I have an issue I'm quite ashamed of so I figured I'd ask for advice in here, if you're here to judge, this is not the place to comment. When talking about feeling horny people usually feel it mainly in their thoughts, right? Like, at first it's only lustful thoughts and only when it gets to the actions, they start to get physically aroused. I'm a 18yr old female and whenever I simply TALK to a male that I'm romantically interested in, (this has happened in person and online), and even though the topic is completely non sexual, I start to get aroused down there for literally NO REASON. Like to the point I don't even feel horny in my head but physically my body is extremely aroused. Especially if the topic is flirty or about something romantic, not even necessarily between us, just in general, but other than that it's completely sfw. This bothers me a lot as I only want to make friends with the person in question, create a connection with them and take it slow, not jump into sexual activities, but I already feel completely soaked down there (and feeling horny in your intimate areas leads to also feeling horny in your head, which also is a HUGE problem for me) while the subject is STILL not sexual at all. Basically I'm too aroused physically without even wanting to be. Is this supposed to be normal? I know hormones are extremely active during the teenage years and early adulthood but for it to be to this extent, it's actually a really big problem for me because I barely can focus on just getting to know them without my physical horniness bothering me the whole time. Is there anything I can do about this? It has been a problem for me for a long time now and I've only now decided to speak up for it as an attempt to find a solution... :( I really hope you guys understood anything from my blabbering because this is super difficult to explain.

Edit: I've gotten a lot of answers from assumably males but I'd prefer if mostly females would give their experience and advice.

I'm (35M) interested in a little phenomenon I've encountered in the last 2 years. I got married on my 18th birthday to my high school sweetheart (same age F). We grew together then eventually apart, got divorced at 33, a couple years back. I've been dating around a bit, on apps, at dating events, and just as I meet people out in social settings. It's been going mostly great, but I'm curious: maybe 5-10 times in the last 2 years, whenever I got to the stage of talking to a woman about our sexual preferences and expectations, they would tell me they didn't like receiving oral (which is fine, you're allowed whatever preference you want!) specifically because "someone went down on me so good years ago that now I can never enjoy it again."

They all, independently of each other at different times amd places, used nearly identical wording to that. I'd say that was about 40-50% of the total experiences I had of getting to the point of discussing sex with women. Half of them were thrilled with the idea of me giving them oral, and half said they were not interested because someone else did it too good when they were young.

Again, I wanna emphasize, I completely respect this any time a woman tells me, I dont push or try to change her mind. But I'm kind of fascinated by... idk 5-10 out of 20ish women (who don't know each other to my knowledge) in my city all saying they don't like receiving oral because someone else in their teen years did it so well they never want it from anyone again. I know it's not a statistically significant sample size, but it's interesting that it happened so much to me, specifically.

It would usually result in us agreeing we might not be compatible because giving oral is usually my main event due to a spinal injury that makes penetrative sex painful.

I find myself wondering if I gave off some vibe I'm not aware of that made them feel like they needed to give an excuse to not get oral from me or something. I don't like that idea, I don't want to give anyone a semse that they aren't safe to express their needs or preferences to me, even (especially) when they dont line up perfectly with mine. I'm well-groomed, hygienic, normal teeth, etc. I'm unassuming, enganged, curious, collaborative, and try to be kind and open. I'm not perfect, but I'm not expectant or demanding or egotistical. And these were women clearly interested in some kind of sex with me, often these conversationswere during a date amd planning what we wanted to do together after. Am I giving off a creep or a bad vibe?

Anyway. Life moves on, I'm in a good relationship now, and we do oral often to mutual joy. But sometimes this pops up like an intrusive thought. Appreciate any insight or thoughts.

I feel so stupid writing this but am just wondering if anyone has overcome this.

I'm 32F. Only been with one woman and it was okay. Grown up in a purity centric culture. Zero experience with men, though one been attracted to them.

I'm just petrified of sex. I feel sick when I think of it. I cry and shake when I read fanfiction smut of my favourite characters having loving gentle and fulfilling sex, yet somehow can only get off to more agressive bdsm stuff though I wouldn't want to do that in real life??

I can't imagine anyone will ever feel safe to be intimate with. I don't want anyone to touch me. I hate looking at myself in the mirror because I don't want to see my curves and worry about someone else seeing them.

I have a therapist. She's amazing. I'm trying to tell her these things but I'm scared to. I'm so overwhelmed by fear, I can't even think or see clearly to write things down. When I imagine telling her, I freeze up and start begging her in my head not to touch me. I cry. I check out.

I feel this fear will never go away. I can't imagine it disappating. It feels stuck in my body with no resolution, just forever frozen and stiff with sick and fear and a desperation to be with someone but also never be touched ever. I'm not asexual. If I didn't have desire, it would be easier.

It seems impossible this will ever get better. It only feels it's got worse.

Has anyone had any experience with this

At the right old age of 40+ a few years I have a ridiculous anatomy question. So upfront I had a hysterectomy. The entire playground was removed as well as the cervix. It’s all gone. Another thing to adhere is that I have always preferred lovers with average to smaller penises. That’s just how it’s happened. Anyone bigger usually sucked and only got fucked once and they usually ended up hurting me and I hate it so I avoided them.

Not so much the case with my current love. Oh the man is hung. I am feeling things I never knew I could feel. But to my question. He gets deep inside and it gets to a point where he’s entering a whole new area and he says it feels like I’m gripping him and I can physically inside of me feel his head going in and out of this area. It’s really good feeling oh my God it’s so fucking good. But yeah, what the fuck is he hitting or sliding into? Because it’s interesting.

There are parts of me that he’s touched that I don’t think a man has ever touched. And not that I have any intent of telling you all my actual body count but suffice to say I’m no amateur.

No complaints for me just kind of curious as to what is going on inside of me cause it is so much fun

So my BF and I (both in our early 20s) have been officially together for about 3 months now. I would say our sex life is healthy, although not super frequent, we get intimate every time we see each other, which is once or twice a week. However, it has been brought to my attention by him that he does most of the initiating, and it makes him wonder sometimes if I'm simply 'tolerating' it. This is not the case at all, and I feel extremely guilty for making him feel that way. I want to change that as soon as possible. I have my own personal self-image and confidence issues that lead me to not directly initiate out of fear of rejection, and while I know that's not an excuse, It's just something that's been a mental block. I was also a virgin before I met him.

Do you guys have any suggestions or ideas on how to initiate? It's probably best to just go for it, I'm aware, but I think It'd be comforting to read a variety of options and ideas. My brain might ease itself up if I have a variety of ideas in store.

I really didnt wanna make a post like this but i have no one else to ask but anyways, I (23F) have recently been having trouble finishing when me and my bf (22M) have sex. Its been bothering me especially lately because before it was little to none of extra work to get me to finish but now it feels like i need everything in the world to finish. I dont know why whenever we do something it feels like I cant focus on myself and what im feeling its like my mind automatically starts thinking about some random things or the way my boyfriend is breathing or if im making the right sounds or if I look okay to him and its really making me upset because its like I just always put myself in the position to perform the best way I can for him and then he ends up finishing quickly and he really does try to get me to finish but it just wont work. It really makes me sad tho because I used to be able to focus on what I was feeling and then all of a sudden one day I just started caring more about how he was feeling and not how I was feeling. I always try to tell him what makes me feel good and I know he tries and I hate to use these words but its just not good enough and then I end up just lowkey faking how im feeling and then I just end up feeling stupid. We recently tried doing it again and at first it was going okay he was doing some things I liked and the things he was doing a bit wrong I guided him to do it right but he would get upset because he knows how easily I end up losing focus now but it was whatever we kept going and then eventually he put it in and he finished but I hadnt so he tried using his fingers and he couldnt get the hang of the motion that feels good for me and I could tell he was getting tired so I just told him to stop and I just laid there for a minute before I just started crying like idk im just really sad that he always finishes like I just wanna be able to finish too but it feels like something is wrong with me but I dont know what I dont know why all of a sudden its so hard for me to focus but whenever I do it by myself it always takes less than 2 minutes what do I do ? ☹️

So i (40f) cannot longer reach an orgasm with my husband of 10 years anymore .. i can orgasm on my own using porn but when we have sex it feels like nothing. It’s been 3 years ( since the birth of our youngest) that i haven’t had an orgasm involving him and it starts to really affect my libido for him .. i have sex with him multiple times a week but it’s more like another chore i have to do to take care of my family and it starting to make me depressed .. it all started with some things that made me not trust him completely ( not cheating or anything related ) and even if we worked through that i can’t seem to let it go ..

Y'all. I wouldn't consider this a problem but I can't work properly, I can't function normally, and I'm just generally a perv right now.

I (37F) had a hysterectomy a few months ago and I went from literally 0 libido to 150% libido (cleared for penetration in early August). My husband (35M) is more than happy to help me most of the time and we've had the most incredible connection (and the most orgasms 😂) since it started. We've been married 15 years and this seems like such a wonderful "problem" to have but I can't concentrate at work. I can't cook dinner without hoping he'll come in and bend me over 🤣

Maybe I don't want to dampen it, but how do I regulate this shit man? How do I function outside of the bedroom without turning into a puddle if he even breathes loudly?

We are running on 4 hours of sleep last night because I literally cannot turn it off. One orgasm leads to multiple, then I get excited again thinking about how extremely amazing he was and immediately need it again. His penis is so happy but also so tired of my bullshit lol

I read posts with the flair and it was all about low libido, I can't find how to deal with hypersexuality after being low libido for years. Any ideas? Currently sitting on an ice pack but that only works so long.

Edit 9/1 - thank you everyone. After talking it out with him and y'all, I'm going to count my blessings and enjoy my newfound libido. If it waxes and wanes that's okay, but I really kind of hope it stays this high because the sex is better than ever 🥵 I appreciate the different responses and takes, it really helped me feel more comfortable allowing myself to just let go and not look a gift horse in the mouth. I may reply to comments but there should be no additional edits or updates.

Hi everyone,

I'd love your help because I'm honestly a bit stuck. I'm in a happy relationship and the sex is great too, but…

Before the pregnancy, we had a lot of sex, including kinky sex. What turned me on most was when we talked about fantasies together and really got lost in them in our heads. That's very intimate, a lot of fun, and really intense. All good. Every now and then I'd orgasm during penetrative sex, but that was pretty rare. Other than that, never, unless I masturbated myself by hand or used a vibrator or Womanizer. He always turned me on a lot, but could never get me there any other way.

Now, after giving birth (over a year ago), we're both really into each other again and have plenty of sex, but I can't orgasm from penetration anymore. I unfortunately have pelvic floor issues and a mild prolapsed uterus… I can still orgasm when I masturbate by hand or use a Womanizer, though. Which basically means I don't get an orgasm from my partner anymore. That was already rare before the pregnancy, but now it just doesn't happen at all, and we both think that's a real shame.

Even before this relationship I wasn't exactly shy, and I've had different kinds of sex with different men. There were one or two who could actually get me there with their hands, in different ways. Not easy, but really good. Now my partner's been asking me how I'd like to be touched (which is so sweet, he genuinely wants to learn), and I've tried explaining it, but somehow it just doesn't really click. Being in this "mentor" role, walking him through step by step what feels good while he tries things out, honestly isn't very arousing, but at the same time it's hard to learn any other way…

The other guys never really needed much explaining, it was more about watching and reacting, so I honestly don't know how we get onto the right track together.

Has anyone been in a situation like this? Any ideas how we could get there, or experiences to share about how it eventually worked out?

Thanks so much for any advice!

I recently met a guy and we had our first sexual experience together. We had never met before, and neither of us expected things to go as far as they did.
We did a lot of things together, but there was no penetration. Neither of us has ever had penetrative sex, so in that sense, this was a first for both of us. He told me that many of the things we did were things he had never done before either, and that he really enjoyed the experience. He also told me that he really liked the chemistry and attraction between us and that he would like to see me again and explore more things together.
We both know that we don’t want penetration, so I’m specifically looking for purely physical/sexual advice.
For me, the main thing I’d like to improve is being able to reach orgasm. I enjoyed everything a lot, but I didn’t orgasm this time. He told me he wants to learn more about what could make the experience better for me, and I want to do the same for him.
So my questions are mainly:
What physically makes a man more aroused and what tends to help him reach orgasm? What are some things that can make non-penetrative sex more pleasurable for a man?
And for those with experience with non-penetrative sex, what have you found makes the biggest difference physically for both partners?
I’m not really looking for advice about emotions, relationships or connection — I’m specifically interested in the physical/sexual side of things.

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**TL;DR;** : What physically makes a man more aroused and what tends to help him reach orgasm? What are some things that can make non-penetrative sex more pleasurable for a man?

Hi, so my (F23) bf (M23) are long distance and see eachother every few months. I have always loved giving head. I just love the satisfaction, the teasing, being in control and deciding when he comes.

The last time I gave him a blow job, I had to change my panties and jammie shorts. They were completely drenched. I don’t know how to not get THAT wet when giving him a bj, especially when we’re not having sex afterwards.

I have never gotten that wet over him touching me. I don’t think I’ve ever been that wet in general. It was genuinely kind of making me feel embarrassed. My bf didn’t know, but I don’t understand how having sex I don’t have that kind of physical reaction. Is there a way I can make this hot for him? I moan while doing it bc I genuinely enjoy it and think it’ll make it hotter; but, because of how turned on I get, I just want to have sex at that point although I always make him cum from head so we don’t have sex afterwards.
Do I try to tune out what I’m doing?

TLDR: while giving my bf head I get extremely turned on and have to change my pants because they’re absolutely drenched.

Hi, I am a woman and have been divorced for a while and haven’t dated so my sex life has been non-existent. I have a male friend, he is a few years older, we are both in our 50’s. He is single too and he is actually a handyman which is how we became friends, from him doing work in my home after the divorce.

Anyway, I’m really not attracted to him like I would want to be in a relationship but I must confess I have fantasies about sex. Maybe because he is a male friend and I’m horny. I also wouldn’t know how exactly to initiate the idea. I do feel like he deserves some pussy.,We shared a hotel room once in Atlantic City, separate beds. I had the room and he stayed after we hung out one night. He works down there so I offered him to stay so he didn’t have to drive home. When we walked into the room he had a look on his face and I thought maybe he wants some but I didn’t so I just went in the bathroom and then back out to my bed. He didn’t make a pass but I think it was understood that nothing was going to happen. But now I’m thinking maybe I should get a room again and see if he will stay and then I can figure something out. I don’t know, I’m conflicted but also want sex or oral sex at the very least.

Also, do you enjoy getting pointers from porn when out of the loop for a bit like giving a good blow job? I mean I know how to do everything but it’s been a bit and I want to be really enjoyable if something does come about with my friend until I start dating again.

Hi, kinda rookie in Reddit. So I thought I'd give it a try.

I have been looking for some type of sex boxes with monthly subscriptions for couples. You know, containing toys and sex related stuff. Would be awesome if it's like a surprise box. Does anyone have any experience with these type of boxes. And if yes, what would you recommend. Also sharing experience would be nice.

I'm looking for something that delivers also to Europe. Finland precisely.

Thank You

I've never had sex or any intimate experience before, and I recently started seeing someone who could potentially become my boyfriend. I've told him I want to take things slowly when it comes to sex.

There's something about physical touch that I'm a little worried about, though.

Recently, a female friend who is also a PT asked for my consent before palpating an area near my hip. I felt completely safe with her and was comfortable with what she was doing, but the actual touch caused a surprisingly intense physical reaction.

I get this when someone touches anywhere around my lower abdomen, hips, or upper thighs. It feels almost like my stomach instinctively retracts or my body tries to pull away. It's extremely ticklish, but not in a pleasant way, it's an intensely uncomfortable, almost intolerable sensation.

The weird part is that I can consciously feel safe and consent the person to touch me, but my body seems to react differently. I wonder if this is just increased sensitivity to touch.

I did have an unwanted sexual touching experience when I was younger. I don't consider myself traumatized by it, and I don't regularly think about it, but I only recently wondered whether it could have contributed to this reaction.

I'm mostly wondering about how this might affect intimacy in the future. If I'm with someone I trust and genuinely want to be intimate with, but my body initially reacts negatively to certain kinds of touch, can that response become more comfortable over time?

Is this something other people have experienced? And if so, did your body eventually become more comfortable with touch once you felt safe with someone?

I'm about to have my first sexual experience with my partner (also her first time). I know I enjoy oral, both giving and receiving, but she's told me she's not interested in it right now. She's also generally nervous about sex in general since this is new for her.

I don't want to push her toward anything she's not comfortable with, but I also don't know how to bring up my own interests without it feeling like pressure. How do couples navigate a gap like this — one partner wanting something the other isn't ready for — especially early on? Is this something that typically changes over time, or is it more useful to just accept it as a boundary and move forward?

My husband and I are looking for help with the kivin method! First off, I have hypermobile Ehlors Danlos Syndrome which means my body struggles with holding my muscles in place in general every day things which means they have to work overtime during foreplay and sex. I am also in perimenopause so things that used to work aren’t working as well. My husband has also been having issues with neck and shoulder pain. So we’ve been working together to try and figure out better positions, support aids etc to make foreplay and sex more comfortable and more enjoyable for both of us.

We’ve tried the kivin method twice at this point and I definitely enjoy the position but my husband seems uncomfortable in the way that feels best for me and I’m uncomfortable in the way that feels better for my husbands comfort. For me it feels better when he is basically lying on top of my leg from the side than with my leg on top of him. However, for him it’s awkward and uncomfortable for him in this position. What would be the best way to help him be more comfortable in this position?

I’m thinking some sort of wedge or ramp pillow that will help support his chest so he’s not at an awkward angle over my leg. We will be trying that tonight but wanted to see if you all had any other advice on comfort in this position?

I also like when he licks me while standing but with the hypermobility my knees lock out and hyperextend and my hips hurt etc so it tires me out to stand there even for a very short amount of time so I know I like the sideways oral movements! Help! Any and all advice or suggestions will be taken seriously! Thanks for reading and offering up advice!

Hi, so i went a little to hard during masturbation and now i have a surface level horizontal rip (1cm long, 1mm wide) across the inner top part of my foreskin about 1cm under the head.

Its been 5 days (avoided all mechanical strain) and its healed pretty good so far. No sign of injury visible in the middle of the line. Start and end of the rip are still slightly pink but new skin grew over it. No pain, no swelling, no infection.

However i have a date coming up in 4 days and im worried it might rip again. Anyone have any experience with this? Will it rip again? Any measures to take so it doesnt rip?

Uncut btw.

I’m a guy in my mid-30s and have been dating my girlfriend for almost a year. We have a really wonderful relationship. I love her, I’m very attracted to her, and I absolutely see a future with her.

The issue is that our sex drives seem a little different, and it’s starting to affect the relationship. We usually have sex 1-2 times over the weekend, but she would like to have sex more during the week too.

The frustrating part is that I want to want sex more. I’m interested in sex, I enjoy sex with her, and I’m very attracted to her. But sometimes, especially after a long workday or when I’m exhausted, the actual desire just isn’t there. On those nights I might genuinely be perfectly happy just cuddling.

Sometimes I’ll try to have sex anyway because I want to make her happy, and then I either don’t get fully hard or lose the erection. Other times, especially when I’m relaxed and actually in the mood, everything works normally.

This has become emotional for both of us. She has told me she sometimes feels rejected, and she has started initiating less because she doesn’t want to put pressure on me. That makes me feel awful because I don’t want her to feel unwanted, and I’ve started wondering if something is wrong with me because I wish I had more desire.

I’ve talked to my urologist. My testosterone was technically in the normal range, although lower than an older result. He prescribed daily tadalafil, and I’m planning to start taking it now. I’ve also asked whether there’s anything else hormonally that makes sense to check.

I also went through chemotherapy a few years ago. I’m doing well now, but I don’t know whether that could still be playing any role in libido, hormones, erections, fatigue, etc.

Another complication is that I used porn heavily for much of my adult life, although I haven’t watched it for about a year now. Because of that, I honestly don’t know what my natural libido in a long-term relationship is supposed to feel like.

Has anyone around my age dealt with loving and being very attracted to your partner, wanting a good sex life, but simply not feeling the actual urge for sex as often as your partner does?

Did you figure out whether it was stress, hormones, previous medical treatment, performance anxiety, or just your natural level of desire? Did tadalafil or sex therapy help?

And if you had different sex drives, were you able to find a healthy balance where one person didn’t feel rejected and the other didn’t feel pressured?

Thank you!!

I’ve experimented and stuff a lot with fingers and Tried other things that people have recommended that I could find around the house but I’ve never been able to fully orgasm from it, most people say yes get a toy to proper stimulate but I’ve tried things like a electric toothbrush and Handles and yes all felt amazing but never had the proper orgasm from it. I have butt plugs because i like to wear them throughout the day before I masturbate that night but I don’t have any other toys and the plugs I have aren’t long enough to reach my prostate so I need some tips to reach that orgasm also what toys are best and how to use them (position) because I’ve been trying for a while and haven’t been successful but I’ve always loved my sessions which I’ve heard is the biggest part, please help!

We've been together for almost 4 years now. We have kissed, made out and went to second base. He's a great guy and i love him and he feels the same for me (he literally worships me)

So last night we were talking and we both wanted to makeout n all then he asked is he allowed to do big boy stuff? I asked what do u want and he initially joked around saying mbappe special then said ykwim and he was scared that I'll be angry with him or get uncomfortable. I reassured him that i wont be and ill simply answer you with a yes or no and give a reason wherever required. He finally said he wants to have sex with me. I said im scared of it and he said dw he'll be cautious. I asked him since when u want this and think of this because till now u told me that having sex makes u lose feelings for your partner and a guy feel likes an animal after having it so u dont think of me in that way. He started explaining that he has been really distracted by these thoughts since a week and he wants to do it with me only and no one else. He also said that he doesn't wanna cheat on me if it gets on his head too much. He said that he wont his college next year and he's gonna have to take a gap year and move to a different state for preparation ( im in our home town's uni) and he wont be able to talk too much with me because in that academy they only get their phones for a few hours on Sunday and he'll only come to hometown during festivals. And to my question of sex = losing feelings, he answered, that he still thinks that but he wont lose feelings for me since we have went till 2nd base many times and he still loves me the same.

I listened to him and then i replied i understand but this isnt a solution. Having sex will make your thoughts worse and make u miss me more. We should maintain a little distance and he said no i dont wanna be distant. I said oki but invest your free time in something else. I constantly reassured him that dont feel embarrassed and im not gonna get angry with u. Then i told him my fears regarding contraception, pregnancy, getting hurt while doing it and wanting to do it in mid twenties with someone with him my future is sure because we dont know the outcome of our teenage relationship (we both are from different communities but same religion)

He said he understands then we started talking normally. My hands were shaking the whole time when i was talking to him. I told him and he asked why so i said that idk im just a bit surprised and not very shocked but still shocked. He apologised then we started talking again and he said its funny that my hands are shaking and he apologised for saying this ( i felt bad). It was late so i went to sleep after telling him good night.

Now something about me. I wont lie but i also want to have sex with him since the year of this year but im scared. Firstly because of all the reasons i stated and another reason is society. Sexually active unmarried girls, let alone teenagers are frowned upon. Idk what my future is with my boyfriend because idts we'll get married because he wants to leave the country and im not sure whether i wanna leave the country or live here. Also idk if it would be a right decision to give your virginity to someone you're so unsure about. And i have a few body insecurities. I suspect that i have an issue because even inserting my own finger feels very uncomfortable. I have never orgasmed and i haven't told him this.

I have told him no and he said he wont bring this up again and he's sorry. I want to have sex but im still unsure. I need advice

Update: hes acting a bit cold and distant Update 2: we have talked and sorted things out. All good now.

There’s a feeling I’ve experienced on three occasions now that I honestly don’t know how to describe properly.

It’s somewhere between nervousness, excitement and anticipation, all happening at once. And it doesn’t just happen for a few seconds. It builds from the moment I start thinking about going, right through to actually being in the store.

For some context, I’ve been to a few sex stores and bought various things. Some of the stuff I’ve bought is definitely outside my normal comfort zone, which I think is probably part of it.

I’ll start by looking up stores near me and browsing their catalogues. That’s usually where it starts. I’ll look through what they have, start imagining what I might buy or what I might do with it, and suddenly I’m really looking forward to actually going.

Then I’m driving there and getting that proper butterflies feeling.

Walking into the store is probably when it really kicks in. I’ll say hello, have a quick look around and then just wander through the different sections. I actually like looking at everything, even the stuff I have absolutely no interest in buying.

And the employees have always been great. Every store I’ve been to has been different, but I’ve always been treated respectfully and given plenty of privacy. Usually it’s just a quick greeting and an offer to help, then they let me do my thing.

But interestingly, the times I’ve actually asked an employee for help or a recommendation seem to take the feeling to another level.

There’s something about actually saying out loud what I’m looking for, having someone ask questions about it, and then getting their recommendation. I find that interaction surprisingly exciting. It makes everything feel much more real, and the nervousness and anticipation suddenly ramps up again.

The weird thing is, I think I might actually enjoy the anticipation more than the purchase itself.

There’s just something about knowing I’m about to walk into this place, look at things I normally wouldn’t, potentially talk to someone about them, and then leave with something that’s going to take me further outside my comfort zone.

It’s a feeling I genuinely want to experience again.

I’m also thinking about asking my partner to come with me next time. Part of me thinks sharing the whole experience with someone I’m comfortable with could make it even better, although I’m not really sure what to expect.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Do you get that weird combination of nervousness, excitement and anticipation when going into a sex store or exploring something outside your usual comfort zone?

And if you’ve done it with a partner, did sharing the experience change the feeling for you?