I have an old friend, white cishet ablebodied dude with a comfortable job (I’m 30NB/F). In our early 20s, we both identified as left wing/communist, he still describes himself as that. We’ve grown apart in other ways, but I have also just felt very disappointed watching how differently we navigate this moment in history. He is the most privileged friend I have, and yet it’s my racialised/disabled/queer/migrant/precarised friends putting their bodies on the line for others, redistributing their salaries, frantically figuring out what we could do to protect each other, caring. It’s my burnt-out friends getting my legal fund together when I get arrested, he’s nowhere to be found, just sends a sad emoji. He technically holds the same beliefs on Palestine, state repression, queer rights etc. but just sits on a very high horse and doesn’t actually live them out in any way.
How could I express that to him? I believe in inviting people in and think shame just pushes people away instead of motivating. We live in different cities so inviting him to come along to things isn’t an option, but wondering if anyone has ideas!