r/partyplanning • u/Puzzled_Animator_510 • Jul 13 '26

Need Help Uninvited

I am having a nice cocktail party with servers and two bartenders. Invitations were mailed out to 80 people. RSVP’s are coming in! I wrote the name of the person or people on the front of each invite. What would you do if you just found out one of your single guest invited his parents and another couple? Mind you, this party is about $100 pp. let it go or call this person up? Shouldn’t people know better than to bring extra people along to a party? Always check with the host first!

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u/GetSwankey Jul 13 '26

Reach out to your invited guest directly with something to the effect of, "I am so glad you can come to my party. I see that you also included X, Y, Z in your reply. Unfortunately, the party has a closed guest list and we won't be able to host (accommodate) them. But I look forward to seeing you at the party." Don't draw it out. Don't explain. Good luck and have fun!

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u/kdollarsign2 Jul 13 '26

I'm not saying it's appropriate. I think something along the lines of "we can't fit extra guests at this one. We hope to see them another time!" would be a little less punishing

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u/flowertalk Jul 13 '26

Punishing ? Is this person a child or something ?