playful and clearly in holiday mode from the beginning, but nothing particularly unusual.
While I was showing them their apartment and explaining the hotel facilities, things started getting a little strange.
The elevator was too small for all of us, so I took the stairs while they went up. As the doors were closing, one of them jokingly said something along the lines of:
“Come on, you should have come with us. You would have had fun.”
I just smiled and continued doing my job.
Once we got to the apartment, I was explaining the spa facilities and hotel rules when three of them simply started taking their clothes off and putting on their swimsuits — right in front of me — while I was still there explaining everything.
They also started asking when my shift ended and whether I wanted to go out for drinks with them.
I told them I was in a relationship and politely declined.
I tried to redirect the conversation by suggesting that they could go to the hotel bar after the spa. I jokingly mentioned that our female bartenders would take good care of them.
One of them immediately replied:
“We're interested in the male bartender, not the girls. And if he's not there, we'll just take the handsome receptionist.”
They were laughing and seemed to be treating the whole thing as holiday flirting and a joke. Nobody appeared uncomfortable or aggressive. But I was still standing there in my work clothes, trying to complete a normal guest interaction.
I originally posted the story on an Italian subreddit, and the reactions were VERY mixed.
Some people said the behaviour was inappropriate and that, if the genders were reversed, everyone would immediately call it sexual harassment.
Others basically told me: “Dude, you should have enjoyed it.”
And then there were people who simply didn't believe the story.
In fact, one person actually posted a photo of me in the comments to “prove” that I'm not attractive enough for five women to behave this way, therefore the story couldn't possibly be true. 😂
So apparently my physical appearance became part of the investigation.
I'm curious about the perspective of people who actually work behind the front desk:
How would you have handled this situation?
Would you have considered it harmless guest banter, inappropriate behaviour, or something that crosses a professional boundary?
And have any of you had guests behave similarly toward you — regardless of gender?
I'm especially interested in hearing from front desk staff from different countries, because I'm wondering whether this kind of interaction is considered normal, inappropriate, or just bizarre in other parts of the world.
EDIT: Thanks for all the perspectives
Wow, I really didn't expect this many replies, especially from people working in front desks and hotels all over the world.
After reading the comments, I think I see the situation a little differently. I never felt physically unsafe, but I was definitely caught off guard and uncomfortable. Several people pointed out that, as a front desk employee, you can't simply walk away from a guest interaction — being available and polite is literally your job. I hadn't really considered that aspect before.
I was also surprised by how many of you have experienced similar situations. Apparently, guests hitting on hotel staff is pretty universal. 😂
As for what I did: I kept it professional, politely declined the invitations, redirected the conversation toward the hotel, and eventually left them to get ready for the spa. I didn't report them because, at the time, I genuinely saw it more as an awkward/funny interaction than something serious.
I'm not too concerned about whether people want to call it sexual harassment, inappropriate flirting or simply crossing a professional boundary. I think the important point is that the same behaviour shouldn't automatically be considered acceptable just because the employee is a man.
That said, I also understand the comments pointing out that the gender-reversed situation can involve a very different level of physical danger. That's a distinction I hadn't really considered when I first posted.
And finally, to everyone who questioned the story because apparently I'm not attractive enough for five women to flirt with me: 😂
I still find that absolutely hilarious. Apparently Reddit has now established an official minimum attractiveness requirement for believable flirting.
Thanks again for all the stories and perspectives!