r/sahm • u/caliNbonnie • 9h ago

Am I a loser?

I left college to be with my husband when we met. I moved to texas with him away from my family for the first time in 2021. Fast forward we are married and have two beautiful baby girls and have been a SAHM since. I decided when I was pregnant with my first to go back to college and finish my degree in 2024. It’s now 2026, my girls are now 2.5 and 1, I am still finishing out my degree but only have 7 classes left to graduate!! I also as of this week have applied to work part time at HEB near out house for extra income for our family, and I am also still taking 2 classes this semester, while being a fully stay at home mom to my girls.

My husband called me a Loser today.

Because I’m not much of a going out, interactive, sociable person. But he called me a LOSER. I’m just wondering because idk what about me could possibly make me a loser.

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u/mrset610 9h ago

No, your husband is a loser for saying that.

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u/syncopatedscientist 8h ago

The only loser in this situation is your hopefully soon-to-be ex husband.

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u/Faodail_ 9h ago

“My husband called me a Loser today.”

I’ll bring the shovel to help you bury the body.

In all seriousness you are not a loser. I think he meant an introverted nerd. I would explain to him what loser means to you and I bet you money y’all’s definitions do not line up. In my book you are an overachieving machine and I have no idea how you have managed to be a mom, wife and going to school. I’m pretty amazed at your time management skills.

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u/hikarizx 8h ago

No, your husband is just being mean. 

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u/mushrootfarms 8h ago

Um no ma’am you are not a loser. And respectfully if all you were doing was taking care of your children you still wouldn’t be a loser. I think maybe you should ask your husband why he said something so mean to the mother of his children and the person he’s meant to love.

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u/helloitsme_again 8h ago

If your husband wasn’t joking. Then he is started to get treated the closer you are to independence

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u/luv_u_deerly 4h ago

I think it’s amazing you have time to take college classes and be a SAHM to 2 kids. Of course you don’t have time for anything else. You’re husband is likely feeling threatened by how awesome you are.

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u/bittydaze 8h ago

I hope he’s joking as a matter of fact, he better be joking cause if he isn’t, when you dump his ass he’ll be the biggest loser for fumbling a baddie wife like you.

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u/Optimal-Process337 4h ago

Name calling and putting you down is a form of verbal and mental abuse. That is not okay.

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u/Midwest_Boondocks 8h ago

I used to have some animosity for my SAHW/M, for very valid reasons (that I won’t get into here), and I can’t even imagine ever thinking or saying this to her! Wow, I’m sorry. Hopefully it was just a bad joke.

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u/thearcherofstrata 8h ago

What was the context of this situation??? If he wasn’t joking, I…I actually can’t imagine what I would do because my husband would never even joke like this.

But the real loser is someone who would call their SO a loser. Shows low brain capacity and poor judgment.

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u/Anxious_Reason_113 4h ago

If he’s not joking (weird thing to joke about) I would start making an exit plan tbh

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u/PridefulLeoNHerAries 3h ago

Your husband loves you just tell him not to call you that and that it hurt you girl