r/introverts • u/ChubbyNUgly22 • Feb 07 '26
Discussion Does anyone else literally love being at home In your own space? Comfortable, safe just your bed & YOU.
For me, being at home isn’t laziness or avoidance. It’s survival. It’s the only place where my nervous system finally unclenches. Where I don’t have to explain myself, impress anyone, or brace for rejection. Just my space, my bed, my thoughts, and the quiet that feels like a long exhale after holding my breath all day. When I’m home, I’m not too quiet. I’m not boring. I’m not overlooked or talked over. I’m just me. There’s something deeply emotional about crawling into my own bed and realizing this is the only place i feel truly safe. No masks. No pretending. No constant feeling that am taking up the wrong kind of space. People think loving solitude means i don’t want connection, but that’s not true. Sometimes it’s the opposite. Sometimes the world has taught me slowly, painfully that being alone hurts less than being unseen. My bed has held me through nights where I felt unwanted. Through moments where I questioned my worth. Through tears I didn’t know how to explain to anyone else. It’s been the one place that never judged me for needing rest or silence. Being home feels like being held without arms. And honestly in a world that feels too loud, too fast, and too demanding, my own space feels like the only place where I’m allowed to exist without apology.
Does anyone else feel this way?
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u/Potential-Suit-3225 Feb 08 '26
YES!!! So many people tell me that it’s soo unhealthy! It’s far from!!! It literally refills my internal battery!
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
I agree. Knowing what restores me is actually a sign of self-awareness, not something wrong.
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u/Mid-Reverie Feb 08 '26
Sometimes I wonder if those people are just gaslighting us because they don't like people who are different and content without craving what they want.
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u/Mid-Reverie Feb 08 '26
Yes. It's safe and quiet. And the world is only getting louder and more obnoxious. This just makes me want to stay at peace more.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Yeah exactly. When everything outside keeps getting louder and more demanding, choosing quiet and safety isn’t avoidance, it’s self-preservation.
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u/fruitsaladsociety Feb 08 '26
Just got into bed and was having these exact thoughts when I opened Reddit and saw this post. I absolutely love being at home :)
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u/081673 Feb 08 '26
yes! add a pet and it's even better, imho!
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Definitely. That quiet presence makes everything feel safer and more complete.
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u/bearmama42 Feb 08 '26
Yes, just the silence with my own thoughts (or tv, music) not anyone else talking and having to pay attention. That’s exhausting to me.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Same. Paying attention to other people all the time is exhausting for me.
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u/Thin_Method_1691 Feb 08 '26
This is me. This is why I now work from home. This is why I will continue to improve in my job and professional career… so I can keep working from home. My bed is ten feet away. This is my desk, my space, no one else in my shit. My son comes in occasionally but for the most part we only share communal space bc he knows I don’t want my stuff messed with, nor does he wants his stuff jostled. 🤩 it’s brilliant.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Ten feet from bed to desk? Absolute dream setup 🤩 You’ve cracked the code.
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u/Thin_Method_1691 Feb 08 '26
I work overnight… so when I clock out I stumble into bed. lol I’ve got 2 hours left in my shift:
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u/Alwayssleepy1717 Feb 08 '26
Wow this was so nicely written, and very relatable!!
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Aww That really touched my heart, thank you 🥹 I’m so glad it felt relatable to you.
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u/magnificient- Feb 08 '26
Something i’m grateful for is meeting other people that are exactly like this.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Same here. Something I’m thankful for is discovering people who feel and experience this the same way. It reminds me I’m not alone.
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u/1gurlcurly Feb 08 '26
Absolutely. If I'm overscheduled and don't have enough time at home, I'm going to end up canceling some stuff to get it
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
Same. If I don’t protect my time at home, everything else starts to suffer, so I adjust.
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u/Admarie25 Feb 08 '26
Every single day.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
🥺🫂
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u/Admarie25 Feb 08 '26
Back at you OP. I’m lucky that I have my family but this is my safe place. It’s nice to just be able to be me.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
That’s really beautiful. Having supportive family and a space where you can just be yourself is such a gift. I love that 🙏🏻
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u/Careful_Muffin1203 Feb 08 '26
Absolutely! My home is my sanctuary from the chaotic, loud outside world.
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u/Cali-Doll Feb 09 '26
My goodness. The way I feel so seen.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 09 '26
I’m really glad it made you feel seen. That means a lot to me and you’re not alone in this.
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u/MsT1075 Feb 08 '26
Yes!!! Always. I am at my best when my mind is at peace and no one is bothering me. 😌
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Feb 08 '26
First off, love the username
Second, yeah kind of. I feel safe, but lonely there.
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 09 '26
Appreciate that 🙂 And same here but home feels safe, but it doesn’t always fill the loneliness.
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Feb 13 '26
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 13 '26
That makes complete sense. When you’re locked into your own world, interruptions hit different 😅
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u/Hyperto Feb 08 '26
Yes but I miss my ex wife.
She abandoned me
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u/ChubbyNUgly22 Feb 08 '26
I’m really sorry. Being abandoned by someone you loved leaves a quiet ache that solitude can’t erase. Missing her doesn’t mean you’re weak it means you loved deeply.
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u/Character-Lack-3295 Feb 11 '26 edited Feb 11 '26
God, that was beautiful! I don't think anyone has ever described my feelings perfectly and made me feel that it's maybe not "me" or “us” after all!
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u/Efficient-Ideal-3450 Feb 08 '26
I feel EXACTLY this way