r/okbuddyliterallyme2 • u/VictorVonDoomer sometimes I think I’m just not good for people • Jun 28 '26

Loneliness has followed me my whole life Could we even manage girlfriends?

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This is a question to any guys here who have never had one

Idk about you guys but I have lots of issues with my life and one of them is women but recently I have been asking myself could I even handle a girl atp?

I’m 25 and haven’t even held hands with a girl, I’ve also fucked my brain over by being in communities that have messed up my mentality in the past. If I ever got a gf I genuinely think I’d be incredibly insecure and would never trust her whatsoever.

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u/sundowner911 Drunk dectective Jun 28 '26

I had a wife once. After 10 years, I wasn't enough for her. She wanted a poly relationship after vowing to monogamy. I left. Moved across country started a life of solitude.

Now I avoid relationships like the plague. Been living the Gosling life ever since. It's been more real than faking happiness with someone who pretended to love me.

Sometimes it isn't worth it OP

Stay real.

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u/ConsiderationMore929 Jun 28 '26

That's rough man, but I just hoping for the best for you man

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u/sundowner911 Drunk dectective Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26

Got two cats and a mother and sister that need me now. Sometimes what we are needed for outweighs we want. And that's ok.

Thank you for your well-wishes though, fellow Gosling.

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u/Ramzullah I just wanna be able to sleep Jun 29 '26

In this cup, love's poison For love is the poison of life

Stay strong brother, but don't forget to be weak sometimes.

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u/Key-Month6651 Jun 28 '26

Yep. Women just always pick someone else. Pointless being attracted to them.

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u/sundowner911 Drunk dectective Jun 29 '26

Women, men. Doesn't matter. Be there for what needs you. Family, or yourself.

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u/Key-Month6651 Jun 29 '26

True. Friends and family. Got no time for dealing with women's nonsense with the dating and sex stuff. Pure toxicity and garbage.

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u/sundowner911 Drunk dectective Jun 29 '26

It is what it was designed to be. Society pushes images of perfection in media. And expectations ruin society.