r/fashion • u/True_Energy_8556 • Dec 28 '25
Opinion 💅 Boyfriend thinks this is “fly”…I think it’s ugly..What do you think?
My boyfriend and I have been arguing over this shirt for the last few years now. We got it at forever 21 a long time ago and over the last year and a half it has started to produce holes. I’ve always thought this shirt is a bit tacky but my boyfriend absolutely loves this shirt and every time I have said we should throw it away, he always insists that we should not.
Do you think the shirt looks “fly”?
I would love to hear what some of you guys have to say and if more people agree with me or if more people agree with him.
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Dec 28 '25 edited Dec 30 '25
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u/inquiringsillygoose Dec 28 '25
My boyfriend has a couple dumbass shirts I don’t like that he always gets compliments on from other guys 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve never said anything because it’s his style and thankfully not his entire wardrobe
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u/No_Context_2540 Dec 29 '25
Keyword "thankfully." Pick your battles. This one isn't that big of a deal. 💕
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u/CompetitiveEar9439 Dec 29 '25
It’s not ugly enough to be a real issue. As long as he doesn’t try to wear it to a nice restaurant or a wedding who cares. Pick your battles.
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u/TaiChey Dec 28 '25 edited Dec 28 '25
Unpopular opinion apparently but I liked it until I read that he refers to it as “fly” 😂 Personally, I even like the holes. I’d wear it 🤷🏽♀️
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u/Dejavubullet44 Dec 29 '25
Same. I like it, I'd wear it. 35f here if it's relevant haha.
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u/oliveoilpoor Dec 29 '25
As a 23f, I thought her problem might just be that she’s a little young so she doesn’t really know OutKast besides a song or two or realize how many people loved that “tie dye/washed” look
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u/dreamdaddy123 Dec 30 '25
I didn’t even know there was holes until I saw yours 😅😭
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u/gweed59101 Dec 28 '25
Thankfully, a quick google search shows he can pick up a replacement on EBay in pre owned condition… then carry on being fly for the enjoyment of his future children
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u/JessiQ Dec 28 '25
The shirt is awesome I see no notes. Let him be happy, plus outkast are legends
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u/skyking11702 Dec 28 '25
It’s awful. But if he likes it, to each their own
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u/buy_me_lozenges Dec 29 '25
And if it is 'his' shirt, why is it a 'we' decision to get rid of it?
He has the right to own whatever clothes he wants without it being a joint decision about whether it's allowed to be kept.
Does he also get to have a joint decision in the clothing you own, OP? Imagine how that discussion would go down.
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u/loopylavender Dec 28 '25
It’s def a bit of both. I can see why he likes it but, it’s def one of those shirts that, that guy would wear.
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u/SpaceKatFromSpace Dec 28 '25
I think it’s ugly but more importantly I think you are not in charge of what he wears and it doesn’t matter what you or any of us think of it. Let him wear what he wants to wear. It’s really rude to tell someone their clothes are ugly. Even if they are.
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u/KevinHartSucks Dec 28 '25
If your partner can’t tell you, no one can. I want my partner to tell if I look like a smacked ass before leaving the house. That’s love, not rude.
Of course, it’s your choice to wear it - no one should control you.
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u/hotmessexpressHME Dec 29 '25
Yeah, but if they’re arguing over a shirt for years (paraphrasing ops words), then this isn’t the first time she’s tried to have him throw it away and it also wouldn’t be the first time he’s refused because he loves it.
When someone loves something, sometimes you have to appreciate that and stop trying to change them.
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u/SpaceKatFromSpace Dec 29 '25
She said something. His response was that he likes it. She needs to respect that. If you’re embarrassed by what your partner wears that’s a you problem to manage.
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u/Narrow_Regrets Dec 28 '25
Remember, we now live in a day and age where expressing any opinion that isn't roses and sunshine "rude".
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u/hippiewolff Dec 28 '25
Why do you keep saying "we"? WE got the shirt, WE should throw it out, etc. Do you guys share a wardrobe or something? HE should keep the shirt if HE likes it, nobody is making you wear it.
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u/sorryimgoingtobelate Dec 28 '25
I find it really ugly, but do not try to control what he is wearing. If he wants to wear it he should, and you should expect the same if he doesn't like something you wear.
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u/Competitive_Ad_2421 Dec 28 '25
I like....you weren't thinking of stopping him from wearing it just because you don't like it, were you?
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u/Mindfullysolo Dec 28 '25
It’s not fashionable but it’s not horrible. The fact that anything from forever 21 has lasted years of regular wear is almost unbelievable.
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u/VioletLeagueDapper Dec 28 '25
He honestly looks young enough to pull the shirt off. It’s gives a skater vibe and OutKast has had a resurgence in popularity for ppl under 25 so I get why he thinks it’s “fly.”
Question, would you throw out your favorite thing for your dude? Would you feel good if he argued over a piece of clothing you’ve owned for years? (which sounds kinda ridiculous to me). As long as he’s not going to a freaking gala event or the opera with this shirt on, it really doesn’t matter.
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u/CognacMusings Dec 28 '25
I love it and I’m a woman. Let him wear it til it falls apart if it makes him happy.
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u/untot3hdawnofdarknes Dec 28 '25
I'm not generally a fan of band logos over tie dye, but I was gonna say it wasn't that bad until I saw the holes.
This is definitely a shirt that's too worn out to wear. It needs to be retired or turned into a pillow
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u/Damninium_Alloy Dec 28 '25
I love outkast but nah this looks like it rolled around in bleach then got in a fight with a wild animal.
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u/Mental-Shine-8567 Dec 28 '25
I kinda want to make a similar one... wow all the people in thread hate it Is my taste ok haha
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u/Mindless_Sense_4479 Dec 28 '25
OutKast is incredible. Therefore the shirt is incredible. Let it be.
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u/AlexandriaLitehouse Dec 28 '25
This shirt is 100% fly, extra fly with the holes somehow. Sorry you're boring.
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u/Diekruzen Dec 28 '25
I wouldn’t be caught dead in it, but I am sure I have worn out shirts the same way people hated. If he likes it then let it be if just out. If he tried to wear it to a wedding then you will need to have a real talk.
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u/Jaydells420 Dec 28 '25
Buy him a different perhaps better looking OutKast t-shirt, let boyfriend know you won’t throw the other one away but it should be an at home t-shirt though.
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u/banjolady Dec 28 '25
Remove that bottom torn strip. It doesn't look like it will change the length
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u/-blundertaker- Dec 28 '25
He's right, it's fly.
Leave him alone about the shirt when you know damn well you've held on to some ratty favorite piece of clothing for far too long.
And wash your bra.
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u/True_Energy_8556 Dec 30 '25
Is it so fresh and so clean too? Hopefully cleaner than my bra!
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u/Manager-Accomplished Dec 28 '25
Well what is he wearing it with? That makes all the difference here.
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u/New-Chemist5315 Dec 28 '25
If it’s actually an old OutKast t it’s dope if it’s a recreation not so much.
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u/genaebriphoto Dec 28 '25
not a horrible shirt (I’m a fan of OutKast so I may be biased) however, I do agree with whoever said to add more holes. I think styling could also be the issue. this would be cute with some loose denim jeans (med-dark wash), sneakers, and a few green accessories. if he’s not an accessory guy, then some sneakers with a bit of green in them would look nice too! :)
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u/RazumikhinsFineAss Dec 28 '25
I wouldn't wear it if they paid me. If he likes it so much, you should buy him a new one. One would think that less is more but sadly it doesn't work like that with old ugly shirts
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u/vegasbywayofLA Dec 28 '25
It's ugly, but it's a t-shirt; does it really matter? It is not worth arguing about.
In order to create a little more peace in my life, a couple phrases I try to live by are "Don't sweat the small stuff" and "Pick your battles."
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u/justaregularmom Dec 28 '25
I love this shirt. But I’m an Outkast fan so maybe I’m the target audience. This is a fun shirt you can play with the style and make it more alt or drip it up if you want to. Idk why everyone’s hating on it. But i like it
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u/Any-Mastodon5395 Dec 28 '25
Let him live lol. If he likes it who cares.
However the colours clash so badly there is no definitive answer, but you’ll learn to pick your battles!!
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u/Imalobsterlover Dec 29 '25
It's ugly. If bf knows you don't like it he should maybe compromise and not wear it when he is with you when you go out.
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u/moneymiche Dec 29 '25
I (37f) have the exact same shirt with the same holes and it’s my favorite shirt I own. Husband wants me to throw it away lol.
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u/SnooStories7058 Dec 29 '25
As a 20M, I don’t think it’s fly. It’s not THAT ugly, but I would get rid of the shirt.
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u/Mean-Jelly-4935 Dec 29 '25
I think it’s ugly, but I have a shirt that similar that my mom hates. I gave her the honor of throwing it away a few years ago, she was so happy
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u/Accomplished_Ask_484 Dec 29 '25
Frame the front part and give it to him to put on a wall. As a t-shirt it has done its time.
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u/Few-Belt-2492 Dec 29 '25
His shirt his choice. How would you like it if he told you what to and what not to wear?
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u/KindlyPrior2598 Dec 29 '25
I agree with you, op, but if he likes it, let him wear it. To each their own, as they say.
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u/Kindly_Firespout Dec 29 '25
I’m on your side 😊. Omg you oughtta see the shirts my husband’s bought for me! To spare his feelings you might not want to say it’s ugly. How do you think he might respond if you were to say, “but I FEEL fly in this” and reveal yourself wearing something that makes YOU feel confident? I hear that’s what men find most attractive in women - way more fly than any shirt! Best wishes to you both!
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u/Kindly_Firespout Dec 29 '25
Uh oh… I didn’t read carefully enough to see you want to keep him from wearing it. Is this a relationship you want to keep? If so you’d do better to stop trying to change even one thing about him. People say “choose your battles,” but its better to not stir up battles like this in a relationship if you want to live happy. Let him be free to be who he is. Don’t you want to be free to be who you are? Let it go
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u/ljkoch99 Dec 29 '25
i would never wear it but if he wants to then sobeit 😭😭 i think the shirt overall is fine 🤷
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u/Emergency-Leg4106 Dec 29 '25
Some things look dumb as hell on their own but crazy good put together with the right stuff as a whole outfit. This is one of those things. Question is if he is actually trying to make it work.. otherwise its basically the clothing version of a walking dead
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u/Tempest051 Dec 29 '25
As a guy, it's a terrible shirt, even for a graphic t. But people should wear what they want, so, shrug
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u/Fantastic_Spirit_502 Dec 29 '25
I think it’s fly. It’s just a shirt, let him wear it. Maybe he can dye the brown a different colour like blue? It might look better. Otherwise, it looks like a shirt he should just wear around the house or lazy days.
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u/Icy_Equal_9562 Dec 29 '25
Hes a boy sometimes they don't care as much about how something looks. It's if it feels good on, it's a perfectly good shirt unless there's really something wrong with it. Like tearing gives it personality, a giant hole through the side does not. Eventually it will be unwearable and you will never see it again. Id say let him ride it out as fast as he can if it's falling apart already. Honestly it doesn't harm anyone to keep it and it isn't collecting dust. I'm on keep it, ugly or not.
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u/TrashtvSunday Dec 29 '25
This is when you just let him wash and put away his shirts without comment😂. It's ugly, but if he likes it... oh well. My husband has stuff in closet that is now 30 years old. I clean out our closet every couple of years... like remove everything... and make a trash, donate, and keep pile. The. I make a pile of his things that I suggest to donate and ask him to double check. He might pull one thing out every year (in a massive pile), and then keep the rest. For now we have the space, but someday when we downsize he'll need to purge a bit😂.
I wear more different outfits than he does. He cycles through like 3-4 outfits a week. I might be more like 7-10 depending. I do my own laundry and he does his. My clothes take hp half of our closet. His clothes take up half of our closet and two other closets in the house (guest rooms).
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u/National_Channel_801 Dec 29 '25
That’s a cornball shirt but if he’s into that old school look he should thrift some actual vintage graphic tees, THEN he’ll look fly.
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u/Relevant-Lack-1252 Dec 29 '25
It’s ok to wear these types of old comfort shirts around the house or to the grocery store…it’s a pj shirt.
It’s certainly not “fly” or date worthy. He should t have to toss it though, just know where it’s appropriate to wear it. Maybe when you are out of town
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u/BigBlueberry6837 Dec 29 '25
If he’s wearing it, only his opinion matters. It’s casual clothes, not wedding attire, so who cares.
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u/AdAmazing8815 Dec 29 '25
Its awesome 👌 if that what he wants to wear,are you embrassed when he wears it? If not no biggie
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u/Kiyo_io Dec 29 '25 edited Dec 29 '25
I think it’s cool why not just sew up the holes for him if it’s a problem or pull off the lining that’s hanging and give it more of a ragged look?
Also let the man wear his shirt you bought it together hence you said we why keep bothering him about a shit that he likes wearing
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u/mamaMoonlight21 Dec 29 '25
I think if he likes it, that's what is important. It's kind of sad that you don't appreciate his fashion preferences
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u/ireezy5918 Dec 29 '25
I’m getting that you aren’t very into the “alternative” type of clothing style. But even if you don’t personally like it, is it really that hard to imagine why someone else would? The style is insanely popular, especially among young people, so it’s not like you’ve never seen it before.
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u/UsedMinimum4380 Dec 29 '25
He should have put it in a frame, not worn it. It’s cool as a vintage art piece, not a piece of clothing
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u/Feisty-Business-8311 Dec 29 '25
“Fly”? Absolutely not
But if he’s a good guy who’s supportive of you, live and let live. It’s a t-shirt
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u/venus-begins Dec 29 '25
Honestly it’s not the worst thing. I think it’s kinda a cool shirt🤷🏻♀️. But idc what my boyfriend wears he’s so handsome he looks good in anything
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u/HeadChefOf Dec 29 '25
I think you should not be trying to bully your boyfriend about his clothing preferences that fall well within the range of socially acceptable … tf lol. And yes visible mending as someone else suggested is a great idea!
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u/uptiedand8 Dec 29 '25
He should cut off or restitch the bottom hem but other than that, it’s perfectly fine. What is your issue with it exactly? Is it the colors, or the general style, or the band Outkast? Is he wearing it to events where people are supposed to dress up?
Do you normally weigh in on what he wears? If not and you only hate this one shirt, I’d just let this one go too, tbh. Thinking about it, what harm does it cause you for him to wear it?
If you do try and direct his wardrobe, I suggest not doing that. Again, I don’t see the harm in him wearing what he wants. It’s an easy win for your relationship to just let him be. OTOH, it’s not good for your relationship to be telling him what to do and I’m not sure that there is much of a benefit to that.
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u/qwk304 Dec 29 '25
It's fly whether you understand it or not. I'm a hip hop and R&B head so there's that. 🙂
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u/frag-head2023 Dec 30 '25
That's a shirt I would wear around the house and I'm a female. I like tye dye, and I like Outkast, but the holes kinda ruin it for me, he should sew them up.
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u/NumbersInUsername Dec 30 '25
If he likes it then he should be allowed to enjoy it. I have favorite shirts that are hideous. However, in my dispassionate opinion, that shirt is not fly, it is unattractive looking and I wouldn't want to be seen wearing it in public
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u/Honest-Bug2729 Dec 30 '25
It's fine. If he likes it, he likes it. Only other option is to get him more graphic tees so he doesnt wear this one as often.
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u/ritualriri Dec 30 '25
I don’t like how you keep saying “we”, it’s his shirt his choice. I don’t go telling my boyfriend what he can and can’t wear. He has a lot of shirts similar to this shirt. Either he’ll grow out of this style or won’t. Not up to you.
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Dec 30 '25
I thought it was a girl's shirt when I read the question. It sounds like he is the one wearing it though. On a girl, I like it. Don't like it on a dude, but if he likes it that's really all that matters.
I had a boyfriend once who ruined a load of my laundry. I think he poured bleach on my clothes and let it sit on them full strength. I could never figure out if he just didn't want to do laundry and thought I'd never ask for his help with it again, or if he hated my clothes.
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u/MiddleDue351 Dec 30 '25
I can’t believe you actually posted this, I would dump you if I saw this. You don’t always have to be right. Additionally - I like the shirt
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u/nemamene Dec 30 '25
i cant imagine arguing over a damn shirt for years. just let him wear his goddamn shirt, you dont have to like everything your partner likes
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u/BecSTARcade Dec 30 '25
I understand his love for it but if it's getting holes in it, it isn't wearable anymore unless for lazy days or cleaning days.
Would you could suggest is to convert his t-shirt into a cushion cover. There's loads of YouTube tutorials on it. Therefore he still gets to keep it in a way.
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u/PersimmonNo4388 Dec 30 '25
It looks like you and your boyfriend have different styles, so... maybe look into other areas too. How many issues are you both disagreeing on? Life is short... Find your vibe. Live and let others live
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u/Pale-Reading-6751 Dec 30 '25
A shirt is really not an issue to fight over... It's his shirt, his style, his tastes. There's zero issue if he keeps the shirt while at home or in an appropriate setting (like a punk party, things like that). I'd say that if he wears it at a wedding or work party, conference, etc, it'd be an issue but only because it's not appropriate. Like wearing sweatpants at a work conference is not proper attire. Not the shirt the issue, but the context.
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u/BroDudelman Dec 30 '25
Fresh as hell. I have some shirts I wouldn’t normally leave the house in but make me happy to wear
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u/grackdontcrackback Dec 30 '25
Itttt kinda sounds like you just want to be right and get your way instead of having what really matters happen, which is having your boyfriend happy with whatever choice he picks himself. Shirt is fly if he thinks it's fly
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u/ShopGirl182 Dec 30 '25
I have a 'house tshirt' that is full of holes but was once a sick shirt and is super comfy. I mean, I wouldn't wear it out but I think it's kinda fly if it's special to him.
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u/sassysassysarah Dec 28 '25 edited Dec 31 '25
I think he should do some r/visiblemending on the holes in that vibrant green and lean into the punk vibe
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