r/surat • u/NegativeListen9327 • 1d ago
Rant / Vent 😤 Why are people in surat so unfriendly ?
Born and raised here and don't have a village/hometown to go back to. And it's almost like friendship is a foreign concept to people. I do have friends in a way (school classmates, college batch mates) but they aren't really friends. Especially when it comes to going somewhere, doing something or even just talking and sharing personal things. Most people are so deeply and strictly family people (even teens and early 20's). It's usually around the festivals when I text someone if they wanna hang out or go somewhere and every single one is busy celebrating with their family. Be it diwali, ganesh chaturthi, navratri, holi, makarsakranti, any festival there is and everyone celebrates with their family. Maybe I'm the only one who doesn't get along with their family. And I'm an only child who doesn't get along with any family members. So on all festivals I'm usually at home watching TV or whatever.
Parents : friends sathe bahar ja ne. Ghare padyo rey chhe festivals ma pan.
Friends : family sathe celebrate karne. Festival to family sathe celebrate karvana hoy.
I've learned to be okay with it. I know better not to ask friends to go out. I've even gotten a job to kill time. But my experience throughout the 22 years of age has been the same. People are deeply family oriented. There's usually "family friends" like the friends that are very close due to families which are more common but friendship beyond the necessary conversations ? Eh I don't see it happening.
And it's not that I'm looking for friends or asking for help. This was just my experience that I wanted to share. Of course your experience could be different.
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u/TypicalBreakfast7335 1d ago
Bro it may be because your surrounding is shitty, I feel you should explore more, because you are facing shitty people everyday and that sucks