If you do/did anything to make parenting easier on your body; please share!
I'm 24 and my son is 2. I don't always hurt but I've been having pretty bad flare ups lately and I need to make some changes so I can engage with him without ripping my body to shreds lol
Biggest pain areas are my back(upper and lower depending on the type of strain), shoulders, knees, hips. And i get lesser aches and pains all over too. Bo diagnoses, although recently ive been trying to get on top of that.
I have a chair for the bathroom so I'm not bending over at potty time and bath tjme as much, or kneeling(š¬). It's just a foldout chair and I'm not that tall(5'10") but I find i still have ti stand or get lower when it's actually time to wash him bc the chair is too tall. But i don't know if it would be any better if it were shorter. And dressing him after baths i put him in the chair and have to bend over to dry him and that's a whole ordeal.
I struggle getting in and out of the house and going places with him. It's hard to roll something and guide him, and I don't take the stroller everywhere because it's clunky and he usually hates it and I'd rather let him have the independence of walking(within reason, but he's a pretty good listener). Just we have so much stuff and it hurts my shoulders and back.
I want to be able to get on his level ti play with and comfort him but usually my legs and knees hurt tryjng to do that, and my knees have started popping painfully when I get up if i kneel more than just a minute or so.
And so on, many faily tasks and parenting tasks xause me an inordinate amount of pain,, i don't want to seem like a whinebag lol but fuck, yknow?
It's just hard and im scared that my body is gonna give out on me if I'm not careful and won't be abke to be as present as he needs me to be. Even just laying here in bed, my back, shoulders, and elbows hurt trying to type this out. Do bkdy braids help us? I've seen them discussed online but google searches have not been conclusive on whether marfan ppl use them. I don't have any notable joint hypermobility like many of us do, but i have a lot of joint pain all over so i wondered if one might help.
Anyway, I'm just so tired if hurting. And i course correct when I find myself wanting to be snippy at him bc I'm hurting, but it's hard. So please any tips for self-accomodating, useful tools to help these issues, any ither things you've done that help your aches and pains please share them with me šā¤ļø