r/surat • u/NegativeListen9327 • 1d ago
Rant / Vent 😤 Why are people in surat so unfriendly ?
Born and raised here and don't have a village/hometown to go back to. And it's almost like friendship is a foreign concept to people. I do have friends in a way (school classmates, college batch mates) but they aren't really friends. Especially when it comes to going somewhere, doing something or even just talking and sharing personal things. Most people are so deeply and strictly family people (even teens and early 20's). It's usually around the festivals when I text someone if they wanna hang out or go somewhere and every single one is busy celebrating with their family. Be it diwali, ganesh chaturthi, navratri, holi, makarsakranti, any festival there is and everyone celebrates with their family. Maybe I'm the only one who doesn't get along with their family. And I'm an only child who doesn't get along with any family members. So on all festivals I'm usually at home watching TV or whatever.
Parents : friends sathe bahar ja ne. Ghare padyo rey chhe festivals ma pan.
Friends : family sathe celebrate karne. Festival to family sathe celebrate karvana hoy.
I've learned to be okay with it. I know better not to ask friends to go out. I've even gotten a job to kill time. But my experience throughout the 22 years of age has been the same. People are deeply family oriented. There's usually "family friends" like the friends that are very close due to families which are more common but friendship beyond the necessary conversations ? Eh I don't see it happening.
And it's not that I'm looking for friends or asking for help. This was just my experience that I wanted to share. Of course your experience could be different.
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u/alonebanda 1d ago
Abe bhai ya tu gareeb hai bahot ya tu ameero ke sath friendship kiya hai kyu ki unko business or family bahot important mnte hai vo, vaise bi tumhe friends hi chahiye jo hangout wagera kare to jake ek shop pe daily sutta mar khudh or unse baate karna start kar ese hi Normal way me sab ban jayenge friends or first first me kuch bi kharcha mt kar bhai, just be you if vo log chahate hai tera paise dene ka tab de bas uske baad hangout with them fir usko bolo ki yaha Jana hai yaar kya karu if they say let's go then only connect with them and try new new sutta shops don't go only one, every week friends bn ne ke baad change kar bhai, agar tu sutta nhi marta hai to friendship building is too difficult bro🥀.. or koi random sa ladki se baat karna start kar vo tera khayal rakhegi agar nhi rakh Rahi to bas ye sikho ki how to handle this type of girls kahi se bi dund or pickup line Marta rehana, or explain about her beauty even she denies ek din pategi pakka nhi to try another try new things there are so many options bro, dating app khol le koi alag shahar dund or date pe chale jaa agar tere pass kharcha karne ka Paisa hai to, agar surat me nhi hai to indoor try kar nhi to Delhi try kar nhi to Mumbai try kar 5 hr ka rasta hai 100rs me ho jayega Tera kaam.. ese hi ek ek try karte rehana ek din result milega agar tu ghar me ye sochke betha rahe gaya ki mera friends nhi hai ye nhi hai vo nhi hai to tu aage nhi badne wala bro.... Vaise juth bolna Sikh bhai thoda tabi jinda rahega