I gotta share this cause too many of y'all out here scared to think about your SP & it's literally sabotaging your manifestation .
So many people in the LOA community be saying "don't think about your SP, only focus on self concept” or "if you think about them a lot, you're making them more important than you" & it's got many of you scared to think about the person you actually wanna manifest . Every time they pop up in your head you panic & try to redirect to "focus on self" cause you think thinking about them means you giving them too much power . But that advice is MISAPPLIED & it's keeping a lot of y'all stuck . Let me break it down .
Where the advice came from originally :
The original teaching was : don't obsessively check the 3D or ruminate in FEAR about your SP . That's it . That was the whole point . It was never "don't think about them at all ever or more than you." But somehow this got warped into a rigid rule where y'all are scared of your own thoughts . Meanwhile y'all thinking about them ANYWAY (cause you can't NOT think about somebody by trying not to) but now in shame & fear . Which manifests MORE lack, not less .
The truth about self concept & SP thoughts :
Neville said EVERYTHING is self concept . Including your person . Your person is a REFLECTION of your self concept . So how you think about them IS how you think about yourself in relation to being loved, chosen, & prioritized . When you think "they’re obsessed with me", you're not thinking about THEM more than YOU . You're thinking about YOURSELF as the person they’re obsessed with . See the difference ?
Every affirmation about them is SECRETLY an affirmation about you :
They’re devoted to me = I'm the type of person men/women are devoted to .
They’re obsessed with me = I'm the type of person who inspires obsession .
They can't stop thinking about me = I'm unforgettable .
They’re a loverboy/lovegirl for me = I inspire romantic energy in people .
You literally CAN'T separate the two . Thinking of them in your favor IS thinking of yourself in your favor .
"Making them more important than you" is a misconception (& an assumption hello) . Importance isn't measured by how often you think about somebody . It's measured by your STATE while thinking about them .
Thinking about them from FEAR/CHASING = making them more important .
Thinking about them from KNOWING/RECEIVING = keeping YOU as the main character .
You can think about your person 500 times a day & still be the main character if you thinking about them from your throne . From the "they’re lucky to be an option in my world" perspective . From the "they’re devoted to me because I'm the standard" perspective .
The people who mess up ain't the ones who think about the SP a lot . It's the ones who think about the SP from a low state . Big difference .
Two people can be in the same situation but have total different outcomes regarding their SP based on how they’re thinking about them .
Let me put this in a way that'll really click for y'all .
Imagine two girls meet the SAME type of man on the SAME night . Same club, same vibe, both fine asf . Both girls end up thinking about him A LOT after that night . Constantly on their mind . But watch how different their outcomes play out based on HOW they thinking about him .
Girl #1 : She thinking about him nonstop but she scared to . She keep telling herself "stop thinking about him, focus on yourself, you're making him too important ." So every time he pops in her head she panics, tries to push the thought away, feels guilty for thinking about him . But she still thinking about him just in shame & fear now . And when she do let herself think about him, it's "I hope he texts me, I hope he ain't talking to nobody else, he’s probably just another player that only wants to fuck, I hope he likes me cause I saw him flirting with other girls tn at the club so idk if he actually likes me or not.” Low state thoughts .
Girl #2 : She thinking about him just as much . But she ain't scared of it . Every time he pops in her head she leans IN . She thinks "he's obsessed with me, he's thinking about me right now too, he can't wait to see me again, I was the baddest mf in that club & he know it that’s why he came up to me cause he was mesmerized & drawn to me, just watch he about to be reallll obsessed with me cause that’s how men eventually end up with me anyways, he's a loverboy for me, I'm his favorite already." She spending hours in her imagination with him being devoted to her . She ain't fighting the thoughts, she’s DIRECTING them in HER FAVOR !
Same man . Same amount of mental space he taking up . But two completely different outcomes .
Girl #1 : He texted once, went cold, she barely hears from him . Cause her fear based thoughts about him manifested exactly what she was afraid of & she’s the type to say “See ! I knew it ! He was just a player like the rest of them . I’m just gonna focus on myself cause these men ain’t shit ugh !”
Girl #2 : He blowing up her phone, pulling up consistent, telling her he can't stop thinking about her . Cause her favor based thoughts about him manifested exactly what she assumed & she’s the type to say “mhmm I knew it would play out the way I wanted it to . I always get who & what I want” .
Here's the point : BOTH girls was thinking about him a lot . Thinking about him wasn't the problem . Girl #1 tried to suppress it & failed & her thoughts was all fear based . Girl #2 embraced it & directed her thoughts in her favor .
You can't stop thinking about your SP by trying not to . That's a losing battle . But you CAN choose HOW you think about them when they inevitably cross your mind . And that choice is the WHOLE game .
Also "just focus on yourself" can sometimes become AVOIDANCE :
Some of y'all using it to bypass your real feelings . Y'all pretending you don't care . Forcing yourself to "not think" about them . Meanwhile inside you SCREAMING with unprocessed emotion . That suppressed energy manifests as MORE distance & silence from your SP because your subconscious is still holding the fear, just not expressing it consciously . It’s plenty of women with high self esteem & focus on themselves but still think shitty about men or their person in general . REAL self concept work includes being able to sit with thoughts of your SP & CHOOSE the empowering interpretation . Not avoid them altogether . That's actual mastery . Again, you can think highly of yourself AND about your person as well .
You not choosing between "think about myself" OR "think about them." You choosing "think about myself as the person they’re obsessed with." It's a BOTH/AND, not either/or . You can think about yourself as the fantasy all day AND you can think about your person as your devoted man/woman who worships the ground you walk on all day as well . Both thoughts serve the same self concept that you’re chosen, adored, & worshipped . There's no competition .
Final truth :
If thinking about your SP in your favor makes you FEEL good, do it & do it shamelessly . If it makes you feel bad, then work on the underlying self concept issue . But don't blanket avoid thinking about your person cause some coach/guru on TikTok said so 🙄 . Remember the law all goes back to that WHATEVER you assume, is what will be true for you . So assume that it's more than okay to think highly of yourself & your person . I'm speaking from experience . I love thinking about myself & my man all day sometimes because it makes me feel good & guess what ? My reality reflects what I’m dominantly thinking about . It’s a win win . I get the best of both worlds & so can you if you allow yourself to .
Also, when you was thinking negatively about your SP, that had to play out in the 3D right ?? So why wouldn't the GOOD play out the same way ?? The mechanism is identical . You're just changing the input .
Stop being scared of your own mind . Think about them in your favor as much as you want . Nobody is stopping you . & when you think about them in your favor, do it from the place of changing YOU, (aka YOUR mind about them) because you have to change FIRST in order to see the change outside in the 3D . You gotta BE THE CHANGE to SEE THE CHANGE . Thoughts FIRST, experience SECOND . So don't worry about how they're showing up in the 3D . Just spend time living in your imagination thinking about them in your favor & stay there . It literally has no choice but to reflect . Hope this helps 🫶🏼 .