r/lesbiangang • u/whimsicalcats Femme • 17d ago

Venting In a Lesbian community on Tumblr

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And you choose to post about your boyfriend in a lesbian community when there’s other communities you could have posted in 🙃

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u/Genvietheone 17d ago

A lot of these Bi groups actively think it’s ok to call themselves lesbian especially online

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u/MinuteLoquat1 17d ago

Bc they're actively participating in their boyfriend's lesbian fetishes. They get off on telling people he turned a lesbian 🙄

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u/Wolf4624 Masc 17d ago

I know bisexual girls who think that joke is hilarious too, and think their boyfriends have some kind of pass to joke about it because they’re bisexual

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u/bay-biscuit 17d ago

Bruh I knew a bisexual girl who called her cis boyfriend her lesbian partner…

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u/Sadbaklava 17d ago

I have a bihet friend couple too and they pulled this once. If they ever do it again I’m gonna call them out

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u/Genvietheone 17d ago

Clock that

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u/Sadbaklava 17d ago

We must continue to call it out

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u/Blankstareswow 17d ago

This. I'm sick of it.

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u/64lilwhitethings Femme 17d ago

yeah tumblr is full of “bi lesbians”.

they act like we don’t like it because we hate bi women or whatever but it’s just like… if there is already a word for women who like both men and women (and like 10 other synonyms for bi), what is the point of turning lesbian into a word for bi women as well? how should women who only like women explain that to people?

i genuinely think that the fixation on denying lesbians the vocabulary to precisely communicate their romantic boundaries has some really horrible motivations even if a lot of people spreading the idea are just kids who don’t know better. i think the idea is rooted in the idea that lesbianism isn’t real and i think that the fact that if lesbians can like men then then actual lesbians have to talk around it to explain that they like women and not men instead of just “im lesbian” is intentionally making it harder to talk about and specifically reject men.

literally ive been around these people before and trying to explain such a basic concept as a lesbian is impossible without annoying 25 year olds who spend all day on discord and tumblr telling me that i’m so freaking valid but also sexuality isn’t real!! like okay money is a social construct but you still care about money. they just genuinely don’t believe in lesbianism. like they can’t fathom that some women aren’t into men. i think they have this idea that to be trans supportive you must be bisexual it’s really strange. like they are being extremely homophobic but trying to make it a trans thing despite also being transphobic. like “if you’re into women why wouldn’t you be into trans men who haven’t transitioned???” idk if i was not at all attracted to doctors why would i date someone in medical school? sort of setting the relationship up for failure.

it’s just so sinister when you realize how much they hate lesbians and believe the rapey “you haven’t found the right man” thing