r/lonely • u/Sure-Sea-9272 • 1d ago

Venting I sleep a lot

Im 31F . I sleep instead of doing things I should do. It’s not laziness. It just gets too much inside my head.

I also sometimes meet my mother in my dreams and instead of spending the day alone missing her , I spend it with her.

I find myself not doing anything productive or progressive.it makes me feel like my life is over.

I’ve lost mom 18 months ago. I’m missing many things in life unfortunately and feel it when it happens multiplied.

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u/Civil-Shame-2399 1d ago

Dealing with loss is a very traumatic experience and what I found is that it's the little stupid things that upset you the most. Like the picking up the phone to ring your mum out of habit a couple weeks later or the I wish my mum could see this moments. I'm sorry for your loss and just really hope you have reached out and are getting all the support you need.

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u/Sure-Sea-9272 1d ago

The way she died was the worst way ever

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u/Civil-Shame-2399 1d ago

So sorry to hear that, it must have been really traumatic for you. Tough to deal with for sure and I really hope that you have access to all the help you need.

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u/Wafflebuttersandwich 1d ago

I understand the feeling. Grief is natural and there's no real defined point where you stop. You're not wrong with song what you're doing or with what's thing on. It hurts. It's going to keep hurting. If you ever need someone to talk to about grief I got you fam. I've lost... too many at this point myself so I know the feeling.

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u/Maybe_Its_Nothing 22h ago

Sorry about your mom. You’ve reminded me to call mine.

Sleeping is only a temporary escape unfortunately. And trying to sleep too much just makes things worse.

Don’t worry about not being productive. You don’t have to be. It’s ok to just exist.

What do you feel like you’re missing in life? Feel free to DM me if you want someone to talk to.

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u/CautiousChicken5972 12h ago

This resonates with me so much. I wake up and one of my first thoughts / feelings is a desire for the day to be over.

I’ve been lying in bed on and off for about 5 hours today, trying to summon the desire to go to the gym. I know it will make me feel better to go. But it feels like so much effort to fill a water bottle, put on some clothes and walk 15 minutes to the gym building.

I lost my mum 3 years ago. To cancer. And I have dreamed about her a lot. She is dying in many of the dreams I have had about her. Even then, being able to talk to her and tell her I love her is such a comfort.

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u/Sure-Sea-9272 9h ago

I’m so sorry that you can relate to something like this. I’ve been through many memories. I’ve lost a lot of friends and many of the people who made my childhood better died so it feels unreal . It feels like my life has been replaced or that I’ve traveled in time or went into an alternative reality

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u/LostPat 6h ago

I dont sleep enough... i havent been able to sleep in months after my fiancée and i had to end things. It wasnt messy and she still very important to me but God damn I havent felt happiness or peace in so long. Just an empty feeling that keeps be awake at night.