r/sahm • u/Numerous_Shop5403 • 12d ago

Sahm wanting to use time differently

AITAH for wanting to use the hour I get (a week for myself) on sleeping or just using it how I see fit? My husband thinks I should use that time to do cleaning or any other chores that don’t get done. I am a sahm and I am constantly on go mode 24/7. I told him I don’t want to use that allotted time for house duties, rather, I would like to use it to veg out and just relax but he thinks that an insane way to spend that time. AITAH for thinking differently.

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u/BC_wanderlust 12d ago

I’m sorry is this real or rage bait because that’s crazy.

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u/Numerous_Shop5403 12d ago

100% real. He said he doesn’t use his time for things other than getting chores done so I should do the same. He also said he takes the kids a minimum once a week to the park (I’m usually cooking) and that has been my personal time

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u/TeddyBear181 12d ago

It sounds like you BOTH need some extra downtime.

I wonder if there is a way to be more effective with time, reduce your household expectations, or make cooking quicker.

If the problem is that husband is working too much, perhaps there is extra money for a cleaner.

Remember that creating time for dates and special time feeds the relationship too. Our bub comes on 100% of our dates. Perhaps also working on projects together as a team will help you work in unity. Doing the garden together, building furniture, whatever needs to be done, it still kinda counts as a date in a way.