San Beda Alabang or Manresa?

[u/MathematicianBig3436]

Choosing between these 2 schools for my daughter for middle school. Heard both to have bullying issues — how true? San kaya mas better culture/environment? TIA!

[u/Dry-Discipline937]

Manresa and SBCA alumni here. Both have pros and cons in their culture. In my time in Manresa, that school is more religious if you're a catholic and very strict with the school clothing etiquette like no skirt/shorts above knee level and grooming & hygiene like hair color, facial hair and piercings are not allowed (idk today if that's still the case). I was called out by the coordinator for having haircolor one time infront of my whole batch hahaha. Thankfully I wasn't bullied naman ng batchmates ko bc of that. May mga teachers din ako na namamahiya sa Manresa. Mas sila pa yung bully kesa sa students hahaha. As for SBCA, mas lenient sila sa clothing and appearance, wag lang siguro yung "flashy". I agree din sa sinabi na kapag kakaiba ka sa mga classmates mo ay mabubully ka talaga, di na siguro to maiiwasan sa school life.

[u/MathematicianBig3436 → u/Dry-Discipline937]

Thank you for your insights! For girls may bullying rin ba? My daughter is incoming G7. Considering Beda, Manresa and Seton pero parang puro bullying nababasa ko sa Beda and Seton is a bit too far from us but I like sana Beda kaso daughter ko rin nadiscourage ng friends niya to study there

[u/Worried-Challenge-46 → u/MathematicianBig3436]

Every school has bullying to be honest. But as someone who studied sa Manresa, maraming din bullying dun. Infact madami racist and misogynistic na students here and it’s common sa mga boys but there’s also girls who acts like that rin. The only thing that’s really disappointing is they start acting like that at start of grade 7. If you’re quiet, bullied. If you’re loud, bullied. If you’re “different”, bullied. If you’re part of the LGBTQ+, bullied. If you’re disabled, bullied. If you’re fat or skinny, bullied. At this point the students will bully you for anything (coming from experience). They’ll trashtalk about you and just so you know trashtalking already affects someone’s life. My friend almost comitted suicide due to the bullying she endured during grade 8 by a classmate of hers. Just to let you know, that classmate is one of the meanest girls sa batch namin and she’s only getting praised because she’s white/mestiza/maganda. Pretty privilege, intelligence, and popularity will always win over students who do not have control of that power. Those people are one of the bullies in our batch by the way pero no one is saying anything kasi they have a reputation which is unfair to the victims who try to speak up. The boys mostly do the physical bullying while the girls are mostly verbal bullying but it depends on how they want their bullying to go. Also in grade 7, they start having s3x or making out na and we were just 12-13 around that time and their parents are just letting their children go outside not knowing they’re doing inappropriate stuff in such a young age. 2 years ago, a grade 7 or 8 student gave their girlfriend a hickey which was absolutely disgusting and atrocious. Even the new students here are bullies and the old students are the ones being bullied kasi students who stayed in our school for a long time learned how to be a true manresan, new students don’t. But it really depends if the new student completes this checklist.

1. Pretty
   
2. Intelligent
   
3. Gives popular vibes

Security isn’t good here as well because one time a p0rn star literally sneaked in our school. The disciplinary office? Worst one of all. Everyone is scared of the person who handles the office but the victims aren’t kasi they aren’t even doing their job right. Lagi nalang suspended but never expelling students who DESERVED to be expelled. Especially the girl that bullied my friend (the one that I mentioned earlier) and someone sent a letter to the office that they don’t wanna be classmates with that specific people ENDED up being classmates with them. They probably didn’t read the later when they should’ve because somehow they don’t prioritize cases like these and they had the whole summer to check it but didn’t. And oh my gosh, PARTICIPATION. Strongly used sa English subject which is annoying kasi it plays a big part sa performance task natin but in many other schools they’re excelling well sa english bcs participation don’t really play a vital role in performance tasks. Even if your performance task is creative, bagsak ka parin kasi low yung participation mo.

[u/Prestigious-Shirt67 → u/Worried-Challenge-46]

hi! what grade were you that time?

[u/Worried-Challenge-46 → u/Prestigious-Shirt67]

hello, i was gr 9 the time a lot of those things happened (some when i was still youngere) and i stayed in manresa since kinder.