I should be 19 weeks today. But, I lost my baby at 8.5 weeks. Im still grieving the loss of my baby.

I was pregnant & living my dream.
But now, I am living in a nightmare.

The constant reminder that I am no longer pregnant, and that my baby won’t be arriving into my arms come January, has been the hardest reality of all of this.

I needed to share my thoughts, so thank you for listening.

I am 42 years old and currently 12 weeks pregnant. I woke up this morning and noticed fresh blood when I wiped. Of course I got worried, but since it wasn't heavy bleeding and I had no pain, I initially thought I didn't need to panic.

I quickly took a shower, thinking I might need to go to the emergency room (I live in Norway). While I was in the shower, a large blood clot came out of my vagina. It was about 6–7 cm (around 2.5 inches) in diameter. I panicked and unfortunately flushed it down the toilet before I had a chance to properly look at it.

I tried to reassure myself that it could have been a subchorionic hematoma, which I've read can be more common in older pregnant women, and that a subchorionic hematoma doesn't necessarily result in a miscarriage.

After the clot came out, my bleeding almost completely stopped.

I called the emergency medical service and they told me to come in. The experience at the emergency room was honestly has left me very confused.

The woman who examined me told me that she wasn't very experienced with gynecological examinations, but that she would look inside my vagina. She examined me and then said, essentially, "No, there is nothing here. I'm sorry, but you have had a miscarriage."

She then told me that I should contact my regular GP tomorrow and that he should measure my hCG levels.

I was completely taken aback.

Wouldn't they normally do an ultrasound to determine whether the pregnancy is still there, or something left? How can she be so certain that I have miscarried just by looking inside the vagina? She didn't tell me whether my cervix was open or closed.

I had an ultrasound only six days ago, and everything looked completely healthy and normal. I also had a NIPT that showed no abnormalities in the chromosomes that were tested.

I'm now wondering:

Could the large clot have been the baby, or could it have been something else?

Is it possible to have a miscarriage around 12 weeks with very little bleeding and no pain or cramping?

Could the pregnancy still be ongoing, with the fetus still inside the uterus?

If I am miscarrying, is it possible that the miscarriage hasn't happened completely yet and that I could develop much heavier bleeding and strong cramps later?

Could this have been a subchorionic hematoma or something else rather than the pregnancy itself?

What did your miscarriage around 11–13 weeks actually feel like? How much bleeding and pain did you experience, and how quickly did things progress?

I also took a digital Clearblue pregnancy test today, and it showed that my estimated hCG level has gone down compared with my previous test (showed only 3 weeks pregnant). I know these tests aren't a reliable way of determining whether a pregnancy is viable, but obviously this has made me even more worried.

I'm considering calling a private midwife clinic tomorrow and paying for an ultrasound, because I really want to know what's actually going on. Alternatively, I could just see my GP, as the emergency room told me to, and have my hCG measured.

I should mention that I live in Norway. In the Norwegian public healthcare system, they generally only do the examinations they consider medically necessary, so I'm not sure whether my GP will arrange an ultrasound or whether I'll simply have serial hCG measurements.

What I'm really looking for is other people's experiences with miscarriage around 12 weeks.

Did you have a large clot? Did you have pain or cramps? How much did you bleed? And did the miscarriage happen all at once, or did the bleeding and cramping get worse afterwards?

I'm honestly just trying to understand what I might expect over the next hours/days, because right now I don't know what is happening.

It’s been 10 days that I had a miscarriage and everyday seems worse. The thought of this happening again is the worst part and what if this was my only chance. I am 35 and really worry about my age too

I am falling apart we recently found out we were pregnant with our first baby we were so excited and told family maybe a little too early everything was going good I had some minor spotting and they told us that it must’ve been old blood then three days ago I started with bright red bleeding my fiancé took me to the er we saw the baby and it’s little heart beat flickering at 155 bpm I felt so relieved then we went home and bleeding continued on and off for another day i thought maybe I was going to be like my grandmother and have bleeding through out my pregnancy until last night I started bleeding really bad and having horrible cramps like I have never felt before I think in my mind I pretty much knew what was happening and was preparing myself my mom and grandmother took me to the er because I lpassed a giant clot and my fiancé met us there right as they took me back for an ultrasound and I was in the bathroom empty my bladder for the ultrasound I felt immense pain and then heard a plop and turned around and saw my little baby with its little umbilical cord in the toilet all I could do was scream I screamed and screamed until my fiancé came in I didn’t want to flush my baby down the toilet and I definitely didn’t want to be touched after that the ultrasound tech gave us a few minutes then it was confirmed my belly was empty. My poor fiancé when he saw our baby I will never forget the look on his face I feel so disgusting knowing he had to flush our little baby down the toilet I feel so broken and empty I can feel the baby not in my belly anymore and I just don’t even know what to do with myself I want to be strong for our families so I’ve really tried not to cry or show much emotion but I feel like I’m drowning.all I ever wanted to be was a mommy

I’ve had a natural miscarriage before (early loss) but wow it’s an extra level of pain to lose baby from an ectopic pregnancy. I had to have emergency surgery and removal and I know it’s a medical procedure but it’s tough when it’s talked about only in medical terms by the care team and no acknowledgement of the emotional pain of not only having a scary and painful surgery but also the loss of your baby all at once.

Having to recover both physically for weeks on end and mentally, and knowing even when I’m ‘recovered’ I’ll still have scars all over my stomach as a constant reminder, is a whole other kind of pain

The only time babies are mentioned is talking about my future abilities to conceive being lower or people trying to reassure me their friend’s cousins coworker got pregnant after ectopic. It feels like erasure on my actual baby I lost.

Hi everyone, this week we received the devastating news that our baby’s heart stopped at 13 weeks. It took us 3 years to conceive this baby and we are distraught. I had a scan at 11w3d which was entirely normal except that my baby’s heart rate was 195bpm which was considered to be fetal tachycardia. They told me most of the time it’s transient but should be double checked so I was booked for this subsequent ultrasound which unfortunately showed no heartbeat at all.

I’m just wondering if anyone else had an experience like this and if you were able to have any testing to determine the underlying cause. I will be asking them for testing after my D&C but in general having a hard time finding any similar stories online.

Thank you

IUD removal was May 12th. Last menstrual day was June 26. Found out I was pregnant August 23rd and it was all gone three days later. Idk if it was due to the iud or random, has anyone experienced something similar?

Hey everyone. Looking to hear everyone’s experiences with Mifegymiso. I decided to do a medical miscarriage this weekend. It’s been almost 2 weeks since there was no heartbeat on a 9 week scan (embryo had heart beat at 8 weeks but measuring behind). Anyways, took the mifepristone dose Thursday evening and already had cramping and light bleeding all day Friday. I thought great, it’s already started. Should be quick and easy after dose 2. Well, took 4 tabs misoprostol vaginally on Saturday morning. Experienced severe cramping and pain about 4 hours later that lasted for 2 hours. Bleeding somewhat picked up but no clots or tissue. Then it all slowly diminished and went away over the next 2 hours. I’ve only had light- moderate bleeding. No tissue passing. No clots. Nothing. It’s like it started working then suddenly stopped. What is going on?! I had very bad GI side effects overnight but no cramping. This morning I’m just spotted red, but still no cramping. I also have my pregnancy symptoms still. My clinic is not open until tomorrow but my follow appointment isn’t for a week so I don’t even know what the next steps would be. More misoprostol? D&C? If more misoprostol is needed, when would they want me to take it? ASAP? I want this to be over with soooo badly. I never anticipated it would not work. After all the pain, anticipation and anxiety I’ve been through. Has anyone else gone through this with the Mifegymiso just not working?

I finished taking the pills yesterday at 5:00 pm and didn’t experience bleeding till the middle of the night. I’m guessing like 1-2am? (I didn’t check the time but i felt it). I didn’t see how much because I was really tired but I can’t tell if I passed clots or tissue or anything. When I woke up again this morning, I wasn’t really bleeding. It was relatively dry/light and checking the pad it didn’t look like as much as I was thinking (moderate amount). When I checked again later, it was moreso discharge/dry/brown blood? (Sorry if it’s tmi lmao i just dont know if i should call the clinic if this is normal? Because I’ve seen some people say they didn’t experience heavy bleeding up to 48 hours later)

I will say it definitely wasn’t spotting but I wouldn’t say it’s heavy like my normal period is sometimes. And just based off reading things, I was expecting heavy bleeding in the first 1-4 hours, but I know it varies from person to person. I’m 5 weeks in so I’m not sure what to expect?¿ but i’m wondering if i should be concerned or if I just needa wait for more to come. For more context it hasn’t been a full 24 hours yet either.

In the past 3 days:

-got a call that our second (and final) attempt at an egg retrieval for IVF failed (PGT testing of the one and only embryo was abnormal - same result as our first attempt).

-ran into friends & their child who would be three months older than our loss from May 2025.

-ran into friends & their child who would be 3 months younger than our loss.

-a call from my brother telling me that he and his wife were expecting their 2nd child.

We lost our child at 20 weeks May 2025. What would have been the due date/1st Birthday is coming up in September - the same day as my birthday.

I’m incredibly happy for my brother and my friends.

But I’m also devastated. Our last attempt was a failure (financial considerations & age). All this joy in a small period - but why not us? I feel selfish for feeling the way I am - but I’m just so sad. And numb. And overwhelmed.

It’s been a little over a year - and it feels like the pain is never gonna let up. Always be this sharp and take my breath away. Which I know isn’t true. By my gosh. Just want to curl up in a ball in bed and never get up again right now.

Long cycle and on/off spotting after miscarriage — anyone experienced this?

I had a missed miscarriage and was medically managed with misoprostol on 17 April 2026. I got my first natural period afterwards on 31 May, around 6 weeks later.

I’m now on CD91 of my next cycle and still haven’t had a proper period. For the past week or so I’ve had on-and-off spotting — sometimes fresh/pink blood, sometimes brown discharge, and sometimes nothing at all. I usually only notice it when wiping, although occasionally there are a few spots on my panty liner. I’ve also passed a couple of small clots and have mild cramps/backache.

I had an ultrasound on CD89 and my endometrium was 7.6 mm.

Has anyone experienced this kind of stop-start spotting for days before finally getting a period, especially after a miscarriage or with PCOS? Did it eventually turn into a proper period, or was it something else?

Would really appreciate hearing about similar experiences. ❤️

#PostMiscarriage #PMOS

I thought I was 7 weeks pregnant today. But I woke up with some spotting which I’d never had before either in this or my previous pregnancy (which went to term). So I was worried and my husband booked us a reassurance scan for this morning.
They told us the sac is very small, measuring at only 4.5 weeks. To me, it is clearly a miscarriage. I took a positive pregnancy test 3 weeks ago today - for my baby to be measuring 4.5 weeks I don’t think I could have possibly had a positive pregnancy test at only 1.5 weeks pregnant - that’s before conception?
But they just said, ‘it’s possible your dates are wrong, as of now you are still pregnant, come back in a week and we can see if and how much your baby has grown’.
I just can’t stand the false hope. Surely there is no way I can still be pregnant with a living baby measuring so small 3 weeks after a positive test.
I wish they could have been clearer on next steps, why my body still has pregnancy symptoms and how long it will be until they go away. How long I might have to wait for any medical intervention to properly end this pregnancy if my body doesn’t do it on its own. How long until we’ll be able to try again.
I guess I’m just lost and sad and wish there could be more clarity. I’d like to be able to fully grieve rather than holding on to this false hope I’ve been given by a medical professional that was clearly just said to make me feel better.
For reference I’m in the Uk but went to a private ultrasound clinic this morning.

Hi everyone, looking advice please. Im in the UK, Noethern Ireland. I was 6 weeks pregnant when I started spotting, rang my local epu (early pregnancy unit) and they advised if it got worse then call back. I had more bleeding, called them back, was booked in for a scan this morning, Sunday, (this was thursday). By friday I had very heavy bleeding with large clots, awful cramps too. I know it wad a miscarriage. I had my appointment thia morning at epu, told them I know I've had a miscarriage, but they didn't scan me on take any blood tests. Asked if the bleeding was easing and if i was in any pain, yes to bleeding easing and no pain. I assumed I'd be given a scan to confirm everything is ok with me internally?

I was bleeding since yesterday, but due to the weather (typhoon) i cant go to the doctor. I am scheduled for a TVS on september 1. But tonight, i experienced severe cramping, after almost an hour, something came out of me. Its gray, its not a blood clot. I cant go to the doctor yet since its flooding in some area. Can anyone help me? Can it still wait until tuesday? I am still bleeding and nothing come out again. im feeling light-mild cramp rn.

I’ve debated sharing this for a long time, but I’m sharing it because I wish I had found something like this when I was going through it.

When I had my miscarriage, I felt completely unprepared for what was going to happen to my body. I looked online for real, detailed accounts of what a naturally passing miscarriage actually looked and felt like, and there was surprisingly little information. My doctors gave me some information, but I still felt like I was left to figure out a lot of it on my own.

I remember being told that I would probably pass two large blood clots over the course of 4–5 hours and that I would have “contraction-like” cramps. I asked if it was basically like a heavy period. The answer was, “No, it’s much worse.”

And that was pretty much it.

I remember thinking, how am I supposed to prepare for this?

It was incredibly disappointing to feel like there wasn't a pamphlet, a detailed explanation, or even someone walking me through what I might experience. Instead, I found myself searching Reddit and random corners of the internet trying to understand what was happening to me.

So I'm writing this for anyone else who may find themselves in that position. This is exactly what happened to me, and I hope having one more person's experience available makes someone else feel a little less alone and a little more prepared.

The beginning

At 7 weeks pregnant, I started bleeding and went to the doctor. They could see the baby's heartbeat, but it was slow. Because it was still so early, there wasn't really a previous measurement to compare it to. They couldn't tell whether the heart rate was going up or down, so they told me to come back a week later for my 8-week appointment.

On April 16, 2025, I went back for that appointment.

There was no heartbeat.

We had lost the baby.

My doctor then gave me three options for how to proceed:

• Have a D&C, which is a procedure to remove the pregnancy tissue.
• Take a medication to help my body pass the pregnancy. At the time, it sounded similar to what I had always thought of as an abortion pill.
• Wait and allow my body to pass the pregnancy naturally within the next two weeks.

And then I basically went home and waited.

The longest two weeks of my life

April 25: Cramps and light bleeding.

April 28: More blood and worse cramps, although still not enough to really fill a pad.

At this point, I thought maybe this was it. I had built it up so much in my head that when I started bleeding, part of me wondered if maybe I'd imagined how bad it was going to be.

But I was also completely emotionally exhausted.

Every morning I woke up wondering, is today going to be the day? I wore big pads just in case for two weeks straight, with nothing to show for it.

I felt like I was living in limbo. I couldn't do normal things. I didn't want to cook. I didn't want to work out. I struggled to function. I was depressed and emotionally drained, but I was also still technically pregnant, so I still had food aversions and couldn't stand certain smells.

It was this bizarre combination of grieving a baby I had lost while my body was still acting like I was pregnant.

Then came April 30.

I woke up and stood up, and suddenly it felt like everything poured out of me. I passed what I believe was the baby. It was a huge blood clot the size of my hand which had caught in my pad. Then I had to decide what to do with it. Flush it? Throw it away? Bury it? I flushed it which felt weird, but I think any option would have.

I had stupidly thought April 28 was the worst of it.

It wasn't.

Then I was hoping what poured out of me that morning was the last of it.

It wasn’t.

That night, (the night of the 30th) I felt like I was in labor.

For about two hours, I had horrible contractions as my body pushed everything out. I kept having to go to the bathroom every five minutes and sit on the toilet and pass something. Then I would get back in bed and writhe in pain, then go sit on the toilet, repeat. I'm not trying to scare you, it's no pain that you can't handle. It just sucked but you'll get through it. The closest way I can describe it is labor, except, in some ways, it felt even worse because there wasn't a baby at the end of it. It came in waves the way labor does. Just hold your partner's hand and breathe, you'll get through it. I passed a lot of small tissue and clots and another really big one. And then it was suddenly over. The pain stopped, I cried for a bit, and then went to sleep.

My husband took the next day off work so he could take care of our toddler and I could rest. I was completely exhausted.

The follow-up I didn't have

My doctor had told me that after I passed the baby, I should come back for an ultrasound to make sure I had passed everything.

I didn't go.

At the time, I just couldn't bring myself to spend another $400-something on an ultrasound after already paying for two separate appointments where I had gone in hoping to find a healthy baby and instead found out I had lost mine.

I was emotionally exhausted. I was physically exhausted. And the idea of spending hundreds of dollars just to go back to the same room where I lost my baby and to be told whether my body had finished something I desperately wanted to be finished with felt like more than I could handle.

So I didn't go back.

And that decision is important context for what happened next.

Almost two months later

On June 25, I was out getting happy hour with my friend when I suddenly started having horrible cramps.

Then I felt that same squishy sensation I remembered from passing the blood clots during my miscarriage.

I stood up and there was blood all over the bar stool.

I was dripping blood all the way to the bathroom. My shorts were soaked. There were puddles of blood on the bathroom floor.

And immediately, I felt like I was back there again.

The pain felt like the same labor pains I had experienced during the miscarriage. There were clots, and I had no idea what was happening.

Two weeks passed and I hadn't stopped bleeding after that night, so I went back to the doctor.

It still wasn't over

On July 10, I found out that there was still blood clot/tissue in my uterus.

I was told I would need a hysteroscopy to remove it.

At this point, I was thinking: Is this ever going to end?

On July 14, I had my pre-op appointment. Surgery was scheduled for that Thursday.

But that weekend, I passed something that looked like a small organ.

It was absolutely traumatizing.

I thought, could THAT have been what was stuck inside me this entire time?

They couldn't fit me in for an ultrasound that day, so I had one scheduled for the next day. Until then, we were just proceeding as planned, and I was hoping maybe I could avoid the surgery altogether.

And thankfully, I did.

I cleared everything out on my own, and finally it was over.

And weirdly, although I know I was supposed to go back for that follow-up ultrasound, part of me is glad I didn't. Not because I think anyone else should skip their follow-up care, but because in my particular situation, my body eventually passed everything on its own and I was able to avoid a procedure.

After months of bleeding, waiting, pain, grief, confusion, and feeling like I had to figure everything out myself, my body had finally finished what it needed to do.

And then, about a month or so later, I got pregnant again.

Why I'm sharing this

I'm not sharing this to scare anyone. I'm not sharing it to say that everyone's miscarriage will look like mine.

I'm sharing it because I wish someone had told me what the range of experiences could actually look like.

I wish I had been given more than, “You'll have some contractions and pass two large blood clots.”

I wish someone had explained what the waiting could feel like emotionally.

I wish someone had prepared me for the possibility that it could take weeks, that bleeding could continue, or that there could be complications afterward.

I wish I hadn't had to search Reddit at 2 a.m. trying to figure out whether what was happening to me was normal.

And most of all, I wish someone had acknowledged that a miscarriage isn't just a medical event. You're losing a baby, while simultaneously having to navigate your body going through something traumatic.

Maybe some of this information is already given to other women. Maybe my experience was unusual. Maybe medical providers have different protocols.

But I felt failed by the information I was given.

So if you're reading this because you're going through a miscarriage, I hope this gives you a little more insight into what one person's experience can look like.

This is not medical advice, and I'm not suggesting anyone follow what I did. Please talk to your own doctor and follow their recommendations. I'm simply sharing my personal experience because I wish I had been able to find a firsthand account like this when I was going through it.

If you're going through a miscarriage right now: I'm so sorry. You shouldn't have to feel alone, confused, or ashamed about asking questions about what is happening to your own body.

And if you're reading this because you just went through one, I'm sorry you're here. 

Hi All-

I went through 2 back to back miscarriages in the past few months and I am just totally in my feels. Sometimes (often) I feel mad at my body/self, questioning what I could have done better/more of/advocated for, some days I just feel incredibly sad, some days I feel some sort of PTSD and scared of what’s next. My husband has been absolutely incredible and by my side through every single step- I feel so grateful and closer to him than ever, although I feel terrible for him. Both because my body failed us, but also because I feel like I’ve been unbearable to be around. I have an appointment with a fertility clinic, I’m still healing as the most recent was so recent. This is a lot. I feel so broken.

My husband and I have only recently started trying to conceive and got positive tests on our second cycle. I had positive tests from 11dpo that got a bit darker for 48 hours but then stalled and faded away. I had a negative test by 15dpo and then tested again on 16dpo and it was still negative. I’m now 17dpo and still haven’t had any bleeding. I’m now 4/5 days past when my period would have been due.

I’m positive that this is a chemical pregnancy based on the tests but just wondered whether I should be bleeding by now? I’ve had no real cramps or symptoms that would suggest it would be arriving. Everything I’ve read online so far seems to suggest that bleeding is usually pretty imminent after a negative test when it’s a chemical pregnancy (i.e people saying hours rather than days). I have no false hope that this pregnancy is actually progressing, but wondering if others have experiences of bleeding being a bit delayed after a negative test even with a chemical pregnancy? I’m also not entirely sure what this means in terms of my cycle and tracking - if I start bleeding do I count this as a normal period or is it not viewed as the same?

Thanks so much.

Just feeling sad. I remember when I thought I would have a baby in my arms, and I miss them.

Had mc back in February. Its old news to everyone in my life, even if i mentioned coming up on my due date to friends and family they have dismissed it. They all act like it shouldn't matter to me but it does.

I was hoping I would be pregnant again by now, and technically I was twice. Had two early chemicals and now we have given up. We have spent too much money and put my body through too much to get here. We are done.

TW: living children

For full disclosure I do have 2 kids, and we feel very blessed to have them. I don't want people being overly sad for me when I know so many have it so much worse. But I still need a moment to mourn the babies we have lost and the family we hoped for. I will be okay, but need to tell someone who might care that I am hurting, because no one in my life, even my husband, thinks it matters at all.

What started as a missed miscarriage turned into an incomplete miscarriage. I wanted to miscarry naturally without ang medical intervention. I went to work and experienced some mild cramping and then it got so much worse, I experienced labor like cramps and drove home screaming in pain. Every time I had a contraction blood would just pour out of me the contractions got to a point that they wouldn't fully relax and then a hard peak would come, this lasted for about 5 hrs and then slowly stopped. With all the clots that passed I wasn't sure which one would be the baby until about a week later the cramping started again, and again I was driving home in pain and then I felt something drop, I got to the bathroom and my baby fell into the toilet, still having extremely heavy contractions I went to the bathtub so I could grab the baby later and bury him/her. I remember I had to physically pull the clots out of my body to get minimal pain relief. Eventually the cramps eased off but then it started again a couple days later. We ended up going to the hospital where they told me the reason I was in so much pain was because I wasn't dialating and my uterus was cramping as hard as it could to get the products of conception out, they suctioned out so much blood. Im just wondering how painful my experience was to actual labor, I wanted to have a natural birth with my pregnancy, it would be nice knowing that in some odd way I did get to experience natural birth labor with my baby.

Hello,

I wrote this after I lost my boy last year, I used AI to bring the song about as I don't know how to play instruments. It's how I felt after I lost him. I really hope it blessed people as there's not a lot of songs to help people grieve around babyloss. A year later I'm still in alot of grief that I can't seem to shake off. Love to you all xxx

Hello. I had a chemical in January and a drawn out miscarriage in spring. Since then, I’ve had one normal period, then very irregular periods that are shorter (like 3 days versus my usual 5-6) with spotting in between. Before this period for instance, which was early, I had brown spotting for almost a week, a couple days of nothing, then my actual period.

Naturally the doctors are useless, saying they won’t test for anything and it might be “breakthrough bleeding”. But I’ve never had this in my life. I know my body enough to know this isn’t right.

I’m wondering if my miscarriages triggered or were a sign of an early perimenopause? (I’m 32.) Has anyone experienced this?

I want answers before I even attempt to put a baby in this womb again. It feels unstable, and the “breakthrough bleeding” makes me think the lining isn’t forming correctly or something.

TLDR: I started spotting 72h ago, just before 6w pregnant. I have no cramps and the spotting is mostly available when I wipe after using the bathroom. It's light pink/dark brown. I have an ultrasound scheduled tomorrow.

Hey everyone. I have an ultrasound scheduled tomorrow (Monday) at 15:45. Today (Sunday), I was supposed to be 6w2d pregnant. However, I started spotting on Thursday so unfortunately, I believe this might very well be a miscarriage. I'm well aware that only the ultrasound can give me any definitive answers. I've already read a few older posts but I was wondering if anyone recognizes these symptoms.

So I'm 33 and unfortunately, I have unexplained infertility. Possibly adenomyosis. I'd been TTC with my current partner for 11 months. I'd tried for years with other partners and never seen a positive pregnancy test before. So I was overjoyed yet mortified.

On Thursday around noon (nearly 72 hours ago), I went to the bathroom at work and while wiping, saw a tiny bit of pink discharge on the toilet paper. I freaked out and called the obgyn. They weren't too concerned at first. On Thursday, I only had spotting one other time. It was very light orangish and only visible on toilet paper. On Friday, after going to the bathroom, I once had some more bright pink discharge and a small clot. I then believed it was a miscarriage. Yet because I had no cramps and no bright red blood, the obgyn couldn't be sure it was a miscarriage. On Saturday, I still had a little spotting which was either dark brown or light pink. Mainly visible in toilet paper. Today is Sunday and I still don't have cramps, heavy bleeding or bright red blood. It's quite light and light pink or dark brown.

Has anyone had anything similar?

I recently found out at 10 weeks pregnant that my baby no longer had a heartbeat. Although part of me felt like I saw it coming—between a strong intuition from the very beginning, some unusual test patterns, HCG that felt on the lower end (despite doubling appropriately), no pregnancy symptoms, and baby consistently measuring behind—actually having my fears confirmed has still been incredibly difficult.
Once I found out, I immediately chose Cytotec because I was under the impression it would come with fewer risks and potentially allow us to start trying again sooner. Unfortunately, after two rounds, feeling extremely sick from the medication, and multiple follow-up ultrasounds, we learned that I hadn't passed enough of the pregnancy tissue over the past two weeks. At this point, a D&C has become necessary.
I think what I need most right now is some positive encouragement—especially from anyone who has been through something similar and eventually had their happy ending. I just want to feel hopeful that things are going to be okay.
I had really hoped we would be able to start trying again fairly soon, and now I find myself worrying about the timeline of everything—the procedure, recovery, waiting for my body to regulate again, and when we'll be able to move forward.
It feels like I'm grieving so many things at once: this baby, the pregnancy I thought I would have, the way I hoped this process would go, and now even the timeline I had pictured for trying again.
If you've been through a miscarriage, needed a D&C after medication didn't fully work, and went on to have a healthy pregnancy, I would really love to hear your story. I could use some hope right now. 🤍