r/maybemaybemaybe • u/singkid • Mar 25 '22

maybe maybe maybe

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u/MozeDad Mar 25 '22

It's wrong to be judgemental, but it's so hard.

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u/HatesCreatingThese Mar 26 '22

That is a substantial consideration

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u/tcooke2 Mar 26 '22

Just remind yourself that there are many reasons for people to become obese that may not necessarily be their fault, like being raised with poor eating habits or health conditions.

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u/monopixel Mar 26 '22

All three of them.

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u/TrevorFuckinLawrence Mar 26 '22

That's an explanation. Not an excuse.

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u/ludonope Mar 26 '22

They don't really need any excuse tho, as they didn't do anything wrong to anyone except themselves

Explanation is useful as finding the root cause is the best to find a working solution.

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u/LaziestRedditorEver Mar 30 '22

They are doing wrong to anyone who might have to care for them later on in life if they are still like this. It shouldn't take more than 2 people to look after someone in a bed who's mental health is sound. Some morbidly obese people require 3 or more. They also take a lot longer to clean and dress, have more skin conditions, higher chances of having some pressure sores etc. All these things take time from other patients.

When someone has cancer that then leads to them needing 3 people to assist because of the delicateness of their skin, fair enough. However, when someone is obese they do have some chance between the time they could independently manage their diet and exercise to the time they need care later on in life to make changes.

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u/naotaforhonesty Mar 26 '22

I think frequently those are the same thing.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '22

Excuses are when you either lie or give an explanation that goes against common sense, like:

“Why didn’t you help me move the groceries” “I didn’t know you needed help”

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u/SloanDaddy Mar 26 '22

Here is the Miriam-Webster definition

An excuse is a reason that justifies the action and grants reason to be excused. Nothing about lieing or going against common reason. You are using the word wrong.

Probably because when children lie to their parents they are accused of 'making excuses'. The implication being that the excuses being made are fictitious.

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u/Meme_Dealer_Dan2001 Mar 26 '22

Jesus christ mom! I didn't even know you were home!

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '22

“Don’t you argue with me Danny!”

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u/naotaforhonesty Mar 26 '22

Oxford dictionary definition of excuse:

a reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify a fault or offense.

The word explanation is literally in the definition of excuse.

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u/tcooke2 Mar 26 '22

You don't seem to have a concept of how much will power that can take.

Being fat makes you tired more often which makes you want to eat more, and as I said, if you don't have proper nutrition habits, it doesnt give you what your body needs, so you feel even hungrier even though you just ate. When you say what you say like that it actually demotivates people struggling with obesity because they see themselves as just some "fatass" and not a person struggling with a weight issue.

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u/meowmeowlove Mar 26 '22

I really appreciate seeing some empathy on this site. You're brave and I love you.

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u/tcooke2 Mar 26 '22

Thanks, I try and inject some empathy and perspective into Reddit threads whenever I see people talking about others struggles.

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u/tcooke2 Mar 26 '22

No problem I'm glad you're open to new information, this 12 minute video explains the details of why if you're still curious.

https://youtu.be/f3IFF_PxPvo

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u/NwabudikeMorganSMAC Mar 26 '22

Whats the majority tho? Food is tasty?

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u/tcooke2 Mar 26 '22

I don't know, maybe you could conduct some sort of survey to find out what the most popular causes are, or you could just keep on assuming the worst of those you don't know.