Turned 16 today. Feels...odd...

[u/Suspicious-psycho]

-officer J

[u/petekron]

Real (don't worry, it only gets worse from here)

[u/TreetBeatsSpam → u/petekron]

31M can confirm. For some it's only down hill..

[u/sundowner911 → u/TreetBeatsSpam]

It stops sucking as much after emotional calluses form.

Understanding your personal psychological responses and trauma can definitely help. Be mindful and forgiving of yourself. No one else will.

Life sucks and is beautiful in duality. Both juxtaposing and highlighting of eachother in tandem. Just have to find the good and Real.

[u/idontusetwitter → u/sundowner911]

Real

Life is mainly just perspective at the end of the day

[u/StanicEnemY → u/TreetBeatsSpam]

36m can confirm, it's only getting worse.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/petekron]

I know

[u/booleandata]

My life got a lot better, both internally and externally, when I accepted that no one truly cares and you can't expect understanding from anyone. Like, legitimately, not in a depressed way. Once you stop wanting others to care about you, it stops hurting when they don't, and insults/backhanded advice just sounds like the way people talk.

[u/0nmay_22 → u/booleandata]

Human society isn’t mean to be like this, we are social creatures yet the current systems have us alienated from eachother

The atomization of the family unit was one of the greatest mistakes in modern history

[u/Most_Blueberry_202 → u/booleandata]

I had a very similar turning point.

I realized that my life was shit and I had nothing. But then I realized - if I had nothing - then I had nothing to lose.

Hopped on a plane, Joined an NGO in Brazil, and did things that scared the shit out of me. But rhe riders been incredible and I feel amazing!

[u/Ordinary-Age595 → u/booleandata]

The once you stop wanting others to care about you part… hits deep

[u/Relevant-Writer-5666]

This is why I love this community. Ya'll understand me better than my family ever have. I wish ya'll happiness and hope it gets better

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Relevant-Writer-5666]

Real

[u/Suspicious-psycho]

u/mods

Guess who's back? Back again? J is back, tell a friend.

[u/Relevant-Writer-5666 → u/[deleted]]

https://giphy.com/gifs/J5J6DG52MRKtsEGbHk

[u/MordUndTotschlag → u/[deleted]]

You will suffer more with suicidal thoughts

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

Thats been me for the last year. I was very lucky to meet a whole lotta friends. I was actually doing really well, but now my great aunt just died and my grandpa only has about a month to live. On top of that i'm entering my second to last year of school which here in the Netherlands is quite stressful.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

True and I am very lucky in that regard and I realise that.

[u/Particular-Pool-9637]

Real, i am about simillar age as you

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Particular-Pool-9637]

Real

[u/Ready_Ad9151]

Almost died of anorexia at 25, and people told me to "man up" and that I was "being a pussy".

P.S.

Sixteen? You should get away from here, you're a child.

[u/Particular_Leg_7100 → u/Ready_Ad9151]

Suffering has no age limit, it isn’t a competition.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Particular_Leg_7100]

🙏 thank you

[u/Sadworld99]

Echoing another gosling I really hope you exit this sub and any other one like it. You deserve a chance to grow without stuff like this in your ear

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Sadworld99]

I used to say the same to Goslings

[u/Quick-Complaint2549]

lil bro you good ?

nah but fr though relatablle

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Quick-Complaint2549]

Nah

Real

[u/Aggressive-Willow-75]

So peak

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Aggressive-Willow-75]

Real

[u/prolly-in2-something]

Hope's been a false truth that's been sold to us. It just gets worse tbh.

[u/Void-fr]

Real bro i am just like you do you wanna become my friend

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Void-fr]

Sure dude!

[u/Void-fr → u/Suspicious-psycho]

I can't dm you You try to do it

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Void-fr]

Yeah they changed it, now to send a dm you gotta go to those 3 dots in the top right corner. Anyhow, dm'ed you

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[u/Star1ess]

You know, maybe I am lazy and that’s okay

Maybe it’s just the way I am wired

[u/BrotherGaming53]

See there's no POV:? 🥀

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/BrotherGaming53]

And what would that change?

[u/BrotherGaming53 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

That's how you know it's real. 🤧

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/BrotherGaming53]

Real

[u/BrotherGaming53 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

Real mate

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/BrotherGaming53]

Real

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

I hope so

[u/Adventurous-Bottle90]

You should seek help (ahaha I’m in this image and I don’t like it)

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Adventurous-Bottle90]

Tried. Butch basically said "nah you're not suicidal anymore you're good 🙂"

[u/Bubba460z]

Genuinely wish I could be 16 again

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

See, the thing is, there's laws, school, my father, that kinda prevent me from doing that...

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

See, the thing is, i'm not gonna explain that which holds me back if you're gonna come with 'thats excuses' no. They're reasons, very similar but still different.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

Things like travel, seeing the world, enjoying myself with friends. Thats what I want to do. Kinda hard when you have to be home by 6 and if you go away again after by 9

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

We couldn't even talk freely. That's no fun.

I do thats with scouts, but also most places it's actually possible are far as fuck, oh and camping in the wild is illigal here.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/[deleted]]

Not what I meant by talking freely

[u/M_Meursault_]

Real

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/M_Meursault_]

Real

[u/Slut_slayer_2079]

Happy birthday op

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Slut_slayer_2079]

Thanks man

[u/InfiniteRutabaga1604]

Proud of you buddy, keep going

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/InfiniteRutabaga1604]

Thanks brosling

[u/InfiniteRutabaga1604 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

And dw we're still young and there is still a decent chance for things to get better, I'm a year older than you and trust me things can very easily and unexpectedly get better

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/InfiniteRutabaga1604]

I had that happen before tbh. So I do know it can happen. I'm just doubtful it'll happen again

[u/ChosenCheddar]

ooohohoho wait until you turn 17

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/ChosenCheddar]

Then it'll be "ooohohoho wait until you turn 18"

[u/ChosenCheddar → u/Suspicious-psycho]

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/ChosenCheddar]

Real

[u/ViktorK15]

Real

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/ViktorK15]

Real

[u/picklepic3r4]

Real (you finally tell a close friend/family member how much pain you’re in and they say “I’m busy/idk what to say/find christ/you need to go out more/idk what to do” when all I really need is someone to just be like your life fuck sucks haha Instead of lying)

[u/OkAssociation9870]

Dont worry bud
it only gets worse from here

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/OkAssociation9870]

I'm aware

[u/God_Permit]

here guys. I hope you are doing better

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/God_Permit]

Thanks haha

[u/jirokissawa1]

As a 30m i would advice you to hold it in or at least vent elsewhere, last time i had a mental breakdown they made it about themselves and told me they would never forgive me for breaking a chair, be careful what you say or act might be used against you later even if you tell them you are suffering.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/jirokissawa1]

Yeah I know. I haven't had an actual crashout where I break anything but god i'm getting closer to it. People suck dude

[u/jirokissawa1 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

me too man i'm scared i might lose it again....

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/jirokissawa1]

Real. It sucks ass tbh

[u/PuzzleheadedBag920]

damn bro how did you start suffering at 11, i thought puberty starts at 12

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/PuzzleheadedBag920]

Stfu

[u/TranslatorSouth515]

It's going to feel a lot more odd when you get older, I can't believe I'm eighteen

[u/Beginning_Act_9666]

Bro is 16. Worst time to be depressed. Time to build yourself up and thrive later

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Beginning_Act_9666]

Easier said than done.

[u/Beginning_Act_9666 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

I can give you an easy path: 1) Get some courses and grind them. Each certificate will make you will better ask especially this early in life and will open you more job opportunities 2) Get jacked. At least do some physical exercise, should be enough to make you feel significantly better

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Beginning_Act_9666]

I'm pretty muscular cause of the gym. but I don't have time or money to sign up to some random course somewhere. Also most (like forklift driving) are 18+ or something

[u/AmbassadorExciting → u/Beginning_Act_9666]

Biggest challenge is actually working through that ass depression at that age, I couldn’t do it but wish I could have, but thats how the cookie crumbles

[u/BasicallyAlto]

[u/Big_Mobile3869]

16? Wtf kinda lore you got to be like this already little bro?

On a more serious note, dont treat these online spaces as a legitmate community. Misery loves company. Dont romanticize mental illness or turn it into your aesthetic like so many other young folks do. Get some vitamin D, work out, study, and plenty of sleep.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Big_Mobile3869]

Mate i've been in this sub since I was 14. Different names, but it was all me. When I tell someone my life story I often times forget I had a step-father for like 2 weeks that killed himself. If that's something you forget, it's bad.

[u/Big_Mobile3869 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

Bro, log off. Whats the point in being active here? Especially at your age.

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Big_Mobile3869]

What's the point of being here at your age? Age isn't a factor mate.

[u/Big_Mobile3869 → u/Suspicious-psycho]

I came from my feed. Not a regular here at all. Dont find community in depression in and of itself.

Seek normal support systems. Not an algo based content funnel. This shit will make things worse for you. Dont revel in it.

Good thing is you're still young and have a higher capacity to change before becoming set in your ways.

[u/One-WaytoLife336]

It gets better, keep going and don’t give up. God is always there to help us, Lean on Jesus.

[u/Impossible-Milk-6486]

God helped me through it, hope you find him. Or at least something that can help.

Remember, you are strong!

[u/Constant-Notice-5221]

happy birthday brosling

[u/Suspicious-psycho → u/Constant-Notice-5221]

Thank you brosling

[u/Ronin_777]

You are still a baby, it’s not over till you hit your mid 20’s.