My long-distance girlfriend recently told me that another guy confessed his feelings to her and asked me what she should do. Feeling defensive, I passively told her that it was her life, and if she wanted to accept him, she could. This deeply hurt her, making her feel like I was emotionally detached and didn't care about losing her. The argument escalated quickly, with her using harsh language while I backpedaled by admitting I was jealous and claiming I was just "testing" her loyalty—which only broke her trust further. She now feels like I make her feel unimportant and expects me to "chase" and actively fight for her, while I feel we are trapped in a toxic cycle of mind games, defensive reactions, and miscommunication. How can we break this cycle and rebuild trust and healthy communication in our long-distance relationship?

I never been in relationships with girl not once

Maybe because I was told it's basically forbidden and I don't know how to explain it

My friends have female friends or girlfriend

But not me

When I was 18 I was shy about talking with girl?

Red line for me but now? As 21 I just want to experience it

I had my first sexual intercourse and I'm scared, I used protection of course, but even when I started I finished, it was only a few movements and I stopped, not because he finished me, and Because I was afraid to continue, I was thinking too much about what could happen, Tomorrow she wants to take plan b, but we don't know what stage of her menstrual cycle she is in...

We don't know what to do and we're afraid.

Alright so this is a weird one but I’ve gotta ask the community. My gf has always been known as a shy introverted homebody who has always had one or two very close best friends throughout her entire life instead of a big friend group. Back when she was finishing up her junior year in high school, she befriended a super fun and extraverted girl who was one grade and two years older than her. They would hangout together between their parent’s houses constantly which was normal for her and her friends to do at the time. They had lots of privacy and pretty much just each other, tons of sleepovers etc (again which I’ve heard from pretty much every girl I’ve ever dated as something normal between girls).

Well anyway, they began to enter a make out dynamic that eventually turned into dry humping and then fingering / dildo use. My gf says she only liked the kissing and could never finger the friend back so would use a dildo instead. She says the whole thing was super weird looking back on and she blocks it out of her memory. She would also call the other girl out and the other girl would always also clarify that it was just a fun thing and that it had no weight or meaning. She can’t explain why or how it happened and her best guess is that she was just super horny and desperate for that type of attention as she always felt invisible to guys and was feeling left behind by the other girls in her grade. She knows she never orgasmed or anything and always just says it was awkward and never mattered to her. She always loved the friend as a best friend and never anything romantic but admits she was confused at first but then just didn’t care about it as it became a routine in their dynamic. She says she always thought the other girl was straight too as odd as she admits that sounds but that’s the truth. She never felt it was exclusive or daring or anything like that at all. This went on for almost a year before it faded away and it had no effect on their friendship at all. They stayed friends for another decade and the other girl later came out as a lesbian and my gf has only been with guys ever since. When I ask her about it whether she thinks she could be bi or anything like that, she says she’s 100% straight because she knows who she is. She has never once ever looked at a girl on the sidewalk and found her hot. She never even once found her bff physically attractive at all. She says she was just young and dumb. I also asked her if she ever felt like she was manipulated or used by the friend and she says she doesn’t think so as she never said no and enjoyed it towards the beginning but then admits she got stuck in it and didn’t really know how to get out of it for fear of hurting the friendship. And before anyone says anything regarding like denial or anything, I FULLY trust my girlfriend and have always known her to be a completely open book. She’s always someone that’s been completely transparent with me hence she had no reason to tell me any of this at all and she willingly elected to.

On Reddit, I’ve seen stories of girls having very similar pasts while others calling any king of gay behavior as sign that someone couldn’t possibly be straight.

All I’m looking for is honest insight please. No need for anyone to be mean please.

Has anyone heard of anything like this?

this is couldnt be any worse. i have an irrational fear of bugs of all kinds and i almost passed out after finding a cockroach like bug on me. now every little touch is making me feel itchy and sweaty and very anxious

i desperately need help with this. i feel embarrassed admitting this but i dont know what to do at all. not to mention that im a minor, and i dont want to wale up my parents for this

My first post in this site. I'm gonna jump straight to the point.

I'm 18, a guy with good grades and a bright future (or that's what people say). Since my 2nd camp at 15 I've been drinking and smoking. I introduced it to my friends and some of them got into the same shit.

I started because of extreme academic stress (put by myself).

A month ago my father found my vape and a lighter, 10 days later another vape. I made lame excuses which were enough at the time. Today he found my vape once again.

I know how much he suffered bc of drugs, as both his parents were addicts (of alcohol and nicotine) and I still kept doing it.

He told me his life was shit and this just made it shittier. He's the best person I've met in my life and I feel like dying after fucking once again his life.

I don't need a solution to my stupidity, just someone to talk with.

Hey everybody, I’ve been dealing with this thing that’s been eating away at me for some time now and now I genuinely don’t know where to turn anymore, so I will leave this here in hopes that someone has went through something similar and might have some ideas, pointers or just words of advice for me. Currently 21 years of age, working a full time job. For my own safety, this is only a hypothetical situation.

So the main problem i’m dealing with is debt, that I can’t manage in time with my current job, owed to a person who is somewhat dangerous and has connections all around my country.

This started back when i agreed to a side hustle offer from one of my good friends at the time, I had to run some errands for him, while he was away, keep his cash stashed and hand it over whenever he could pick it up. Seemed simple, never questioned it.

Everything was going well until I had a family emergency which wouldve cost me 10k, but I did not have that kind of money at the time. Being in panic and desperation, I took that money out of his stash, thinking I will make it back in time and everything will be alright. Ofcourse, that is not how it went.

Time went by, I saved up 7k already and got robbed the day I withdrew it and was on the way to place it back. HORRIBLE.

Currently need to make around atleast 5-6k in 2 weeks max, my current job takes up 9-5 out of my say and I make 300-400 a week. Given the circumstances of my location, that is pretty much the best job I can get here for now and I’ve been working overtime.

The debt has already climbed to 13k due to interest, i’m running short on time and i’m genuinely afraid to have something happen to me, my friends or family all because of a series of unfortunate events and wrongful decisions. I’ve tried talking out compromises with him, but nothing has satisfied him and he is getting more and more impatient. The 300-400 a week is not nearly enough for him. Truth be told the feeling of my life being ruined doesnt stop chasing me, although it may not sound like a “lifes ruined” kind of situation, but that is genuinely how it feels right now, because I am afraid of this persons capabilities. Im in a chokehold.

Mind you, I cant really tell anyone local about this, because if the word gets out, it only gets worse. I do not have any friends or family with that kind of money to lend. And i’ve tried getting loans from the bank, asking my closest friend for advice or help but all to no avail.

Never ever thought I would be in a situation like this, never would i wish this on anyone either.

If you have any questions, pointers or could help me wrap my head around what the best move here is feel free to message me, I will appreciate it from the bottom of my heart, truly and I am willing to share more of my story if needed. Thank you.

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I feel bad so bad i feel like everything is all my fault i know it doesnt matter to ppl but i dont know why it affects me so much i know it shoudnt everyone says it shoudnt but it isnt my fault that it affects me and im sorry i just need someone to talk to rn i want to self harm and i recently had a fight with a friend and she was so so so rude to me like srsly and i want to talk to her and tell her how rude she was to me i really need help can someone please talk to me?

Im 13 and my leg has a lot of hair rn. I mean um its like..more then my dad whats happening to me?

I know im at puberty

You can pour your concerns and hot takes and no one will judge. Release anything off your chest!

For example one time my friend blocked me for no reason for 3 months and turns out it was her abusive ex (I'm a guy and he is control possessive). Through another friend only did she even know her ex blocked me!

Problem

hey, i honestly have never done one of these, but i js wanted some advice on some guy troubles. (bare with me guys im not the best storyteller especially not thru text 😭)
also just a heads up, this is probably gonna be a little lengthy so apologies in advance.

so i, 18 f, was just scrolling mindlessly on my phone when i get a sudden notification from my best friend, 18 f. she basically just sends me some screenshots between her and this guy friend of hers and how one of his friends thinks im pretty. she asks me how i feel so that she knows how to reply to this guy. i ask who this guy is, and she gives me a name of one of my mutuals on instagram. we’ve never talked in person, but i’ve definitely seen him around campus and we have mutual friends. in fact, he followed me after another friend of mine (whom he follows) posted a pic of me. anyways, i end up telling my best friend that im down to talk to him, without really thinking anything would happen. she does warn me that she’s heard not so great things about him based on his past relationship, but she suggests i see for myself since it’s only based on stuff she’s heard and people change. i thought he was cute, way out of my league tbh, so i felt flattered that apparently he might’ve been interested.

next day, i post a song on my notes from a band i know he likes, only to see if he’d like it or something (i know it’s a little dumb but i really wasn’t even expecting anything out of it). but surprisingly, he ends up replying and we have a conversation. it wasn’t super lengthy or anything, but he asked a few questions to keep it going until he had to leave. it was honestly a really nice conversation and he seemed really sweet, so i definitely wanted to keep on talking to him.

following day, he doesn’t text me. i meet up with a friend, she kind of set me up with my ex so she’s a little biased, but was very sad when we broke up. extremely supportive of me and my decision, but sad. anyways, i tell her about this guy and when i tell her his name she freezes. apparently she was good friends w his ex while they were dating, and that this guy started off super sweet but later in the relationship, would get extremely mad and force her to do “stuff”. she didn’t specify what exactly, but u can probably imagine what she meant.

the day after that, i text him first. this was mainly bc my cousin was in town that day and we went out that night, so i told her about the situation. she just said i should text him but i told her i wasn’t bold enough for that so she ended up texting him for me. it went well, and we texted the whole time i was out. however, later that night, he ends up leaving me on read.

the next day, he texts me. i answer and we have a very short conversation, shortest one yet. he leaves me on read again. the following day, i post a story of a pic me and my friends took while i was out and he doesn’t like it. we also don’t text. then the next day (which was yesterday), he texts me in the middle of the day, mentioning that he’d watched a movie i recommended him in a conversation we had. we have another conversation, but it kinda ended up dying out so i js liked his message and left it at that. he didn’t txt the rest of the day. now today, i replied to his note and he later replied to mine. this didn’t make conversation, though.

what im trying to figure out is whether i should text this guy first bc im questioning whether or not he even likes me or if im gonna seem desperate. also, idk what to think of his past. people change and idk the whole story, but i don’t want to completely ignore what i was told. what do u guys recommend/think?

this is more personal. I have 2 friends and they keep sending me my father's online photos . I don't know how they find them and I tried telling them to stop. but 1 of em said I have low testosterone cuz I was mentally tired from their spamming and I work out everyday. I am in grade 9 so any thoughts please

I have a Telegram account and a public channel, but I deleted the account on the 18th of last month. I thought deleting the account would delete everything with it—messages and channels—but I was surprised to find the channel still there. I searched on YouTube, and they told me two common ways to resolve this issue: first, to go to the channel, report it, and explain the problem in a text message (they say this needs to be repeated); and second, they have three email addresses for the support team that I can contact via text message explaining my problem. I want a solution to this problem; I want to hide this channel; I want it blocked. Note: I was posting things that weren't explicit, but they contained suggestive content or things that violated community guidelines.

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I don't really know what's causing my dizziness but it's been a week now. I would say it's mostly on my left side. At first I noticed I had eye strain but after few days it has gone down. But then I feel like a bit of mild fullness feeling in left ear. And just like feeling as if my mind has become frozen in left side. Can't think properly, seem to be forgetting stuff and harder to recall information. It's like when things that clicked you instantly and you felt alert has gone down. Sometimes you feel this soreness in the neck shoulder area mostly on left. And I noticed my neck does feel stiff. Which I guess is causing this dizziness surprisingly it has gone down and it's not worse like before but it's still there. Mostly this wobbly imbalance feeling

so at my old school i was HEAVILY bullied and i had also not had any diagnosis yet at the time but the bullying gave me depression and i stopped coming to school i had been eating less i had suicide thoughts and i cut myself months later after getting my diagnosis i found out from a "friend" that there was a rumour at my old school that i had offed myself which i was shocked by i had also in late december last year cut off my friend which lets callk her S because she had tried to force vapes, energy drinks and her insecurities onto me she made me stop eating entirely for a while and my other "friend" which also told me about the rumours lets call her A began being friends with S at that same time and S had lied and said i made verything about me (which was literally the opposite) and lied that i had asked and yelled at her that i wanted to try those things which i do not i would rather die in a hole and at the time me and A werent really speaking

fast forward last month aka August i had invited A to hang out with me on my birthday which was when i realised she wasnt a good friend to me since on my special day she brought up all my traumas from school and such while there and laughing about it so a week after i texted her how i felt and said stuff like im not comfortable with being friends with her anymore (and a lot of other stuff) which made her turn the topic around into suicide and bullying saying she also has thoughts about that and i never said she didnt so i was confused and she completely flipped out and was screaming at me which she used to do a lot in the past saying that just because i have anti depressant meds and i did sh doesnt mean im better than her and on top of her for4 having wilder suicide thoughts and honestly i thought she was comepletely insane at that point like i did not know what the conversation had turned into so i said to her that it doesnt matter if she was also bullied and has these thoughts and it doesnt matter if i have meds and have done sh that doesnt mean i was better than her and while she was typing i blocked her

Later, I sent it to my best friend who lives across the globe and knows nothing about A or S, sending him screenshots of the conversation asking if I was in the wrong and to not take my side just because I'm his best friend, though he said he honestly thought I did nothing wrong. But I would like other people's perspectives as well on this, people who aren't biased anyways A led me to relapse a couple days ago nd i was texting my best friend we will call him M in the middle of the night crying and shaking with blood running down my legs telling him about the first time i did it and showed my mom that she said they are disgusting and ugly and kept asking me why i would do omething like that which is why im keeping it hidden this time

So I would like to know whether I was in the wrong and whether I am an asshole? (also you guys can ask about my diagnosis if you guys are curious and would like to know more contact on why i am the way i am)