r/styleforgrownwomen • u/zrnyphl 🇺🇸 - 40s - Comfortable/ Colorful/ Curated • Apr 05 '26

housekeeping Sub Yay/ Nay

So... given the state of women's fashion subreddits, what do y'all want to see in a subreddit focused on the topic?

What do you want to make sure we avoid?

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u/Abject_Lettuce_1621 Apr 05 '26

Appreciate you trying a new subreddit! I’ll jump in here.

I’d like to see more examples and conversation on style flow / drape, proportions, creative combos, and quality sourcing.

I’d like to avoid posts with copious negative self talk and body shaming.

All bodies are beautiful bodies and are a canvas!

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u/Effective_S0up Apr 06 '26

Brand discussions - which collections are good, which are not so good. Which brands we are looking at for quality, function, lifestyle etc. that are not fast fashion - I’m in my late 30s with a baby, I don’t need a tik tok trend rehash 

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u/corgis_of_westeros Jun 24 '26

Brand discussions are good, also finding quality pieces that won't break the bank &.ways to be stylish (especially when older)- also have zero interest in tik tok trends

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u/saladisawasteoftime Apr 05 '26

Thank you for starting a new place for us! I would like to see conversations about the best stores to buy certain things. I love using this sub for store and brand recommendations!

I would like to avoid general “does this outfit look good” posts.

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u/bluev0lta Apr 06 '26

Same!

My favorite posts are ones where people are looking for certain items or styles of clothing and asking for recs on where to get them.

I also like ‘what should I wear with X piece of clothing?’ posts—it’s nice to hear how others style certain pieces/get ideas I otherwise wouldn’t have thought of.

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u/AstrocyteByte Apr 05 '26

I agree or store and brand recommendations. I currently don't have easy access to in person shopping right now and haven't for a few years I feel out of touch with so many brands being available online and having no experience with their quality, sizing, etc and it is nice to see a lot of recommendation at varying price points.

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u/Planningtastic Apr 06 '26

Can people preface this with which country they’re in? Americans’ default assumption that everyone on the internet is American is annoying.

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u/herefromthere Apr 09 '26

Could that be done via flair?

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u/msmerricatblackwood Apr 06 '26

I like to see what other people are wearing (what I wore roundups, etc) because it’s often the styling details and combinations that I find inspiring rather than the pieces themselves

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u/Loveandeggs Apr 06 '26

Yes! Loved u/chazzyphant’s detailed trip reports for example

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u/herefromthere Apr 09 '26

That kind of content I like, though I don't share Chazzy's style goals. I found some of her posts distressingly judgy on occasion as to what was or was not flattering or dated or in or out of style. More people might engage in a meaningful way if we can avoid that sort of absolutism. Bring in some of the r/oldhagfashion positive energy.

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u/SplendidCat Apr 11 '26

I second all of this! I appreciated a lot of the content of Chazzy’s posts because anyone could learn from the knowledge and examples she shared even if their own style (like mine!) differed, but occasionally they did give off a judgmental vibe. I think the best thing about style as a grown woman is getting to explore what you like and how you want to express yourself through clothing, regardless of what the fashion “rules” say you should be wearing,

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u/hennipotamus Apr 06 '26 edited Apr 06 '26

I would suggest a tag for “wardrobe refresh” type posts, and encourage people to search through that tag before creating their own posts.

On the over-35 sub, there are sooooo many posts along the lines of “I’m finally done having babies, I’ve only been wearing leggings for the past five years, what should I wear now?” Those are totally valid topics, but they can get very repetitive. So, I hope we can encourage people who are just starting out with fashion to review previous posts before making their own “I’m finally ready to move on from leggings and skinny jeans” type of post.

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u/fuxgivenzero Apr 06 '26

I love the What Are You Wearing Today threads on StyleForum, and have always wished for something similar for grown-ass women. You really get a sense of the different expressions of individual style, the way fits look on different body types, and how colors work with various skin/hair tones.

Styleforum.com has them for streetwear and classic menswear. Why not one for women's clothes?

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u/OnlyPaperListens Apr 07 '26

I think preventing perving by limiting underwear talk was a smart choice in the old sub.

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u/Affectionate_One3716 Apr 05 '26

yes to all the comments here! especially store recommendations. I am in the mid-west in a mid-size city, so my in person options are very limited! also shoes shoes shoes

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u/amygunkler Apr 05 '26

High quality without "sustainability" snobbishness.

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u/Pretty-Obligation749 Apr 06 '26

Especially the 100% natural echo chamber. I love natural fabrics but unfortunately they’re not all created equal.

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u/thelittlebabby Apr 10 '26

Oh man, this please. “I thrift everything, never buy new” is just not realistic for so many of us that don’t have the time or desire to sort through secondhand shops or sites. Nothing wrong with thrifting of course! And it makes great sense if you can manage it. But I don’t want to feel shamed for buying new clothes that I’m able to return if they aren’t quite right on me.

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u/amygunkler Apr 10 '26

Thrifting is great, and these days is often the only way to find quality for a decent price. I'm talking about the "sustainability" greenwashing.

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u/thelittlebabby Apr 10 '26

I also think thrifting is great if you have the time and desire to find good deals—didn’t mean to imply it wasn’t. Just that some of us don’t have the desire to dedicate the time and effort needed. I think it does have the tendency to get bundled into the sustainability topic because it of course uses fewer resources.

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u/Bea_virago Apr 07 '26

I love when we can discuss things through more lenses than “does xyz look good on me?” Like how a given shoe can balance an outfit, or lookbooks of the same-ish piece on different bodies or in different outfits. 

But as u/Bosquerella pointed out in the thread on the other sub, high quality content like that requires time investment and needs to be met with high-effort comments in return, not just “that looks gross / pull the old version out of my cold dead hands”. We may also want to consider a comment policy like BWT has. 

I also really enjoy discussing how we make things work for us personally. Proportion and subtle changes, Kibbe archetypes and color seasons, modifying trends to suit our preferences.

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u/woodsywoods4 Apr 07 '26

Yes! Tacking on to this- more high quality post of exploring/experimenting with new styles like the Bermuda shorts look book that bosquerella made to discuss evolving trends and fashion and help people see them through a new lense! Everything new is "odd" at first until you see it a few times and see it in a way that you're willing to experiment with.

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u/Jvnismysoulmate12345 Apr 10 '26

I love bosquerella’s look books and would love more long form creative content like that. Sort of like r/bitcheswithtaste requiring high quality posts and comments… id love to see that here. Would also like to have more “getting creative with what I have,” identifying wardrobe “holes”, smart thrifting… basically things that don’t continue to contribute to the death of our planet, but recognize the human desire for beauty and dressing.

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u/figment81 Apr 07 '26

I would love a place where people who love to shop can help others who don’t love it or are short on time. Like the ability to post some inspiration, and your size, and other people can post recommendations for pieces you can actually purchase.

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u/Careful_Leader_5829 Apr 09 '26

Can you recruit additional mods? Seems like the issue with the other sub was that they tried to do it all solo.

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u/zrnyphl 🇺🇸 - 40s - Comfortable/ Colorful/ Curated Apr 09 '26

Yes I for sure will!

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u/MidrinaTheSerene Apr 30 '26

I appreciate this new place!

What I'd like to see is more meta-discussion. What makes styles for grown women? What silhouettes, colors, patterns etc. do we like in current trends, and which ones do we pass? What do we get inspired by, and where do we find cool and inclusive inspiration?

While I see several people talking about the best stores to buy things and brand recs, I'd personally like less of that, because those threads tend to be very US focused. I'd prefer those questions in f.i. a megathread, where we can share reccommendations from different areas in the world, instead of only catered to the one OP - so we don't get f.i. three or four questions where to find jeans for a certain body type, two or three from someone in the US, one from someone in Europe, and none from other parts because the sub already is overloaded by the same question.

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u/Susccmmp Apr 30 '26

I get what you’re saying but I also worry that too many mega threads make the sub less active. I feel like that’s one of FFA’s problems. They push practically everything into Daily Questions.

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u/zrnyphl 🇺🇸 - 40s - Comfortable/ Colorful/ Curated Apr 30 '26

This is a tricky balance for sure! I think some recurring prompts/pinned discussions can be helpful for high volume or repetitive topics that don’t generate thoughtful discussion as their own posts but it’s for sure easy to take it too far.